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are you afraid of death?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Death itself doesn't scare me, but dying does.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Death itself doesn't scare me, but dying does.
Have you ever tried meditation?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I tried doing a guided meditation once.
I positioned myself to listen: The “guide” started out by spending several minutes on “relaxing.”
Relax my feet, then my legs, then my stomach… all the way up to my head. He wants me to go down a staircase, deeper and deeper, relaxing as I go.
Ten minutes into this “relaxation” segment, I'm so annoyed that I can't even get to the actual meditation.
"I get it… you want me to relax. So shut the fuck up so I can."
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I tried doing a guided meditation once.
I positioned myself to listen: The “guide” started out by spending several minutes on “relaxing.”
Relax my feet, then my legs, then my stomach… all the way up to my head. He wants me to go down a staircase, deeper and deeper, relaxing as I go.
Ten minutes into this “relaxation” segment, I'm so annoyed that I can't even get to the actual meditation.
"I get it… you want me to relax. So shut the fuck up so I can."
What do you think of parody or mock religions? Have you or would you join one?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I just happened to be ordained as a Dudist Priest!
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I just happened to be ordained as a Dudist Priest!
What do you think of parody or mock religions? Have you or would you join one?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
It can be funny, depending on how they do it.
I really love Landover Baptist Church
http://www.landoverbaptist.org/
And aint no better Christian than Mrs. Betty Bowers
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS0AAs7t62rKfnrql2fbo9A
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
It can be funny, depending on how they do it.
I really love Landover Baptist Church
http://www.landoverbaptist.org/
And aint no better Christian than Mrs. Betty Bowers
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS0AAs7t62rKfnrql2fbo9A
How many people have had the experience of having to deal with an AYA (Angry Young Atheist).
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Yah, I've had my share of those. I've even met a couple on here. Ironically, the angrier they are, the more they represent their fundamentalist counterparts. There's something about anger that seems to isolate and causes them to act just like fundamentalists.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Yah, I've had my share of those. I've even met a couple on here. Ironically, the angrier they are, the more they represent their fundamentalist counterparts. There's something about anger that seems to isolate and causes them to act just like fundamentalists.
Free will, compatibilism, & determinism.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I'd say free will is a paradox. I didn't choose my birth, my gender, my parents, my genetic makeup, hair color, eye color, family, background. I won't get to choose my death, but I may have some influence on it (or not).
I think we're given a starting point, and for most of our young life are highly subject to the whims of those around us. As we grow, though, we start to recognize our “self” and exercise a certain degree of independence. But even so we’re still at the mercy of a brain that’s making billions of decisions behind the scenes that we’re not even aware of.
We are also very much influenced by our societies. Our governments set huge swaths of our agenda whether we’re aware of it or not, and even dating is as much up to the person I would like to date as it is to me.
We do seem to have some “influence” on our lives, but how much? How much is us and how much is just our brains and biology and sociology and community making these decisions for us.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I'd say free will is a paradox. I didn't choose my birth, my gender, my parents, my genetic makeup, hair color, eye color, family, background. I won't get to choose my death, but I may have some influence on it (or not).
I think we're given a starting point, and for most of our young life are highly subject to the whims of those around us. As we grow, though, we start to recognize our “self” and exercise a certain degree of independence. But even so we’re still at the mercy of a brain that’s making billions of decisions behind the scenes that we’re not even aware of.
We are also very much influenced by our societies. Our governments set huge swaths of our agenda whether we’re aware of it or not, and even dating is as much up to the person I would like to date as it is to me.
We do seem to have some “influence” on our lives, but how much? How much is us and how much is just our brains and biology and sociology and community making these decisions for us.
Who else has high blood pressure? How do you control it?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Pretty much medication, and trying to control my diet as best I can.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
Pretty much medication, and trying to control my diet as best I can.
What makes you unique?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I would guess, that out of the billions (maybe trillions) of people who have traversed the planet over time, I’m the only me that I know of.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
I would guess, that out of the billions (maybe trillions) of people who have traversed the planet over time, I’m the only me that I know of.
