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Is it harder for non-believers to find love?

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It depends on how tolerant you are to theists. If you choose to date non believers, the pool is smaller. I meet many people but they end being theists and/or trumpsters. I’m not going down either of those paths.


Absolutely! In my experience believers tend to begin relationships that they might not be fully confident in simply because they believe it is a "good match" i.e. pleasing to their church community or to god. Also, their dating pool is considerably larger to behind with. So we have fewer people to work with and higher standards; which has to translate to diminished opportunity.

Ambir Level 3 Nov 19, 2018

Unfortunately true


Yes. I believe it is. Our culture is so mired in religiosity that even those who identify as Christian but do not consider themselves religious distrust us heathens.

So true. I am shocked by many people who call themselves "Christians" or religious. And they are shocked that I am not!


It probably depends upon where you live.

sfvpool Level 7 Dec 26, 2018

Well, nonbelivers are less likely to delude themselves about things that aren't real. I am nto sayign love is nto real, because love is real. I am sayign that a lot of peopel delude themselves about the person they want to love, giving them (in their minds) attributes which are not real.

So, yes love is harder to find for nonbelievers, but when it is found, it is based more on realities than self delucions.

snytiger6 Level 8 Nov 19, 2018



For me as mature lady is difficult to find a romance with a mature man. Because of my expectations of a romantic relationship. Religious men approached to me but I don't have the patience to deal with their religion. So I'm still searching for that special human being.

How true

Hang on in there, girl! Don’t sell yourself short. It’s not worth it. Better to be alone on your own than alone with someone else!

After many years of searching I found that perfect love, the love of me!!!
This is what was missing in my search, Not knowing who I really am allowed me to compromise on some very bad decisions. Now I know what it is and perhaps will find it.


Real love or the type of love that last until we find the truth? AS an atheist a real love is one where we share our lives and have very similar values. Falling in love with a spiritual ideology is just temporary

EMC2 Level 7 Nov 28, 2018

Well yeah dating can be hard as a non believer , it all depends on where you are really. Smaller towns have less freethinkers I assume , bigger town will probably lead to better results.

I agree. I live in a small town. Majority of Life revolves around church and the local school


The dating pool is smaller so in my opinion, yes

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Nov 19, 2018

not everyone finds love via dating (much less a dating site). i didn't. i found it quite by accident!



I'm old so I haven't dated in a decade but when I was dating being married seemed to be bummer number one. Between my looks or lack thereof, the count of my teeth, the subject of my art, my habits including alcoholism, atheism barely made the top ten.

Gregory2 Level 4 Feb 8, 2019

I think it's harder to find someone compatible if you are a non-believer, critical thinker, introvert or cycling addict. Oh, wait. Is this why I'm still single?


No matter what they say, they're all non-believers.
If they really believed the Bible and obeyed it, they'd stone their kids for talking back, stone family members for picking up anything on Saturday, all the women would wear veils, not talk in church, and stay home obeying their husbands, LOL!

Also if "God" is really "controlling" everything, why should they lock their cars, pay insurance, or go to the doctor, since they wouldn't want to thwart "God's will."

Mostly, religious people attend church out of fear of hell, or disapproval. They feel forced to "love God" or they think they might burn in hell.


Many churches create opportunities for single people to meet and encourage relationships. Not sure if they find love, but it could happen. Non believers have to find their own way.


In my life, I have had a loving relationship with 7 men. Only 1 of them shared my view regarding religion. I think overcoming serious political differences would prove more difficult. I have never found myself falling for someone with a conservative point of view - no foundation for friendship there...

ledj Level 4 Dec 6, 2018

One thing usually follows another. I find religious men are also rather conservative / traditional men that would be turned off by a free thinker/ atheist or agnostic.


The love part is just like for everyone else. Depending on where you are, however, sometimes just finding each other can be a challenge.

The-Krzyz Level 7 Nov 26, 2018

From what I hear about the religious, I gather they have a much easier time to get married. Real love, though, that's different.

The best couple I know are unbelievers. Met as teens, never got married, two kids, happily growing old together.
A natural, beautiful connection between equals - unstained by superstitious nonsense and archaic gender-role brainrot.

MLinoge Level 7 Nov 26, 2018

Usually the church will help find a spouse for marriage. They rarely have to be unmarried for long


Nobody sends me love letters through this website

loudshirt Level 5 Nov 19, 2018

I think so there are alot less non believers then believers . Most religions teach people that non believers are evil and work for the devil so I believe that alot of non believers wouldn't date alot of non believers

but that's largely only America, and theocracies. Try the rest of the world where you are in a majority.


If your stuck on finding another non believer I’d say definitely yes especially here in Oklahoma as open atheist people are very rare.

Trajan61 Level 8 Dec 26, 2018

I'm in Central Florida for the winter and I just don't even bother! I'll be back in Chicago in the spring where every other vehicle on the road isn't a pickup truck with a "Jesus loves the NRA" bumpersticker.

@DeStijl I’ve never saw a Jesus loves the NRA bumper sticker and I’m a life member of the NRA and also an atheist.

@Trajan61 It's called sarcasm.

@DeStijl ??? Ok

@Trajan61 I am surrounded by Evangelical Christians for whom the most important things in their lives are Jesus and their guns. And probably their extremely jacked-up pickup trucks.

@DeStijl Not all of us pickup drivers and gun owners are religous nuts. Most of the religous people I know are not the pushy type, however the ones who are, are a pain in the ass.

@Trajan61 I saw this recently in Port Orange Florida and I deemed it a pickup truck unicorn---

@DeStijl ??? Yes I supposed you could call it that.


It depends on where you live. I live in a large, liberal, urban city with a large state university, so it's more unusual to find someone who is a practicing believer than it is to find someone who isn't. Or, if you meet someone here who says that they are Baptist, Catholic, whatever, they 1) haven't actually gone to church since they were kids; 2) only go to church on holidays to appease their families.


I don't think it's harder for non-believers to find love, REAL love anyway. I think many believers "fall in lust" with other believers("God brought us together!" ) but many such marriages eventually flounder because it wasn't based on true "love". So, I think it's just as difficult for believers to find true love as it is for non-believers. we non-believers tend to have our eyes open wider, with more realistic expectations in our search.


No...why would it be ?


I've always been a nonbeliever, from the very beginning, and I've never had trouble with the ladies smile001.gif Now that I'm married, they still want me. Seriously. If I were single, I know I'd have several dates lined up easily.

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