Checking their phone the whole time. Chewing with their mouth open. Shoplifting. (Sigh...wish I didnt have to put that one on there)

At dinner at a nice restaurant if he is rude to wait staff it is a HUGE red flag. If he is a poor tipper that is another red flag. Bad grammar is not necessarily a red flag but I am a grammar nazi, so I'd probably end up cringing and withdrawing. Praising DJT would end the date. Does he listen to me, or is he waiting to talk?

The last couple of guys I dated mentioned negative things their exes accused them of, such as, not listening, being self absorbed, or always flirting with other women, which all turned out to be true. If you really listen to people, most of them will talk, talk, talk, and somewhere in there is the absolute truth!

My pet peeves are when they don't leave their children locked int he car. Seriously how are we to get to know each other if their kid keeps crying at the table? Golden Coral is a classy place and we aint need a crying baby at the table. Leave it in the car so that we can get to know each other and share the chocolate fountain together!

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Bringing their husband with them. Calling me a loser more than twice. Pepper spraying me. Asking me for money.

Smoking. I’ll look past everything else

My biggest one is the inability to carry on a conversation. If you can't carry at least your side of a conversation, what is the point of meeting with another human?

Checking cell phone, checking out other people, making it obvious they don't like what I ordered for myself, caught up in materialism, acting stupid.

Just a few.

Scratching his genitals....

Are they on time? How do they treat wait staff, cashiers, etc? Hygiene, good or not? Manners? Body language (are they physically closing off or open, eye contact, fiddling, overly attached to electronics, smile actually genuine or just the polite "how much longer" smile)? Does the real person compare to written communication/photos?

Had a guy who treated wait staff like crap, no 2nd date there. Had another guy say he did not drink, was a "former alcoholic" & proceeded to have his 3rd bourbon with his entree saying, "this is nothing. I used to be really bad". No 2nd date there either.

Another lifetime ago I was crestfallen to have dinner with a longtime crush visiting from out of town when he decided while we were having sushi to blow his nose at the table. The halo was off after that He had long presented himself as a quiet, superior intellilectual and here he was doing this no class MFr thing.

Not actually talking, no conversation flow.

Peevish people.

I like to spend some quality phone time first - as many of the simple put-offs can be revealed with the right questions, then the rest needn't happen at all .
Checking their phone, ripe and obvious odors, bad teeth are some of my reasons for no second date ...

I hate having to hear just how mad she is at her ex....and the complete list of why. Tying my stomach up in knots is the opposite of alluring.

Talking incessantly on their phone. Rudeness towards others. Chewing with their mouth open...(thanks Ersomething). Stiffing me with the bill (that actually happened). Poor tipper, or finds a reason not to tip. Asking my bra size and stand up so he can judge my behind. You really can't make this stuff up.

I say this a lot I guess I'm just a very accepting person but to me there's not that many deal breakers. If you don't get falling down drunk or smoke crack if you're not a habitual liar or maybe a shoplifter too. I can work with a lot of the little stuff. If she has the good qualities I want I don't care if she chews with her mouth open or little things like that. If she smokes or has tattoos, She could like Donald Trump I don't care if she's nice, honest, accepting, and not judgemental and uptight. Working out the details is the fun part of getting to know each other. I'm sure I will not seem absolutely perfect either. I don't want to feel like I'm filling out a credit application to go on a date with someone. Focus on the good stuff have fun just because you date someone doesn't mean you're gonna grow old together. Don't take everything so seriously.

Hygene! Bad breatha nd body odor are the worst. Next, being boring. Having nothing to say, no interests. The other extreme is the egotist/narcissist.

I went out with a woman who explained that she didn't have to work because she got child support for two kids, and you get a lot more support if your kids have different dads. She also casually mentioned that she doesn't like condoms. That was our second/ final date.

Bad table manners including taking calls or text messages, but talking with a mouth full of food puts me right off.I have refused to have sex with a woman after a date purely because she was a racist, ok, she also ate like a pig.

Well this applies to anyone, but on a first date it is a deal breaker. Before I speak, I try to make sure I have something to say. You want to talk over me? Once, ok, that's a Mulligan. Twice? Three times? All the time? Keep talking, I'll just wait for this date to end and never call you again.

Ihate when I have to start explaining things to someone, defining words, telling them what the food is on the menu- being under exposed to life is a turnoff

For me there are two things that put me off instantly, one is checking there phone and the other is being rude to anyone, both of those turn me off the person.

Two things that have actually made me end the first date, absolutely certain that there wasn't going to be a second.

"I don't care that you're a man in a dress. I'll go with anyone, me." So why did I waste my time getting ready?

The one who asked to borrow my phone because his was out of credit, and proceeded to make several lengthy calls on it while I sat there like a lemon, without even my phone to keep myself busy.

I might have gone on a second date with either, were it not for these things. Probably not, though. There were other warning signs, but these were the deal breakers.

I don't mind talking about exes as long as it doesn't take over the conversation. It's good to get a bit of background on why their past relationships haven't worked out.

Condescending or pretentious.
Eats too loudly
Talks too loudly
Gets suggestive on the first date
Can't read if I'm wanting to be touched or not (spoiler alert 90% of the time I don't, but they always try to get to at least 2nd base)