When you questioned, was critical thinking discouraged?
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
My upbringing was Seventh Day Adventist, so I read lots of Ellen G. White books. Sometimes when I would quote her to make a point during a debate, I would get yelled at. If I questioned something she said, I’d get yelled at. So no matter what I did, I couldn’t win with these guys.
Benthoven comments on Mar 15, 2018:
My upbringing was Seventh Day Adventist, so I read lots of Ellen G. White books. Sometimes when I would quote her to make a point during a debate, I would get yelled at. If I questioned something she said, I’d get yelled at. So no matter what I did, I couldn’t win with these guys.
Star Wars or Star Trek?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I saw this movie years ago, and it was genius.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ut04e_Dpnwo
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I saw this movie years ago, and it was genius.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ut04e_Dpnwo
How long has it been?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Wow! like decades.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Wow! like decades.
Teachers + guns. I think it's a shit idea. What do you think?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Just imagine what’s going to happen to that poor black teacher should the cops be called for any reason.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Just imagine what’s going to happen to that poor black teacher should the cops be called for any reason.
Anyone else ethically vegan?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I’m not sure what “ethically vegan” means. The reality of life on earth is that in order for one species to survive, it must find an energy source from some other species. Whether it’s plant based or animal based, it’s still taking one life for another. This is the way nature set it up. It makes sense in a way, but would be awesome if there were other ways.
That being said, torturing our food is, for lack of a better word, an abomination. Just because it’s food, doesn’t mean that it has to suffer.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I’m not sure what “ethically vegan” means. The reality of life on earth is that in order for one species to survive, it must find an energy source from some other species. Whether it’s plant based or animal based, it’s still taking one life for another. This is the way nature set it up. It makes sense in a way, but would be awesome if there were other ways.
That being said, torturing our food is, for lack of a better word, an abomination. Just because it’s food, doesn’t mean that it has to suffer.
How do you tell religious people that you're an atheist?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I don't. I tell them I'm agnostic. But it's usually if they are coming on too thick. And if they try to protolyze me... well, that just depends on what kind of mood I’m in. Sometimes I’ll go for it, other times I’m a bit more subdued.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I don't. I tell them I'm agnostic. But it's usually if they are coming on too thick. And if they try to protolyze me... well, that just depends on what kind of mood I’m in. Sometimes I’ll go for it, other times I’m a bit more subdued.
As an atheist, I think Homosexuality should not come into mainstream. What's your take ?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Come into the mainstream? What does that mean? Are you saying that homosexuals should not be allowed in public? Even IF it were psychological, are you saying that anybody whose psychology doesn’t match yours should not be allowed to live their lives?
“I went through the studies, none had a proof that it's genetic.” Lack of “proof” is not proof. Neither is evidence of absence. What “studies” did you go through? That also shows complete disregard for science in general. Genes are not the only story being told here. We’re talking about a facet of the human creature known as SEXUALITY, of which “homosexuality” is merely a subset. (Though studies with twins show that genes do, in fact, play a role.)
I’m not sure what your endgame is here, if you’re just trolling or if you’re... no, it sounds like you’re trolling. Scientific thinkers and educated people no longer question the evolutionary establishment of sexuality in its many forms, including homosexuality.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Come into the mainstream? What does that mean? Are you saying that homosexuals should not be allowed in public? Even IF it were psychological, are you saying that anybody whose psychology doesn’t match yours should not be allowed to live their lives?
“I went through the studies, none had a proof that it's genetic.” Lack of “proof” is not proof. Neither is evidence of absence. What “studies” did you go through? That also shows complete disregard for science in general. Genes are not the only story being told here. We’re talking about a facet of the human creature known as SEXUALITY, of which “homosexuality” is merely a subset. (Though studies with twins show that genes do, in fact, play a role.)
I’m not sure what your endgame is here, if you’re just trolling or if you’re... no, it sounds like you’re trolling. Scientific thinkers and educated people no longer question the evolutionary establishment of sexuality in its many forms, including homosexuality.
