(That one ex you were in love with that broke your heart, or a best friend you had, that you had a fight with and never spoke to again, but miss them)
If you remember the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, they were poised to meet again. Our history is what helps us make better choices in the future. Yeah, there are some relationships I kinda wish I never had, but they taught me a good lesson. I don't do long distance because the long distance relationship I had ended so horribly. I engaged in some high risk behavior for a while and definitely learned some lessons from that. Can't change your history, just learn from it and move on.
I have a few relationships that ended because of situations outside of our control...so meeting them now would be good, but it would end the same way if we did a rewind...for all the craziness in my life, I wouldn't change a thing...for good or ill...
Yes, I would. After I was divorced I met this man that made me laugh, was very caring and thoughtful. I just loved doing anything with him. When he was much younger he fooled around with drugs (not just pot). He was up front with me about it, but he also told me he had been over it for years. Two and half years into our relationship he came clean with me and told me he was doing cocaine again. He told me even though he loved me he love cocaine more. Broke my heart and even though it has been many years I still haven't gotten over him.
I will pass because it will negate all the good things that happened with others... you know the what if. I take my loss. No biggie. No heart broken... no fall out. It is life at it's best... Ups and Downs. It is All Good and Gravy. I don't want the chance to change anything.
I would go back to my first boyfriend. He and I had a closeted relationship due to the area we lived in, but I could have done so much more to foster this relationship but I did not. I always hated myself for not allowing me to be affectionate or allowing him to be affectionate with me. I would redo that and although it may still end I would not be feeling the pain of those memories now in my advancing age.
The one person I would like to start over with wasn't anyone I had a relationship.
I was driving a delivery van, and stopped at a convenience store en route for lunch every day. I was insecure and self conscious.
Diane worked in the convenience store. She was beautiful, friendly, and intelligent. I assumed she was really nice to me because she was nice by nature which she obviously was, and because I was a paying customer, she was required to be.
It wasn't until my last week on the job, when I told her I was quitting, and she suggested that we should meet somewhere when we weren't working. She said that she liked me and hoped I would ask her out.
I was heartbroken. I had no idea that a young woman like Diane would be interested in me. I had to tell her that I had to quit my job because I was leaving for basic training.
She's the only woman, I would wish to start over with.