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How do you deal with Christmas?

Serious question, and one I'm sure gets asked every year...how do you guys deal with the social conventions that surround Christmas? 95% of the people, I know, celebrate Christmas and the other 5% celebrate things like Yule; Solstice; Hannukah; etc. What if you just don't care about all of the hype and commotion that leads up to this day? I'd love to hear some of your thoughts and insights on this.

AgnosticJeff 4 Nov 8
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We celebrate a typical holiday and we have a blast!

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I am singing along wherever. Great fun.

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I don't celebrate holidays typically because I have no one to celebrate with, my family is dead so rip that. But I have some older friends to hang out with. No one my own age. They do their own thing with their friends and family, etc. It's only been lately that I've been able to do something for some of the holidays. πŸ˜›

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Do you mean that Christmas holiday with decorated evergreens, Santa Claus, snowmen, Rudolph, candy canes, and exchanging gifts? That time of year was celebrated long before it was assigned as a religious holiday. If the term 'Christmas' is bothersome, call it the Yuletide holiday or anytbing you prefer. No need to miss out on the festivities because Christians claim it as thrir own. It doesn't belong to them exclusively.

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It's a great excuse to have a holiday. We celebrate Merry Xmas, where the X stands for whatever you want to celebrate. What we really like is celebrating the winter solstice. Actually, I'm a kinda heathen anyway.

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Just another day.

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It's just a time for family, and fun and food and good times, stop over thinking it, I for one have never felt forced to acknowledge jesus on Christmas and to anyone that trys to call me a hypocrite I just tell them its a pagan celebration first and a commercial enterprise at that and it pretty much shuts them up.

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I am from a ski resort/tourism community. And other than the early years of our daughter's childhood, I chose to work every Christmas. Just another day for me, for the most part. But the kids ... People were so grateful I was willing to take their shift so they could be with family and it was no skin off our noses!

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Social conversations?

With ease, I suppose. Around here, most people tend to either love or dread the season, so I more or less fit in lol. I've made peace with it, and made it into something of my own, you could say.

Back when I was a closeted atheist teenager, this wasn't my favorite time of year. Taking part in the celebrations always brought about a feeling of guilt. As though I was lying to my family. Thus, the return to normality of January couldn't come soon enough.

When I entered the workforce, I began to be highly amused that the thoughtless rhetoric was β€œHappy Holidays!” or β€œMerry Christmas!” when happy seemed one of the last emotions one would find with holiday preppers. As though all civility went out the window with the ensuing deadline.
Then there are the annoying β€œKeep the CHRIST in CHRISTmas!” folks, with their badges and memes. At war with the all-encompassing holiday greeting that is β€œHappy Holidays!”.

You will typically find that neither of these groups has an issue with filling up a cart and running up a credit card balance with overpriced trinkets, either. Buying tons of crap for friends and family that will likely end up either shelved or landfilled in 4 or 5 months. An orgy of resource consumption on an unbelievable scale when we come closer and closer to the wall.
The jingle from the (I believe) 2010 family guy Christmas dual-episode comes to mind. Christmas is killing us.

In coming to terms with all of this nonsense, I've retained some of what the religiosity may well have intentioned without the whole capitalistic orgy part.

If I have the cash to spare, I donate to charity. Not gonna lie, I keep the recites for tax time lol. But it still beats the alternative.

When it comes to hearing holiday pablum everywhere I shop, yeah . . . That can go away. I doubt anyone would miss it. Then again, the unchanging rotation of retail pablum can go away, period. It's not often you will hear someone say they hate Phil Collins or Bryan Adams, but . . . I HATE THEM!
Did I mention that I work retail?

I get that there is an air of nostalgia with this time of year. Everyone (well, so I thought. This thread is pretty grim lol) has their childhood view of what Christmas is. For me, it's hearing the Bony M Christmas album.
I listen to it at some point. Even the religious-oriented stuff, since it's all part of the feeling. No, I don't take it seriously. But neither do most people. So who gives a shit.
I also realized that a few of my favourite Dream Theater songs also have a theistic arc to them. It doesn't stop them from being enjoyable as the piece of art that it is.

Suppose the TL/DR of this would be, make it your own. It happens once a year, and we all have to deal with it. So may as well make of it whatever we want it to be whether it's a time to be around relatives or a time to throw a party and get drunk with everyone else not at the family dinner.

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Santa Claus

You kind of look like Santa Claus. Do you ever try on the suit?

@JeremyMinney No but I get some kids looking at this time of the year LOL

@benhmiller As long as you keep the reindeer hair off your clothes, you'll probably get away with hiding in public. !! πŸ˜€

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Christmas falls close to the old celebration of the solstice which was celebrated by the pagans. Solstice occurs usually on the 21st and 22nd December. There is no need for expenditures. Just remember the old celebration days of the pagans and enjoy it. By the way, history indicates that Jesus was born in April and was executed 30 years later. I do not celebrate the birth or execution of criminals.

Guido Level 4 Nov 9, 2019
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And, if anyone tries to sing me a christmas carol, I'll shove my finger right up their nose! Try singing now choirboy!

We need some new carols that appeal to non-religious celebrators.

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How do I deal with Christmas? Stab it in the face until it leaves me alone!

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Just enjoy it . Have a few drinks good food .

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I just enjoy the good and getting together with family and friends and ignore all the religious aspects.

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No religion is require to celebrate any holiday. It is a day to exchange gifts with family and friends.

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Other than watching old black n white versions of "A Christmas Carol", the original "The Grinch Who Stole Christmas", and "The Charlie Brown Christmas", I don't really pay much attention to it.

@altschmerz Christmas aint Christmas, without getting to hear Alistair Sim, or Sir Reginald Owen, say "Bah! Humbug!".

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I just do Christmas old American style. We are not dwelling in deep theological issues on it, the tree is pretty and smells nice, it makes my kids happy, and of course we all love presents. I don't care how silly it is, and as far as Christmas greetings, I don't think about it -- I do know that when I am talking to people who speak different languages I try to give greetings, thank yous and such in their language, especially if they are equally polite. As long as a Christian is going to be polite to me, I will be polite back.

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Christmas is consistent with a culturally costly monetary commercial business propaganda to entice people to spend money they often don't have. In our Christian civilization the masses have been conditioned, mostly by upbringing, to the point of feeling obligated to celebrate Christmas based on a myth so that society can be controlled in perpetuation.

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Just go with the flow

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I largely ignore it. If someone mentions it, I ignore it or steer the conversation away. I consider it a success if i get people to not think about it or talk about. If someone "merry xmas"s me I say, "Inshallah!" LMAO!

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About the same way Christians celebrate Halloween . Had a Halloween Party awhile back , and my Christian neighbors came as a witch and a vampire , and had a fun time . Yet no one ever asks Christians about celebrating Halloween. Christmas is a family celebration , whether you are a believer or not . It's what we grew up with . Just like Halloween , there are traditions and stories , and no reason we can't have fun , without taking things seriously .

This

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By buying myself some treats, being glad the days are getting lighter and avoiding my parents’ offers to go to church. This year I’m going to the pub for an extortionate dinner.
I believe there is some fun to be had at work with days off and gifts.

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I don't deal with it, I enjoy the party time. Who doesn't like to party???

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Well, I used to celebrate it when my daughter was alive and as a reason for giving gifts and having a big feast, etc, NO REligion in it of course, but stopped it when she passed away in Jan.2001 until my nephew, Henry came on the scene in 2013, since neither his parents nor I are anything remote close to religiously inclined in any way, we simply do it for his benefit MINUS any references to religion.

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