How comfortable are you with the word "Atheist" ?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
As an agnostic, I’m not willing to wear the label “atheist,” though I have no problem with those who do.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
As an agnostic, I’m not willing to wear the label “atheist,” though I have no problem with those who do.
How important is it to people to have political compatibility?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
It's becoming much more of challenge because of what’s happening to Conservatives at this point in history. It used to be we could disagree about things like economics, government oversight, the role of government in governing... but we’ve gone way past that. Now, it’s about those who deny science, claim all new sources but theirs are “fake news,” subscribe to paranoid-conspiracy theories, and cannot accept a non-white influence in America. There’s no way I could simply just “disagree” with those people. This is toxic and highly destructive (or is it highly destructive and toxic?). And all these call themselves “Christian.”
I think disagreements are healthy because they force us out of our own paradigm into a bigger paradigm... but there’s line... and reality is that line.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
It's becoming much more of challenge because of what’s happening to Conservatives at this point in history. It used to be we could disagree about things like economics, government oversight, the role of government in governing... but we’ve gone way past that. Now, it’s about those who deny science, claim all new sources but theirs are “fake news,” subscribe to paranoid-conspiracy theories, and cannot accept a non-white influence in America. There’s no way I could simply just “disagree” with those people. This is toxic and highly destructive (or is it highly destructive and toxic?). And all these call themselves “Christian.”
I think disagreements are healthy because they force us out of our own paradigm into a bigger paradigm... but there’s line... and reality is that line.
Still new to this site and couldnt help but notice how the people here represent a good cross ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I think it makes more sense. Out here on the "coasts" there are plenty more likeminded people to hang around with. And even those who ‘disagree’ are more ‘liberal’ in their attitudes toward non-theism. In the middle of the country, that’s much harder.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I think it makes more sense. Out here on the "coasts" there are plenty more likeminded people to hang around with. And even those who ‘disagree’ are more ‘liberal’ in their attitudes toward non-theism. In the middle of the country, that’s much harder.
Well I'll be! Level 8 gets you a t-shirt!!!
Thanks Admin!!!
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Whoo Hoo! I think it'll be a while here. It's like a million points between seven and eight.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Whoo Hoo! I think it'll be a while here. It's like a million points between seven and eight.
If you are a conservative, do consider insulting the president a personal attack on you?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
It should never be considered wrong to question the actions of our leaders. At least not in a free society. But the personal attacks are a bit more troubling. However, if it’s true, is it a personal attack? We know that this current president lies. We know because we watch him do it... in real time... and we have records. And he does it all the time. So is it a personal attack or a definition of character?
Ironically, most of the “personal” attacks I see on others tend to be more true about the person making the accusation than they are about the accused. I’ve heard over and over and over again that Barack Obama was the “worst president in the history of the United States.” Translation: he’s black.
I was never a fan of Obama. But I spent most of his presidency explaining to people that he “wasn’t trying to control the sun,” that he “didn’t cause tornadoes to happen in Red States,” or that didn’t shut down oil drilling of the coast of the United States. That he wasn’t coming for anybody’s guns, that he wasn’t gay, that he didn’t have a secret family, or start ISIL... It just got nuttier and nuttier and I didn’t know how to respond to that.
But I do think, liberal and conservative alike, we have to learn the difference between ad hominem and legitimate questions about a persons integrity, or intelligence, or abilities.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
It should never be considered wrong to question the actions of our leaders. At least not in a free society. But the personal attacks are a bit more troubling. However, if it’s true, is it a personal attack? We know that this current president lies. We know because we watch him do it... in real time... and we have records. And he does it all the time. So is it a personal attack or a definition of character?
Ironically, most of the “personal” attacks I see on others tend to be more true about the person making the accusation than they are about the accused. I’ve heard over and over and over again that Barack Obama was the “worst president in the history of the United States.” Translation: he’s black.
