I'm the sort of person who has trouble not saying what they think. It just rolls right off my tongue. That's not always a good thing. Learning to nod and grin would often be in my benefit, but I find it difficult to do.
How about you?
I used to work in a medical call center, our lines were recorded. Yeah, self censor is helpful. As a parent you also self censor, kids are little parrots!
Yes, very difficult. It is one of the reasons I avoided supervisory work for so long. It's difficult not to just say what I think and be direct about it. I am working on it because I want to continue to have influence over how clients are served and staff are treated.
Most of the time say what is on my mind, yet also I am careful and seek to do this in a way that is not offensive, not only for the sake of politeness, but also because the other side is much less likely to act in the direction I want if I manage to offend him/her.
of course i self-censor. i find the spoken language a treacherous thing to rely upon only. maybe it has to do with me not having grown up with english - dunno. depending on how important, how dear a person is to me i will make an effort to be understood. that's what i love about this medium: i can keep editing & rephrasing until i feel: yes, this is exactly what i want to convey. but direct contact has its own allure of course. i am lucky enough to never have to censor myself for survival reasons (saving relationship, job, political position...) any more.
Is against my nature to censor me. So a Fucker here and Asshole there will happen here often.
Some days are better then others. However I've stopped even trying to censor my self with flat earth believers. I've found it to be a good release. It's usually a string of course words like douche-pickle, twat-waffle, cock-nose, or dumb-ass-ball-chined-mother-fucker.
It’s something that took me years to learn. But up until a few years ago I would also say what was on my mind and it would get me in trouble more often than not. Now I restrain myself and rethink to be a little less direct and find a more positive way of getting my point across. I will say it’s not necessarily the best idea to leave things unsaid. But it needs to be said in a tactful way.
The only time I tend to do it is at work. I do not care what others think outside of my job and I act accordingly.
People are strong willed and will think and feel whatever they do regardless of what anyone else says. Generally I shake my head and walk away if it's too ridiculous. I don't like to fight and if people are already shooting off about some nonsense they are likely more excitable than I care to handle. I have no interest in stirring it up so no worries, no real problem keeping my mouth shut most of the time. It comes down to weighing just how much danger a person is in with what they say. Will someone die if I ignore it? Will they be injured? Will the topic at hand being challenged or left alone make any real difference? If no, then it isn't worth my time or effort to get into it. I reserve that for damage control alone.
I have the opposite issue, ie. I've had a doctor say to me, "You're awfully quiet. Help me out."
I those moments when I stop caring I do the same thing, I just speak and whatever comes out comes out. I then spend some time questioning why I said what I did, or sometimes it is just the way I have said something that comes across the wrong way, nothing I can do about it except try and learn from mistakes
All the time.
I'm not super profane but I cuss enough to offend the occasional prude. In a setting like this I keep it to a minimum. On other sites were I participate, cursing is much more common and accepted, but even there, I don't become egregious with it.
I'm pretty good at giving people the benefit of the doubt and being gentle with them but sometimes I am so weary of bad thinking and getting crankier as I age, and I let 'em have it. I don't often regret doing so. It usually takes quite a bit of Stoopid to set me off, even now.