I've asked this once before and absolutely no one responded. How can we we work on our worst qualities without acknowledging them? My worst qualities are being too judgemental, too emotional (depression, anxiety), and I am not the sharpest tool in the shed. What are yours?
Well, I consider myself an expert on depression, as I spent at least 25 years in therapy for it! First off, you are making a 'bad character' judgement on something that is a brain disorder! It does have emotional components, because this is how our nervous system developed, at certain ages in our childhood and even that is connected to our brain! So, ask yourself, if you would be so judgemental, if you had diabetes? To start, you must give your body the support it needs... walking every day for 30-45 mins and get at least that much or more of sunshine. Weight training was excellent for me, as well! Get a good night's rest and eat mostly vegetables and fruits, some of which should be uncooked. And my thoughts about your statement of...'I am not the sharpest tool in the shed.' fits most people with depression! Because depression robs us of our value. When the depression is under control, we can take our talents and skills and put them to good use. When the depression is in full swing, we can't even remember if we ever had skills and talents. AND, there may be a few people around us, trying to remind us of what we have! But, it feels like 'water off a duck's back', we can't hear them! That is the NATURE of depression. Depression, is not OUR nature. Depression is a brain/nervous system condition that we must learn to cope with! Same as diabetes! If you need a therapist to help sort out your issues, don't hesitate! Depression is treatable, medication might even be recommended. This is not a character flaw and you need to 'know' the difference!
I procrastinate. I would have responded sooner, but, well, you know...
Ha!
I see what you did there!
Clever heathen you!
You can't.
I am very sarcastic, struggle with patience, and I sometimes go over the fine line between confidence and arrogance. I am extremely sharp which is both good and bad, one of the bad parts is depression and anxiety. While I have worked hard at developing a better filter, I sometimes disregard it. I keep working on becoming a better human.
We're all imperfect.
@shockwaverider -- Speak for yourself, dude.
Best wishes,
JC
@evidentialist LOL, oh perfect one...
@Stevil Sarcasm is awesome. If you use it to be an asshole most of the time, then you're an asshole.
I have a slight problem with patience. It goes from slight to extreme fire-breathing furious when dealing with stupid. Now, I do mean stupid. Ignorance, as long as it's not willful (equates with extreme stupidity), is fine. It can be fixed. Stupid, at least as I interpret and experience it, is a condition, perhaps terminal in nature. So, when confronted with stupid, I go into super Berserker mode, and I do mean the original source of the word. The first thoughts that enter my mind in such situations are, "Must save world. KILL the stupid," and, "Quick, where can hide bodies?" Fortunately, I have enough presence of mind to not carry my battle axe into public and have an efficient cooling system.
So you drink the urine of a highly intoxicated viking in order to become a killing machine?
@jayneonacobb -- Absolutely, and I take it straight with a wolf's blood chaser.
Why would we work on our worst attributes? I'd guess my greatest weakness is basketball. If I really focused and spent 6 months getting ready for tryouts, I still would not make a grade school team. So why waste time on the bad stuff? Work on the good stuff; make yourself really good at the stuff you're already good at. As to attributes like judgemental and emotional? They'll come along as you get really happy being good at the stuff you enjoy.
@Stevil That is counter to my experience. What I see are coaches who demand that athletes build on their strengths and ignore their weaknesses. Baseball pitchers never take batting practice except as a humorous distraction..
@Stevil I guess I am confused. Being one of several fielders is not like being a pitcher. In swimming, divers don't spend time or energy on relay team races. Car salesmen go to sales seminars, not transmission rebuilding school, and electricians focus on electrical, not on plumbing.
@Levi_Hinton OK, I understand what you are saying. I'd add this: If your concern is your emotional well-being and your being judgemental, the best cure for both, in my book, is to become recognized for your excellence at some specific skill or subject. The glow from that will shrink those other concerns.
@Stevil I understand the concept. I do believe in working on your strengths, which for a tennis player better be tennis. Working on his backhand is working on his tennis; way different than him working on his ballet because he has a weakness in dance.
My hygiene isn't the greatest admittedly. Also I ruminate on the haters and negativity in general when I could just be focusing on my friends who get me and positive things.
I tend to jump without looking,am impatient and don't suffer fools gladly. I've also got a hell of a time commiting to anything or anyone.
not a neat freak
too trusting
gullible
Working on all 3.
I don't know.
I suppose my worst quality is putting things off. Manana....
I don't suffer fools gladly
Uuummm, no, the question is, "why are these fools making me suffer?"
I have no patience with myself. I can be patient with others, but I'm smart and when l can't fix things fast enough, l get frustrated.
As I get older, I find I also have trouble sleeping, which may not be a character problem, but I'm even less patient when I'm tired, which is all the time.
I also have a bad habit of thinking faster than most folks, so I'll often finish their sentences.
Lack of self discipline. Slothful and messy. I run away from problems.
Are you describing yourself? I'm confused
You can’t work on them without acknowledgment. As for my worst qualities, I have no idea. I’m on my phone too much? Idk, you’d really have to ask someone else lol
I have a sharp tongue. Sarcasm is dished out free of charge, so a real bitch of a woman. But I am also smart, can hold my own in conversation and love people, men in particular. I am not working on changing anything. It's an attitude thing.
I'm a party animal and oggle girls too much. I drive like a maniac and dance like a fool. I consider these qualities among my best ! that's my problem !