I was never a fan of Obama. But I spent most of his presidency explaining to people that he “wasn’t trying to control the sun,” that he “didn’t cause tornadoes to happen in Red States,” or that didn’t shut down oil drilling of the coast of the United States. That he wasn’t coming for anybody’s guns, that he wasn’t gay, that he didn’t have a secret family, or start ISIL... It just got nuttier and nuttier and I didn’t know how to respond to that.
But I do think, liberal and conservative alike, we have to learn the difference between ad hominem and legitimate questions about a persons integrity, or intelligence, or abilities.
Is there such a thing as too much kindness?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Kindness doesn't happen in a vacuum. It's not just a single emotion. It should have some company. Emotional Intelligence, compassion, wisdom, caution, foresight, discretion... It is necessary that all those are in play as often as they can be. This allows us to know how and where to continue forward, or to walk away.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Kindness doesn't happen in a vacuum. It's not just a single emotion. It should have some company. Emotional Intelligence, compassion, wisdom, caution, foresight, discretion... It is necessary that all those are in play as often as they can be. This allows us to know how and where to continue forward, or to walk away.
Can You Name One Politician Outside Of Your Own Party And Make A Positive Comment About This Person.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I’ve always said, the one thing I hate about Democrats is that they force me to vote for Republicans. But this new Conservative party, abandoning science, attacking reality, handing our country over to the upper wealthy at the expense of the rest of us... this is a different Republican Party than the one I grew up on.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I’ve always said, the one thing I hate about Democrats is that they force me to vote for Republicans. But this new Conservative party, abandoning science, attacking reality, handing our country over to the upper wealthy at the expense of the rest of us... this is a different Republican Party than the one I grew up on.
I have been on here for about a month now.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
This isn't really a dating site. I know it bills itself as such, but it really isn't. You might get a nibble or two, but it's too small of a site and the people are spread out all over the world.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
This isn't really a dating site. I know it bills itself as such, but it really isn't. You might get a nibble or two, but it's too small of a site and the people are spread out all over the world.
Do you have any dietary restriction or are there any foods you can't or won't eat?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
They call it the unholy trio: Alcohol, caffeine, and sugar. I love all those things. Still, I keep my drinking to a minimum, I try to avoid processed foods, and don’t really add sugar to anything. But coffee... that’s the one crutch that I cannot live without. And don’t say ‘decaffeinated.’
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
They call it the unholy trio: Alcohol, caffeine, and sugar. I love all those things. Still, I keep my drinking to a minimum, I try to avoid processed foods, and don’t really add sugar to anything. But coffee... that’s the one crutch that I cannot live without. And don’t say ‘decaffeinated.’
Are zoos inhumane?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I think it depends on the zoo, the people who run the zoo, and the purpose of the zoo. A lot of zoos are trying to preserve endangered species. They take in animals that have been harmed and need special care. And they all the public to interact as well. If the animals are healthy, and happy, which we can measure, to varying degrees, then it’s a good thing.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
I think it depends on the zoo, the people who run the zoo, and the purpose of the zoo. A lot of zoos are trying to preserve endangered species. They take in animals that have been harmed and need special care. And they all the public to interact as well. If the animals are healthy, and happy, which we can measure, to varying degrees, then it’s a good thing.
You’re as young as you feel? True or false?
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Tell it to your body. You may feel young, but your body is behaving differently and as we age, our bodies stop doing many of the things they used to do so easily. Time is the one thing we can nver run from.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
Tell it to your body. You may feel young, but your body is behaving differently and as we age, our bodies stop doing many of the things they used to do so easily. Time is the one thing we can nver run from.
Someone didn't think this through.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
That's going to leave a mark.
Benthoven comments on Mar 13, 2018:
That's going to leave a mark.
Would you get plastic surgery ? What do you think of people who get plastic surgery ?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I’d totally do it. I’d get my stomach fat and extra chins sucked out. And while we’re at it, I would see if they could make me look like Jensen Ackles from Supernatural.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I’d totally do it. I’d get my stomach fat and extra chins sucked out. And while we’re at it, I would see if they could make me look like Jensen Ackles from Supernatural.
What's the funniest thing you've ever seen or heard that left a lasting impression?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The stoning scene from the Life of Brian.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The stoning scene from the Life of Brian.
