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How do you deal with people who like to argue?

EmeraldJewel 7 Dec 16
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I don't. I turn around and walk away.

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Say: Nice that you think this way and walk away.

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Laugh generally. It takes 2 people to argue so if I don't engage with them they can't do much

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In real life or virtual?

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I memorize a lot of "fun facts" really off the wall kind of stuff. When someone starts to argue with me I tell them the weirdest one I can think of and usually it changes the subject or shuts them up long enough for me to walk away

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Walk away. There is nothing that they hate more. Shut off their oxygen, the longer you engage with them the more they like it...so don’t give them that satisfaction.

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Lol I have a really good friend like this, and I usually just feed wood to the fire. He gets super into it and I just laugh, watch and enjoy our shit show ?

@Renickulous He definitely is

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I listen to what they have to say, refute any misinformation they may have and find common ground with them on the parts that we do agree on. Lather, rinse, repeat until either they and I are on the same page, they exhaust themselves, or they walk away frustrated that they couldn't get the typical reaction that they expected, which is that they will browbeat someone into walking away so they can feel like they "won" the argument. It's really nice when you can turn an argument into a discussion and it makes dealing with them much more reasonable in the future because they know you won't just blow them off and disrespect their views by shutting down or trying to shut them down. In other words, sometimes they just need to be heard. What many take as argumentative is usually frustration from not being given the respect of being heard, as if their opinions are somehow less valid than everyone else's. Nothing like water to take the heat out of fire.

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No one can keep an argument going by themselves... I refuse to be on the other side of their volley net !

Also - it's good to be clear whether it's a pointless argument, or a civil, and potentially useful debate.

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I let them ramble on with their statistics and research while I enjoy looking at clouds blowing by.

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I won't waste my time and energy arguing with people.

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I leave them in the dust.

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Depends on the person.

If they are remotely receptive to facts and reason, I will bombard them with facts and arguments that demolish their baseless assertions.

If they are hard core (head implanted in their ass) theists/tRump support that does not value truth (based on facts) or reason and continue to blather nonsense in spite of being demonstrated in error, with logically sound arguments supported by evidence - I have found it is best to ghost them.

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I walk away. Through online dating, I met a man who loved to argue. He thought it was fun. I dumped his combative, contrary ass.

I want a kind, respectful man, not someone who enjoys upsetting me.

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I won't indulge arguers. I used to be one and it is just exhausting trying to be right all the time. ? I came across a saying that I try to live by "I would rather be happy than right?

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Argue about what? Is there any validity to their argument? Or are they like the paid contrarian in the old Monty Python sketch?

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Don’t start what we’re compelled to finish.

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Ignore them, I prefer a debate of intellectual stimulation. If someone wants to argue especially when curse words start to fly I get more tight-lipped.

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Dont talk to them...

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Shut down and avoid. I get zero pleasure from arguing.

Zster Level 8 Dec 16, 2018
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I enjoy a good exchange of opinions, but not an argument. After one marriage in which my ex-wife would turn anything into an abusive argument, I refuse to argue in most instances. It gets you nowhere. I either tell the person, what my stance is and follow with , "I will not argue with you." Or, I simply shrug and walk away. If the person is being somewhat abusive, I may add zinger like, "One cannot reason with an irrational person."

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I use my leadership skills: I listen, identify the problem, and work on resolving the issue. No matter how little the problem. Or I'll try my best.

(Depending on the issue, and how it affects me directly, of course.) Otherwise, I might have to channel out my ninja skills. Know what I mean, Gene? Hehehe... kidding on the last part. Maybe????

Chronic arguers are not interested in solving a problem they are interested in expressing their own disturbed emotions

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It depends on the topic and how well the other side's argument is constructed. I hate arguing with stupid people. But with someone reasonably intelligent, making a reasonable argument, I often enjoy them.

P.S. I think I am one of those. People who like to argue. But I want to argue well, not make declaratory statements and dumb personal attacks (but I do have to admit that I have done them too....)

@KenChang Ditto!

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Try and avoid contact with them.

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It takes two(or more) to argue, so if you don't want to argue then don't argue.

When living with others it does not always work that way. "He just won't stop. He follows me all over the house. He won't shut up,....."

This is not an easy issue.

Plus, one person’s argument is another’s discussion.

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