He lives in Illinois and I live in Washington State. He messaged me on Agnostic.com.
All of my boyfriends have been a friend (we enjoy each other's company), hiking partner and lover. We live too far apart to develop a relationship. I'm a passionate hiker. Illinois is too darn flat. I know because I grew up in Michigan. Good luck with your search. Kathleen
I attached these hiking photos to show the difference between our lifestyles and where we live.
With online relationships, we miss out on sensory information like body language, touch and smell. Nothing is real until you meet.
I'm the polar opposite. I see NO logical reason to be online attempting to meet/date by making it a zip-code issue right up front. If there was someone living next door to me that I'd want to have a relationship with, I'd certainly not bother with all the online meeting/dating stuff I've done over the past two decades, I'd be dating the dude next door.
Unless you're willing to learn someone else's passions, hobbies, likes, etc., why on earth try to couple? I totally get your hiking thing, but I can assure you, there is a whole LOT of hiking outside of Washington State. In fact, my former from Anchorage and I spent more time in the wonders of the Alaskan wilderness hiking, skiing, and enjoying some of the most pristine/rugged beauty in the entire Northern Hemisphere than we ever did in Idaho/Washington/Oregon, and they're all gorgeous in their own rights. We also both lived on the east coast and in central US, but never living together, but always very much together.
That said, if you're limiting your options to your interests and your hobbies/passions, why bother trying to add someone to the mix? I'm not dissing on you, but you post these types of posts a LOT and the answer is always the same: there's no one that's going to be what you're looking for because you're not open to merging, you want to add someone to YOUR already established life. Which is more than fine and the very reason I no longer bother. I KNOW there's no one that's going to work for me, so why waste anyone's time?
That's just how I see it. If you'd be open to traveling and hiking elsewhere? You'd open your life to things you never knew were out there and you just might meet someone that doesn't live in Washington state but is a good fit for you. You don't need to live in the same geographical location to be in a healthy, happy, loving, long-term relationship. (My BF was in Alaska, I was in Idaho. For nearly 15 years we lived all over the US, but never together. We were closer than my husband ever were living in the same house. Geography is just location, distance is a matter of the heart.)
Totally agree. If I am talking to someone on line - I meet asap. Thats how I met my new boyfriend Bob. We met for coffee and hit it off spending the whole day together visiting state parks and Lake Saratoga. Sometimes you just click. I am so in like right now-its only been a month but we are spending weekends together getting to know each other in an open and honest relationship. Touch is so important. We are both very tactile. I get long distance pms here as well. I knew I had to meet someone locally and 20 minutes apart is just right for now. I don't know where this is going - we just like spending time as friends as well. We have many common interests and our birthdays are 6 days apart.
Absolutely. Nothing is real until you actually meet in person. I will talk to a person for possibly a week, no more than 2 weeks before I insist that we meet. Because you don't have a clue how you will feel about that person until you sit face to face with each other and talk. One gathering, one meeting is all it takes to know if it's worth meeting for a second time or continuing to talk.
It would have to be a one in Ten million guy to make you move from your location and life style ,he would have to accept all the changes if you really fell in Love and for him to move to you,,Your pics remind me of the sound of music,so very beautiful
If he was real - this is one of those calls that is purely up to individuals.
I have a non-immediate family member who met someone online, in a non-dating chat room. She lives in NYC, he lived in Australia. Over time they found endless commonalities and bonded. Finally she went there to meet him - he came to NY to see her - one more trip to Australia, and he moved to NY. They've been married 9yrs now.
Seems to depend on how solidly someone is planted where they are, and if someone is willing to make a major change for the potential of love to last.
For me, at the most, I might move within my State - but that's it.
Well, most of us are socially distanced right now (even in the same state) so there's that. Ultimately, the long distance stuff is a decision that will have different factors for everyone. For me, I'd rather find my true partner and compromise on other stuff (like where to live). I've lived in some really cool places and enjoyed these locations.... Would enjoy finding the right guy for me even more. Definitely meeting at least by Zoom and in person (if it's safe with COVID19) will tell you a lot. Best of luck to you guys!
Many women, maybe half, say they are looking for a friend, maybe more, or "friends first". Both of those formulations seem so obvious that I wonder what hidden meanings stand behind them. Maybe those women are speaking to themselves as much as to men they haven't met yet.