I can’t offer much insight, but I can empathize. My last marriage was sexless - hell, touchless and talkless too - for the final several years. Religion had nothing to do with it. He refused to try counseling so I never really understood wtf was going on. But it was so difficult. I had to leave for my own well-being cuz I go so dang depressed. Single at sixty isn’t ideal, but I am sooo much happier!

Sometimes it actually becomes painful as a women ages and her body no longer creates hormones.

I don't think it's age. I've gotten older my libido has actually increased. There could be countless other issues why someone would abstain from sex -- emotionally, psychological, physical. I know some women who have abstained from sex because they were taught at a young age that their sexuality doesn't belong to them and that belief has stayed with them, so the only way they could feel some sense of control was by withholding. Not a conscious decision, but something that they evolved into. That was me for many years actually, and as I learned how to own my life and my decisions, including regarding to sex, I've felt more confident in that part of my life.

I think some where in the Bible it says to serve your husband what that means I have no idea but she might.

Have you talked to her? Honest open communication. Seriously, I avoided intimacy with my ex for the last 5 years of our marriage because I realized he loved his f**king xian website more than me. Once the hurt and anger faded I was absolutely indifferent to him. I used my toys when he slept. So, time for a good chat with the missus. If she is having post menopause issues insist that she go see her doctor. And if you wanna look up buybull verses that can help you out, fight fire with fire. My celibacy did not last long after my ex and I split up. I'm 60 now, alone, but still have my toys.

Bed death is common for women as they age...SADLY...but it does happen.

Sounds like you need Mrs Palmers tender touch in the meantime together with a little of your fancy to get you going.
Remember the old saying "if you don't use use it you'll lose it"!

You're not on your own my friend, it a far more common situation than you might think.

Women do go through menopause and menopause does play Havoc with our sex drives. She may want to talk to her doctor about the problem. Menopause could lead females into depression,Low sex drive, vaginal dryness which makes intercourse painful ,lack of energy ,weight gain and the list goes on. It may be pschological as well. If she is a deeply religious woman who loves small children she may feel like she's not breeding material anymore and therefore there's no point to have sex.

Everyone is different. This can't be made a gender issue.

Maybe she just doesn't want sex with you anymore. That's not a problem for her.

You say she was "responsive" to your sexual needs, but were you responsive to hers?

Clear and open communication is key.