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What are your thoughts on online dating?

Has online dating made finding a potential mate easier or harder? Do people actually make real connections?

Tutankhamun 7 Apr 10
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Just another way to meet people. Whether that relationship moves out into the real world is up to both parties.

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I met a very cool lady on zoosk and after two months we are in hig heaven!! Yehaw! Ok, that is a weird expression but I think you get the idea

hog heaven. don't know what a hig is.

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I was on ok cupid....i guess I'm too fussy. I did just end.a 6 month relatio ahip with a widower on there but i ended it. He had too many issues for me.

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Since I don't feel connections irl it really hasn't affected much

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I have not been interested, but I may change my mind. A retired friend was very serious and met a few people that she jived with and made a few friends! But, she made it fun and met up with many, many men, as some had ulterior motives and needed to be alimated! She finally settled to dating, as she was having a great time! Me...I will report, after I try it!

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Why do you want know?..are you working for Zuckerbeg? Cambridge Analytic? Putin?

No. No I am not. That is my final answer LOL

@Tutankhamun goood!!!# Lololololololololol

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I met my husband online. OkCupid, I really like their matching score. It's been extremely accurate.

Wow really? I need to get some tips from your husband!!!

@Tutankhamun well for one, read the profile, send an introduction highlighting that you have at least one thing in common, and ask a follow up question or two on things you read in the profile. Having a complete profile helps. And on OkCupid I highly recommend answering as many of the questions as you're comfortable with, it is very accurate if you answer honestly.

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It's a numbers game

Yes, it does open up more opportunities to meet people that are supposed to be single.

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In my case, I first read "The Rules for Online Dating," and followed the instructions. I posted a profile on a popular free dating website, but made a long, complicated list of what I liked to do, and what kind of man I was looking for.

I made it ridiculous, mostly because I was only posting a profile to make it seem to my family that I was "looking" for someone. The guy had to be my age, a certain height, have a Masters degree, have grown up with horses, lived abroad, be a musician, be very fit, a health food nut, lean, have no current pets, etc.

I was following the advice of the book, which recommended being very picky, since men love challenges. I posted it and started to lean back when I got a reply from someone who went down the list of everything I'd said. He had just joined the website and didn't even have a photo up yet.

He said he was an airline pilot instructor, former Navy pilot, engineer, had owned horses growing up, had been deployed in the Pacific for years, played trumpet, was a vegan, was very fit, had no pets. He said he couldn't marry me at the moment but soon could, once he got his affairs in order after his divorce.

I was taken aback, and did my best to discourage him, but he persisted, and even flew down for my birthday to join me on a birding hike and climb to Lockegee Rock. Sure enough, he was everything he'd claimed to be, and we were eventually married.

@amnotgod thanks!

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I'm all for looking for someone online for my specific wants, but I could never have an online only relationship of any kind.

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I was never a fan. Moot point now.

I hear that

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I have found long-term relationships online, like my ex.

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I married someone who I met on Prodigy in 1994. We are still together.

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When someone figures it out... please let me know...

When they let you know please let me know

@Tutankhamun Will do!

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Meet my husband though plenty of fish. We've been together 9 years.

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Unsure on that one.

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I've seen no difference between online and physical space regarding my luck with dating. I keep hoping that, at least, when online, a lady will have a chance to get to know my mind before my appearance turns her off to much. Then again I do realise she's being set up for disappointment this way.

Don't write that in stone.

@Freedompath awrh, thanks. ?

Don't be too hard on yourself!

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I met my husband online. We have been happily married for 22 years.

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It has been a learning expereince. Met a lot of interesting men, some in need of a reality check on who and what they are as they portrayed themselves something they are not or maybe wish they were. It's a weeding out process for sure on both ends. I have been in a few LTR but nothing that made my heart skip a beat.

Sounds like we're all looking for something similar. Why is it so hard to find?

@Tutankhamun that is the ultimate question when it comes to matters of the heart.

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Apart from filling zeppelins with hydrogen, online dating must be the Worst. Idea. Ever.

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I married someone that I met online. That person was a major learning experience that I apparently needed. Now I have boundaries and I don't ignore red flags.

Lani Level 5 Apr 10, 2018

@GizmoAmbivert I meant that I first met him on a dating site. We lived an hour from each other, so we ended up dating in person for a year. I knew early on that he had misrepresented some things, and I chose to ignore it. So I'm not a victim in that sense.

@Lani I feel you on the misrepresentation and having consequences for ignoring it. I did that with my last ex and paid for it dearly. You're not a victim but you chose to give him the benefit of the doubt and were let down. It's not entirely your fault.

@ThereIsADog as you age...'benifit-of-the-doubt'...is in short supply!!lol

@Freedompath Very much agree with that! It's nobody's responsibility to make you happy but if you feel someone is actively taking away from your quality of life then run for the hills is what I learned. They may change but you sure as hell aren't going to be the one to change them.

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I think it puts people into a consumer mentality, like it is a grocery store. The next one might be better than this one. Also all I've encountered lately has been scammers, so I've pretty much dropped out of all of them. It's just not worth the hassle.

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I met my husband on a website. It was tagged.com. We began DMing one another, worked our way up to phone calls, and eventually I moved from Maryland to Pennsylvania to be with him. We've been together going on 9 years and married almost 4. It CAN work.

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It hasn't worked for me. Maybe I'm just too old and ugly, lol.

Nah, it's your devastating good looks that keeps the chicks away. Just like mine do...

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It's O-K. There are better venues out there.

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