POF - Plenty of Fish. Anyone familiar with it or use it? What are your thoughts on pof?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Have you seen our oceans? They’re overfished. Meanwhile, the fish still alive are swallowing mercury from coal and poisoning us when we eat them. Acidification is going to set us back 35 million years, before life could have even existed. Dead zones are everywhere, Coral Reefs are dying, and garbage patches can be seen from space. Bottom line, “fishing” is harder than it’s ever been. ;)
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Have you seen our oceans? They’re overfished. Meanwhile, the fish still alive are swallowing mercury from coal and poisoning us when we eat them. Acidification is going to set us back 35 million years, before life could have even existed. Dead zones are everywhere, Coral Reefs are dying, and garbage patches can be seen from space. Bottom line, “fishing” is harder than it’s ever been. ;)
I am an animal lover, especially dogs, but others as well. What about you? What ones do you like?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
That’s a tough one. I love wolves. They fascinate the hell out of me. I had often wished that I could have one as a pet, even though I knew that was never going to happen.
I remember visiting Wolf Haven out in Washington state, and there were some wolves mostly just hanging about (I have no idea if they were a pack). I was so taken by their beauty that I kind of got lost in thought. When my brain finally came back to the present, I noticed that they had gathered around and we were all watching each other. It was a wonderful moment. One that sticks with me to this day.
I also like cats! And not just the little cats, I love the big cats... For years I hoped that I could have, as a pet, a black panther. Of course that, again, is a bad choice for pet. But they are such beautiful creatures.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
That’s a tough one. I love wolves. They fascinate the hell out of me. I had often wished that I could have one as a pet, even though I knew that was never going to happen.
I remember visiting Wolf Haven out in Washington state, and there were some wolves mostly just hanging about (I have no idea if they were a pack). I was so taken by their beauty that I kind of got lost in thought. When my brain finally came back to the present, I noticed that they had gathered around and we were all watching each other. It was a wonderful moment. One that sticks with me to this day.
I also like cats! And not just the little cats, I love the big cats... For years I hoped that I could have, as a pet, a black panther. Of course that, again, is a bad choice for pet. But they are such beautiful creatures.
Fear of Hell
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Christians use the term “father” when referring to God, and I’ve seen some awful fathers on the planet, but I don’t think any of them would go to this extreme. I’ve concluded that Christians cannot call themselves loving as long as they never call into question their god’s predilection to eternal torture.
If God is as they say, willing to torture for eternity, then how is Heaven going to be different from Hell? The God they describe is volatile and angry, and gets pissed at a moment’s notice. He will be the same for them. While they may not be tortured by fire, that doesn’t mean that God can’t torture just as easily in Heaven ass in Hell (let it be done on earth as it is in heaven). Think North Korea, Russia, China... the best way to be left alone is keep low and not be seen. But that doesn’t mean that they won’t find something wrong anyway.
Or, as they say, God is a loving father. Well, a loving father would not torture. Nor would a loving father send anyone to hell. A loving father would make his children do it over and over until they get it right. In other words, a loving father/God, would send us back... reincarnation... forcing us to keep trying until it’s finally right. And if “getting it right” is not your plan, then a loving father would simply let you go. Cut ties... or just let you “rest in peace.” There you cannot do anymore damage.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Christians use the term “father” when referring to God, and I’ve seen some awful fathers on the planet, but I don’t think any of them would go to this extreme. I’ve concluded that Christians cannot call themselves loving as long as they never call into question their god’s predilection to eternal torture.
If God is as they say, willing to torture for eternity, then how is Heaven going to be different from Hell? The God they describe is volatile and angry, and gets pissed at a moment’s notice. He will be the same for them. While they may not be tortured by fire, that doesn’t mean that God can’t torture just as easily in Heaven ass in Hell (let it be done on earth as it is in heaven). Think North Korea, Russia, China... the best way to be left alone is keep low and not be seen. But that doesn’t mean that they won’t find something wrong anyway.
