I had lots of success on POF. Sadly they turned out to be gold-diggers and I have no tolerance for that crap or else they were bat-shit crazy and a few turned out to be bible thumpers which I clearly stated in my profile that I wanted non-religious. One even turned out to be all 3, a gold-digging bat-shit crazy bible thumper.
So that's why I'm trying Agnostic.com out. Regardless of the very small pool availability of suitable compatible companionship prospects, at least the conversations are interesting once you weed out the trolls.
I dated a number of attorneys on Match (I'm a former paralegal) but it turned out that they really didn't have time for a relationship no matter how much they wanted one.
So here I am.

When I worked in medicine I dated a lot of nurses and PAs. Dating sites have worked for me since but you have to put some work in. Not just messaging potential mate's but you have to weed out a lot of scammers. Beware of the women offering NSA sex or women that look young for their age. They may want $250 in iTunes. NSA = no strings attached.

Being a 53 year old mother of an at home 12 year old, I haven't put much into it as the risks may outweigh the benefits right now. Was married for 13 years, divorced for four and haven't dated once. Yes I've been asked. I am really liking the community. I originally put "interested in meeting men" on my profile but I took it off.
My looks are no longer one of my best assets but I have other strengths and qualities.
Moved a year ago and am still unpacking. I'm very involved and content with my son, my critters and my interests. Someone asked me what I do when I get bored. LMBO. What's that?
I probably should start a new post. How do you feel about dating with kids? When do you get back on the horse or don't you? Thanks for your thoughts.

My circles always been the same... Dancing Venues. I used to drink, now seldom do... never been a bar guy. But you can find romance everywhere and anywhere to tell the truth. The Dance Floor worked for me but at my age all dynamics had changed. I must adapt to conquer. All options you provided are valid places for some and not for others. Good Luck and better Hunting. Random worked for me.

If someone is actively looking, doesn't that mean they haven't had any success yet?

I had been entirely single, tried dating through websites, lost that interest, and then this site happens. Joined it in December with no real expectations of meeting someone from here. And then, Voila! A gentlemen in a neighboring county to me appeared out of the blue on this site, we met and the connection was real and honest. We are still together since meeting in January but officially "steady" February 18. He left this site shortly after meeting me as this site served its function for him. I still enjoy this community as, ultimately, I joined to meet like-minded intelligent individuals. Win/win for me. Best of luck to you!

This seems oddly worded: "for those actively looking...where did you find success?".
Aren't the two mutually exclusive? If they are still actively looking does not that imply that they have not yet succeeded?

PS -- I voted other because I was forced to vote in order to comment....

I don't look at work, there are few in my age range, and most of those are married. I recently dropped off of all dating sites. I don't regard this as a dating site. So IF I find a date it will be completely random. I'm not holding my breath.

match.com

My friend is active in a singles hiking club. He said that there is usually a ratio of 4 men to each woman.

I had the best luck in college where we were all in the same or similar boat. We could visit every day and check each other out without it being obvious and we could decide if we wanted to see each other much more casually than on a dating site. It was much more natural than this abstract, digital environment. I'm bad at digital, I guess. Or maybe I'm just so much better in person when it's not a dating situation and girls appreciated not getting hit on all the time. Beats the hell out of me how this whole thing works!

My vote: Unsuccessful so far

I've had decent success online and through friends. I've made 37,811 solo trips to bars, and never gotten a date from one.

This is like asking a writer "Where do you get your ideas?" People, like ideas or gold, are where you find them. I have a friend that swears by laundromats. There is a ride servie I use called Call a Ride here-- I have met a few people on there.

Here is the way to do it: if you see someone that might interest you, go up to them and talk to them. If you're out shopping, you can talk about the merchandise, the store, whatever. If things click, say something like "I'm enjoying this, and would like to keep in contact. Do you want to trade phone numbers?"

And if they come up to you and start talking, even better.

Any of these places/avenues can be great. But the kicker is that you have to be genuine. Even online. I’d honestly say stop actively looking and start actively focusing on bettering yourself and finding those communities with which you identify. Quips, jokes, lines; all great unless that’s all you have to offer. The moment you can stop trying to force something is the moment the moment your brain lets the person who wants you see the real you.

I've met people I've dated many places- old friends, online dating website, at a ballroom dance, from a classified dating ad in a newspaper, and at a bar.

I have had the most luck with dating websites where I have had the opportunity to meet a large variety of people and finally found one who I really enjoy spending time with. I do live in a rural area, quite isolated, so other options are limited - but the websites can work

Success in dating? What's that?

If I was successful, I wouldn't be here.

I have this fantasy of meeting the perfect person at the park or library or book store, etc. But in reality there's a million to one chance of that happening where I live. I have no idea how or where to meet the type of people I might want to date.

Met my two ex-husbands in bars. One in college at school 99 Club and second in a bar performing in his band Mantis. My next long term relationship of ten years we met through a personals ad in newspaper. Have met many through dating sites. Met member here but we weren't compatible.

I found two boyfriends on ok cupid.

In the beginning, it was always through high school/friends.....and a few random encounters at SIx Flags. Later, it became work, pubs, and nightclubs, and occasionally at college. I met quite a few women at Mardi Gras in both New Orleans and Saint Louis. However, for the last 12 years or so, it seems to be mostly online, through MySpace, then Facebook, then OKCupid.

Still trying to find the right place and time......

Me it's dating websites or the supermarket for some reason !