1. I would not be sitting in church being annoyed by stupid questions.
2. Ohferpetessake

Eye roll.
Then slip out to go to the bathroom and don't go back.
Run.

"Are you really that stupid?" And walk away

Love is so overrated... There is a lot of happiness without love. The stupid Disney fairy tales have sold us that shit from early on for generations. It amazing how many grown ups still have the Cinderella syndrome. There are only some men who are prince-like and only some women beautiful. But we all have to pay our bills and wake up to reality every day. Snap out of this.

True love means a different thing to each person who contemplates the concept. What does a god have to do with it?

How about "That's your spin, based on your biased point of view., or "On your assumptions.?" Not that you would get up in the church and say it out loud.
I once wrote a letter to Minister whose sign outside his church said, essentially, "God does not care how you manage to spread His message!" I wrote to him that this would have fit, very nicely, into the perspective of the World Trade attackers, and that he needs to apologize to his congregation, and the community. I closed by saying that I would not put my name on the letter, because if he really believes what he wrote, I would not feel safe letting him know who I was.
If...you decide to "come out," you might write to tell him that this imbecility helped you to get to that point.

I would say you cannot have true, unmitigated, compassionate love WITH god. Read the OT. Where is the love in that???

To people I don't want to argue with: There are many types of love.

To people telling me that I don't care about: What do you mean? What about a mother's or father's natural love for there children. I would tell them stories about children that I saw that were dreadfully abused by people that claim to love the Lord. Animals even have some basic emotions: why does the mother loin guard her young risk her own life. Does the mother lion behavior not real without love..

Probably with a scoff or giggle or by making a face like they are crazy.... if the person is not unhinged or aggressive or violent... I may actually say something like and what of all of the religious people that never had true love and were psychopaths/sociopaths/narcissists? Somehow they had this god belief, yet held no love for others.

Not according to 1st. Corinthians chapter 13.

Which essentially says that you cannot serve God, if you do not have love. In that chapter, love comes before everything else. Even before faith in God.

That is, God is not real without love.

Not that I believe in either as something supernatural.

Yes I can.

If you still have to go to church, might I suggest that you "volunteer" to help out in the nursery during service if that's available.

Ok Whatever

i think i would laugh. who would say that except an idiot? but if you can't laugh in church, and for whatever reason you feel you must attend, then i would stifle a giggle and think about... well, food, maybe.

no, there is no effective verbal response to that because it's so ridiculous. a laugh would be the MOST appropriate response, if you were not in a stifling environment that forbade that.

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How would you respond to "You can't have true love without God"?

Well just give me a heaping helping of sex then.

hasn't been a problem to date for me . Gd on the other hand - when asked to show up and show his love . . once again he's missing in action (sorry inaction lol)

According to this article; [divorce.lovetoknow.com]

Protestants divorce at a rate of 51% of those who marry. Catholics 19% of those who marry, and Atheists, only 2%

"F&ck off" would be my reply.

I would reply, “Maybe you can’t, but I can.”

Later, the term “self-fulfilling prophecy” might occur to me.

The two groups are starting at completely different places, so there's really not much you can say to the other that will make much difference. As long as the preacher is convinced in his/er ideology of where love comes from, there's no real use in talking about it.

I wouldn't even honor that with a response....

Wouldn’t bother. It’s opinion so no point debating unless you are up for an interesting few hours discussion.

Be prepared to bring evidence to support your claim though.

I wouldn't.

With gales of laughter that rival of Cat 5 hurricane....

I would ask since when does this god have emotions? Emotions are chemical reactions and gods should be above any emotional base. Also, a 'god' than love can just as easily hate (and often does).