I personally don't believe it's odd. Just not what would recommend if I were actually asked. My grown kids have never asked but know (or think I do) that have had premarital sex.

I don't desrespect those who choose to wait. Consenting adults can choose when and if to have sex (obviously). I just would recommend it. Especially, for religious reasons.

Is there a reason for this concept outside of religion? If so, I would like to know.

I think the old " marry a Virgin" ideology goes way back is mainly based on the idea that by marrying and bedding a virgin meant that the male can be assured that ANY off-spring produced are his off-spring and his alone, i.e. the archaic Macho thing.
My Evangelist next door neighbour, almost 55 years old and still single btw, has been seeking a ' Virgin wife' for the last 5 years that I know of, his excuse is that the Bible tells him that a man should ONLY ever marry a Virgin, so when I asked him once, Yes, a very unwise thing to do, actually ask a Believer ANY question, " What would be so bad about perhaps falling in love and marrying a Divorced Woman, don't they deserve to be loved as well?"
His reply, " Since they've already been married and had sex with a man the bible tells me that I can never be certain that it is MY seed that created our child and not that of her ex-husband."
FFS, that's as much as stupid an argument as some Pedigreed Dog Breeder use when a bitch of theirs has had a litter of cross-breed puppies, i.e. "You can NEVER be certain of the Lineage of any further litters of pups the bitch has, the sperm that caused those cross-breed pups is still inside of her."
Shit, anyone with half a brain and modicum of knowledge knows that sperm only survives within the female body for a maximum of 3-5 days after being deposited then it is no longer viable and absorbed into the female body as nutrients.
The old joke of; "Why is a Man who marries a Virgin like the Captain of the Starship Enterprise," comes to mind here; and the answer being, " Because he is boldly going where NO man has been before," always makes me laugh because I'd much rather make love to a woman who has had previous sexual experience than a pure novice any time, i.e. Only a complete and utter FOOL would try to ride an unbroken horse across country.

Times change. It has fallen out of fashion.

What is taboo for one person , is not necessarily so for another.Unless you are crippled by the guilt of religion.However, I respect the views of the individual .

I personally would not even consider marring someone I had not had sex with first. Although sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, it is a very big part of it. How do you know if you are compatible? and if you can keep your hands (and other bits) away from each other till the wedding day? What does that say about your desire for each other?

I set the monogamous relationship rule. I feel like a dying breed.

Mostly waiting until marriage for sex is something a man hates. Men want sex and it's the driving force in their lives. This is why a man will tell you anything to get sex and he also poisons the minds of your girlfriends. Do I want sex? Of course, but I'm not going to lie to you to get it. When I was younger I might have told you about the strange disease I have in which I will die if I do not get sex on a regular basis. Today I'm an honest man.

It's not taboo (to society in general). It can appear odd and still be respected. ?

When answering a question, it is generally a good idea to read and to understand the question. Very few of the people responding to this question seem to have done that. Given that we are meant to be a community of freethinkers many seem to have wanted to push their opinions on the questioner. If one is to be a freethinker they must respect freedom of thought in others, even if it is different to their own ideas. I think the answer is that waiting until marriage for sex is contrary to popular opinion, and it is odd to people because they want to fit in with popular opinion. I had, and have, sex whenever I can; but I still respect other's decisions to do differently.

The social contract with religious undetones isn't working for 50% of marriages anyways. Most sex is disappointing or overrated. What if you marry someone and the sex is TERRIBLE? Only young and idealistic people think that bad sex won't end a marriage.

I have no plans for marrying anyone anyway, so should I stay chaste till death?

I donno if it's taboo..I think people just question why is it a thing to begin with? What's the logic?

Exactly what kkgator said .
@kkgator

I waited until I was ready, but it had nothing to do with waiting for marriage -- first of all, what if you never get married or only do so later in life? Should you remain celebrate indefinitely? I've always wondered about that with people who believe in waiting for marriage, what do you do if a potential spouse doesn't show up... The alternative isn't rushing into sex if you're not ready, I really believe in being ready and for someone like me that may be taking time for one's self first... But to get back to your question, nothing "wrong" per se about waiting until marriage, just understanding that a lot of this came from antiquated religious ideas about "purity" and from a time when women didn't own or control their sexuality.

Marriage is a huge step, if one considers it a life-long commitment. Sex is far less daunting.

I suppose it depends on your view of sex.

Do you believe the catholic version that sex is purely for procreation and it is the wife's duty to submit to her husband?

Or do you believe that sex can be a beautiful union between two consenting adults that can bring great pleasure?

However, in either case, the choice should be yours only when you feel ready to commit to it.

Because it's no longer taboo.

Because if you want to only have sex with one person for the rest of your life wouldn't you want it to be someone you know you're compatible with? Would you buy a car without a test drive, and on top of that you've never driven any car? I'll respect someone's decision on something like this, but I'd also tell you it's a foolish decision if you ask.

Should be Respected... your call... your choices. A lot of people no longer respect marriage as a normal option so...

First off I question weather or not waiting is "so odd to people".. What gave you that idea? Secondly, I respect your right to do whatever the fuck you want, including fucking whoever, whenever you want. The big question is, do you respect people who reach a different conclusion? There are places today where people are killed by there own kin for unauthorized fooling around. This is rooted in religous dogma that I despise. in any of it's perverted forms.

Think about this. Unless you blog to the world what your genitals are doing how do I know if you deserve my respect. This should be a matter of self respect.

to whom is it odd? it is odd to some and not odd to others. it may seem odder to people who want to sleep with you (that's the general "you" and not necessarily you personally) because they don't want to wait and anything that thwarts their wishes is odd. it isn't actually anybody else's business. you are perhaps talking about society? there is no single thing called society. there are parts of it that don't care and parts of it that condone it and parts of it i suppose that condemn waiting, but i have not run into those last.

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I do not find it odd but i was never married but had lots of sex till last 2 years. I see no real point of marriage unless kids and lagacy