For those in my age bracket, you may know who said this. I have for a decade or more, made this my life goal. I just made up my mind that worry was a waste of time, and stopped. I figure if it's something I can control, I will do my best to achieve a good outcome. If it is something I can't control, then worrying about it won't change the outcome and I will deal with the results. To worry is just to waste energy for no reason, kind of like praying.
Do other non believers feel this way, or is this just something I have figured out myself?
Sounds pretty normal to me.
Why burn calories thinking about things that you can’t influence? Save your energy for the things you can actually do.
Like the people who tweet “thoughts and prayers” after every tragedy. Why not donate some money, or blood, or volunteer?
If it was just me, I'd agree with you. I do worry about what I need to do for the people who rely on me. I guess responsibility can cause worry, or at least be identified as a cause. I try to not do it. Good for you that you've figured out how to let it go. I'm working on it.
Worry is another word for concern. when I am faced with an issue, I take whatever steps I can to solve and/or fix it, and when it goes beyond what I can do anything about, I just let it be and put it out of my mind, indeed it is a waste of time and energy to let it consume you at THAT point !
It's not about controlling, it's not about pushing away, it's about taking the punch and wave it away, it's about to experience, it's about to learn to respond, not to react like a true zen, it's about to choose not to be harmed, not to feel harmed like a stoic, it's about being the mirror which doesn't absorb, but only reflects.
There is a difference between worrying and keeping your "plan" evergreen -- specifically, the poltical tenor of the times -- if things continue to disintegrate, it would be wise to have an exit plan in the pocket. Consider the plight of the Jews of Germany after Hitler came to power - those that had a plan and left early survived, the others became names on pieces of paper at the Holocaust museum. We aren't there yet... but ....
I think manageable worry is good for you. Anxiety at low levels is good for motivation and heightens that completion feeling. Suppressing emotion is almost always bad, and not feeling emotion is psychopathy. But I think you mean managing anxiety, right? I only have anxiety when the problems aren't mine....I am a caretaker for my mom, and it stresses me the hell out....I can handle it when I am getting screwed over....I am great at finding ways around situations...I never leave myself only one door to open...but when it is someone else that I am responsible for...ARGH! ALFRED E. NEUMAN FOR PRESIDENT!
For me it isn't quite that simple. It isn't always easy to control my thoughts, they seem to develop a life of their own, especially when the light are out. When I was in a situation of insecurities (financial/job/housing/etc) then the thoughts were very out of control. There is somewhat less insecurity now, but still don't necessarily have a peaceful mind. I have noticed when I use an herbal supplement that I will still have the thoughts, but they don't seem to linger as long and fewer upsetting thoughts hang around and more amusing or benign thoughts pop in for a few moments. You're lucky if you can turn it off.