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As the third anniversary of my wife's death approaches, I find it difficult to engage with death.
How do others deal with talking about death in general and the loss of a life partner around the time of your anniversary?

Sofabeast 7 Oct 3
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I feel your pain. I'm coming up on 3rd anniversary in Dec. I am lucky to have a good support system with friends and family that actively talk about my wife still. It can be almost impossible for me to bring up. I struggle because i don't want to cry in front of everyone and if I bring her up it's difficult. I cherish my memories and will probably have some drinks with friends and talk about it nearer the anniversary.

Fuzzy Level 4 Oct 30, 2018

Just passed the third anniversary myself. A hard one again (her last name was Third too, not uncommon in this part of Scotland). I still talk about June quite a lot, but seldom to her parents. In my family we talk of the dead loved ones, as it keeps them with us. Maybe that's the Anglo-Irish side of my family. Junes family do not mention the dead much, which is traditional here.
I like to keep busy. Work too much and college, then I eat too much as well at times of despair.
Keep calm and carry on for those who are left and need you.

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One moment at a time. The anniversary even though it's been 17 years is still a painful and sad time. It's a quiet time for me.

Betty Level 8 Oct 4, 2018
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I was thinking wedding anniversary. His death won't be a year until next month. It's the most difficult thing I've ever done. I'm just trying to survive.

freeofgod Level 8 Oct 3, 2018

@Jonado , thank you.

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I didn't mention it to anyone.

freeofgod Level 8 Oct 3, 2018
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Death is a fact of life so I deal with it matter-of-factly. Thinking of her death hurts but it's not like it's ever going to go away. The date of her death is a time for me to reflect and reconnect with my memory of her.

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