My wife became disabled several years ago and sexual intimacy became too painful for her to participate in.
She can have sexual intercourse but it is painful and unpleasant for her, and even her own orgasm causes her pain,
She constantly asks me if this makes me feel less for her and do I want to divorce her so I would be free to have sex with others. Friends have asked how can I live in a sexless marriage and not cheat.
I honestly don't understand this attitude.
I have explained that sex is only a part of our relationship and not the foundation of it.
In effect I am now her carer, and that is my main role as her husband.
I have no problem with this and see to my own need myself and even then I feel a little guilt.
Though I have participated in a few so called "support" groups for people in my situation it mainly seems to be one partner or the other complaining about their spouse's inability to give them sex, and I was not there for that, nor to be propositioned for sex by frustrated other people.
I look at it like this when it comes to fidelity
Love without sex is better than sex without love.
Just venting here I suppose, since this groups seems pretty open and honest, thanks a lot.