Or, as they say, God is a loving father. Well, a loving father would not torture. Nor would a loving father send anyone to hell. A loving father would make his children do it over and over until they get it right. In other words, a loving father/God, would send us back... reincarnation... forcing us to keep trying until it’s finally right. And if “getting it right” is not your plan, then a loving father would simply let you go. Cut ties... or just let you “rest in peace.” There you cannot do anymore damage.
What is your opinion on Wiccans?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I've read a couple of Wiccan spell books, and they focus only on brining out the best in people. They’re opposed to manipulation and, at least the books I’ve read, adamantly discourage any kind of revenge, or “dark” magic. They don’t proselytize, or prey on the fears of others... so in that aspect, I’m perfectly comfortable with them. Granted people are people and so not everybody is going to be worth hanging around, but that’s a people thing rather than anything else.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I've read a couple of Wiccan spell books, and they focus only on brining out the best in people. They’re opposed to manipulation and, at least the books I’ve read, adamantly discourage any kind of revenge, or “dark” magic. They don’t proselytize, or prey on the fears of others... so in that aspect, I’m perfectly comfortable with them. Granted people are people and so not everybody is going to be worth hanging around, but that’s a people thing rather than anything else.
Do you still say "bless you" when someone sneezes?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I like the word "bless." It’s one of the few words I know that “confer prosperity or happiness upon someone.” I am aware of the religious implications, but like the etymology of so many words, meanings have changed over time. Language is a living entity, and some of these words evoke our better angels. That makes them worth using.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I like the word "bless." It’s one of the few words I know that “confer prosperity or happiness upon someone.” I am aware of the religious implications, but like the etymology of so many words, meanings have changed over time. Language is a living entity, and some of these words evoke our better angels. That makes them worth using.
What would you ask for, if you knew the answer was yes?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Dinner and a movie with Brad Pitt!
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Dinner and a movie with Brad Pitt!
What is the most ideal climate for you? What environment makes you happy?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I like warm to hot... maybe by the ocean if the ocean is warm too.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I like warm to hot... maybe by the ocean if the ocean is warm too.
Last weekend I traveled to Chicago with friends to see the show Hamilton.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I wonder by the theater here in NYC from time to time, but I can't imagine spending that kind of money just to see a play. That and the waiting list is years in advance.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I wonder by the theater here in NYC from time to time, but I can't imagine spending that kind of money just to see a play. That and the waiting list is years in advance.
How else do you break societal conventions, besides being agnostic?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The problem with social conventions is that there are so many of them, depending on your click. I try eat food that has been treated compassionately, because I don’t think any creature should suffer needlessly. I avoid most processed foods because they can kill me painfully, and that’s not how I want to go. I rail against Hollywood because of how they treat people, and how they require others to sell their soul. I don’t mind rocking the boat a little, but there are so many boats that mostly what I end up doing is getting beat up by a bunch of oars.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The problem with social conventions is that there are so many of them, depending on your click. I try eat food that has been treated compassionately, because I don’t think any creature should suffer needlessly. I avoid most processed foods because they can kill me painfully, and that’s not how I want to go. I rail against Hollywood because of how they treat people, and how they require others to sell their soul. I don’t mind rocking the boat a little, but there are so many boats that mostly what I end up doing is getting beat up by a bunch of oars.
I just found out that my daughters step-niece Madeline who is 14, tried to commit suicide by taking ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
It sounds as if someone stacked the deck against her early on, and now she’s trying to figure out how to cope with what’s beyond her control. And based on your brief biography, she’s got some serious setbacks from the “nurture” part of her upbringing.
I think that getting her into martial arts classes could be great for her. Here she can learn how to take on her own empowerment, make some friends, and find ways to deal with bullies that are creative as well as physical.
I also feel that it’s imperative that she spend some quality time with someone who can listen to her, recognize her feelings, and knows how to help her process them. That might also require some modern medications, but these things will give her a fighting chance.
