I'm the sort of person who has trouble not saying what they think. It just rolls right off my tongue. That's not always a good thing. Learning to nod and grin would often be in my benefit, but I find it difficult to do.
How about you?
With adults, almost never, which regularly gets me into situations where people are "offended" because I just said what I think about e.g. Jesus or Mohammed or because I just said "fucking hell" or both.
Luckily I tend to live in places where currently one does not get arrested or flogged for that, but I would probably already have been killed if it was 200 years ago in the same place or even these days in Saudi Arabia.
I self-censor too much, actually. I've long felt that learning to nod and grin was the tactful way to be, but I know now that it disagreements can be expressed honestly, as long as it's done in a respectful and rational way.
I used to work in a medical call center, our lines were recorded. Yeah, self censor is helpful. As a parent you also self censor, kids are little parrots!
Hahaha! This is funny. I was out with a friend tonight and were talking about this very thing. I really have almost no filter. People have literally said about me that you just never know what I might say. Sometimes I think back on things I've said and really feel a little embarrassed by how inappropriate I can be.
Yup, I tend to say what I mean, but that's not always good.
Luckily, I'm living in Thailand, so it's easier to keep quiet...I'm not fluent enough in Thai to rant.
But if I'm really ticked off, say, at some Thai man man-spreading into my seat space on a crowded bus, I yell in languages he doesn't know, such as Creole, or English, to be safe.
One (high?) Thai man kept toppling sideways into me on a songtheaw bus, as though by accident, groping at me, and I gave him a hard shove, setting him upright while yelling in English, "Stop leaning on me. Sit up!"
A Thai woman indicated a place next to her, so I changed seats, but the man complained loudly in Thai the rest of the trip about people speaking in English so he couldn't understand, and why didn't I speak in Thai like everyone else, etc. The rest of the bus passengers were Thai women, and they ignored him.
Hundreds of times a day on all issues, I see it as my way of being kind, I am not argumentative by nature and if the matter/issue is not of any importance, I just gloss over it.
Luckily I don't take any great notice because some of the things I ignore are just ridiculous.
I'm a self censor machine. I hate making waves, so I try to get along with everyone.
I work in an environment that prohibits me from using my farm boy vernacular. I wish I worked elsewhere.?
Same here, I lack a filter system. Trying to be more diplomatic in a very pre programed world. Still honestly is the best policy.
From the number of complaints I've heard about over posting on agnostic.com, obviously not enough lol. I really never self-censor and that's only a problem later . . . If I turn out to be wrong. Usually makes for a fun life. My friend's don't know what I'll say or do next and neither do I. Never boring, anyway.
I just say whatever is on my mind because I want to be just as surprised as everybody else what comes out.
I would say a fair amount but I think some people at work might disagree. They used to ask me questions about things but half the time they'll say "NO! I don't want to know" before I can answer. i just laugh.
The only time I tend to do it is at work. I do not care what others think outside of my job and I act accordingly.
Yes, very difficult. It is one of the reasons I avoided supervisory work for so long. It's difficult not to just say what I think and be direct about it. I am working on it because I want to continue to have influence over how clients are served and staff are treated.