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Is it harder for non-believers to find love?

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It depends on how tolerant you are to theists. If you choose to date non believers, the pool is smaller. I meet many people but they end being theists and/or trumpsters. I’m not going down either of those paths.

Green_eyes Level 7 Nov 19, 2018
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Yes. I believe it is. Our culture is so mired in religiosity that even those who identify as Christian but do not consider themselves religious distrust us heathens.

cambrazell Level 2 Nov 19, 2018
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It has been in my experience. There have been some women who see me as a good potential partner up until we get to the matter of religion. Many religious people have been raised to believe that dating someone who is not religious is not ok. While I understand it can lead to some disputes and problems I don’t believe it’s impossible. I could care less what my significant other believes in so long as she is a good person who works to make this world a better place.

Luis_A Level 3 Nov 19, 2018
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Absolutely! In my experience believers tend to begin relationships that they might not be fully confident in simply because they believe it is a "good match" i.e. pleasing to their church community or to god. Also, their dating pool is considerably larger to behind with. So we have fewer people to work with and higher standards; which has to translate to diminished opportunity.

Ambir Level 3 Nov 19, 2018
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Unfortunately true

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Real love or the type of love that last until we find the truth? AS an atheist a real love is one where we share our lives and have very similar values. Falling in love with a spiritual ideology is just temporary

EMC2 Level 7 Nov 28, 2018
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Well, nonbelivers are less likely to delude themselves about things that aren't real. I am nto sayign love is nto real, because love is real. I am sayign that a lot of peopel delude themselves about the person they want to love, giving them (in their minds) attributes which are not real.

So, yes love is harder to find for nonbelievers, but when it is found, it is based more on realities than self delucions.

snytiger6 Level 8 Nov 19, 2018
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Agreed

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For me as mature lady is difficult to find a romance with a mature man. Because of my expectations of a romantic relationship. Religious men approached to me but I don't have the patience to deal with their religion. So I'm still searching for that special human being.

Cecilia2018 Level 4 Nov 19, 2018
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How true

Hang on in there, girl! Don’t sell yourself short. It’s not worth it. Better to be alone on your own than alone with someone else!

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Well yeah dating can be hard as a non believer , it all depends on where you are really. Smaller towns have less freethinkers I assume , bigger town will probably lead to better results.

MayFlowers Level 3 Nov 27, 2018
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The dating pool is smaller so in my opinion, yes

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Nov 19, 2018
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not everyone finds love via dating (much less a dating site). i didn't. i found it quite by accident!

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No...why would it be ?

Marionville Level 8 Nov 27, 2018
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The love part is just like for everyone else. Depending on where you are, however, sometimes just finding each other can be a challenge.

The-Krzyz Level 6 Nov 26, 2018
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No

JimMinassian Level 1 Nov 21, 2018
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it has always been hard for me to find love -- until i did, that is! but religion or lack thereof was never a issue at all. i suppose it depends on your life situation, where you live, what if any religious background you have, all that. i couldn't generalize. i doubt anyone is in a position to answer this question accurately other than for themselves.

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genessa Level 8 Nov 19, 2018
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I have never had a problem finding love due to my atheism.

Today nearly three-quarters of adult American men are obese or overweight (and 60 percent of women.) I want a fit, active man who shares my healthy lifestyle.

LiterateHiker Level 8 Nov 19, 2018
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Nah

Donotbelieve Level 8 Nov 19, 2018
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I've never gone without for any significant amount of time.

KissedbySun Level 7 Nov 19, 2018
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Nobody sends me love letters through this website

loudshirt Level 3 Nov 19, 2018
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In my life, I have had a loving relationship with 7 men. Only 1 of them shared my view regarding religion. I think overcoming serious political differences would prove more difficult. I have never found myself falling for someone with a conservative point of view - no foundation for friendship there...

ledj Level 4 Dec 6, 2018
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I don't think it's harder for non-believers to find love, REAL love anyway. I think many believers "fall in lust" with other believers("God brought us together!" ) but many such marriages eventually flounder because it wasn't based on true "love". So, I think it's just as difficult for believers to find true love as it is for non-believers. we non-believers tend to have our eyes open wider, with more realistic expectations in our search.

aintmisbehaven Level 5 Dec 5, 2018
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I've never had a problem in that area, but I'm a really open and honest person with the people I choose to be close with so they know what they're getting into. I also think it's s bit easier for straight lady atheists to find a partner with similar values as there are just more men that identify as atheist/agnostic. A bit unfair, to be sure, but true.

AbbieNormal Level 4 Dec 5, 2018
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One thing usually follows another. I find religious men are also rather conservative / traditional men that would be turned off by a free thinker/ atheist or agnostic.

Kojaksmom Level 8 Dec 5, 2018
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Can’t imagine why!

Geoffrey51 Level 7 Dec 1, 2018
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Yes. I can vouche for that.

MrControversy Level 6 Nov 27, 2018
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I've always been a nonbeliever, from the very beginning, and I've never had trouble with the ladies smile001.gif Now that I'm married, they still want me. Seriously. If I were single, I know I'd have several dates lined up easily.

celticagent Level 7 Nov 27, 2018
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From what I hear about the religious, I gather they have a much easier time to get married. Real love, though, that's different.

The best couple I know are unbelievers. Met as teens, never got married, two kids, happily growing old together.
A natural, beautiful connection between equals - unstained by superstitious nonsense and archaic gender-role brainrot.

MLinoge Level 5 Nov 26, 2018
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