And most importantly, she needs to be “heard.” Everyone around her has advice, or something to say about her life. Others are pushing her to talk when she doesn’t want to... or doesn’t know what to say. Others just aren’t interested. She needs someone she trusts, who will hear her even when she doesn’t want to talk. Someone who’s comfortable just sitting in silence if that’s what she needs. Someone who’s tuned in to her...
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
It sounds as if someone stacked the deck against her early on, and now she’s trying to figure out how to cope with what’s beyond her control. And based on your brief biography, she’s got some serious setbacks from the “nurture” part of her upbringing.
I think that getting her into martial arts classes could be great for her. Here she can learn how to take on her own empowerment, make some friends, and find ways to deal with bullies that are creative as well as physical.
I also feel that it’s imperative that she spend some quality time with someone who can listen to her, recognize her feelings, and knows how to help her process them. That might also require some modern medications, but these things will give her a fighting chance.
And most importantly, she needs to be “heard.” Everyone around her has advice, or something to say about her life. Others are pushing her to talk when she doesn’t want to... or doesn’t know what to say. Others just aren’t interested. She needs someone she trusts, who will hear her even when she doesn’t want to talk. Someone who’s comfortable just sitting in silence if that’s what she needs. Someone who’s tuned in to her...
How many here were raised in a Christian home, at what point did you start thinking for yourself, ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I started thinking for myself at a pretty early age. My mom and stepdad were Seventh Day Adventist, and because I was interested in the idea of someone who could get visions from God, I read most of Ellen G. White’s books... oh, and the bible. I read that too.
At that point I learned (the hard way) that people don’t like you knowing too much, and they especially don’t like it if you can challenge them... of course everybody hates know-it-all kids, and I was kinda that. But every time I questioned, if found myself a little more alienated. One time when I was in junior high, our church had a time after the service that anyone could pray... one guy prayed for me... out loud... that I’d “stop resisting God.”
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I started thinking for myself at a pretty early age. My mom and stepdad were Seventh Day Adventist, and because I was interested in the idea of someone who could get visions from God, I read most of Ellen G. White’s books... oh, and the bible. I read that too.
At that point I learned (the hard way) that people don’t like you knowing too much, and they especially don’t like it if you can challenge them... of course everybody hates know-it-all kids, and I was kinda that. But every time I questioned, if found myself a little more alienated. One time when I was in junior high, our church had a time after the service that anyone could pray... one guy prayed for me... out loud... that I’d “stop resisting God.”
Plainly visible Tattoos, self expression, or cry for attention?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Depends on the tattoo. If the tattoo is innocuous, I don’t even mind seeing it on waiters or baristas. But if it’s gory or creepy, I’d rather not see it... at least from my food server. I’m comfortable with a ‘few’ tattoos, but at some point it starts to feel more like a need to be noticed.
That being said, tattoos on Christians really pisses me off. These are the same people who use Leviticus to condemn gay people, and yet don’t even think twice about painting their bodies...
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Depends on the tattoo. If the tattoo is innocuous, I don’t even mind seeing it on waiters or baristas. But if it’s gory or creepy, I’d rather not see it... at least from my food server. I’m comfortable with a ‘few’ tattoos, but at some point it starts to feel more like a need to be noticed.
That being said, tattoos on Christians really pisses me off. These are the same people who use Leviticus to condemn gay people, and yet don’t even think twice about painting their bodies...
Do you "collect" anything? What is it, and do you display your collection?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I collect images of funny animals. I love animals and when they're being or doing something that brings a smile to my face, I have to catch it. I don’t really post it anywhere, I just keep them in a personal folder and send them around to friends from time to time.
I also collect images of all the way sports look so gay... funny pictures where you can’t help but wonder how athletes can be so homophobic with pictures like this. Those pictures I post on Pinterest under Sports are so Gay.
And music. I LOVE music. But not just the artist, I love the song. I love when others cover a song or a song gets remixed or even parodied. Depending on the song, I can listen to the same song by different people for hours before I run out. I have seven versions of Donna Summer singing I Feel Love. Another four versions of other people doing the same song. I have about twenty versions of Dancing Queen sung by all kinds of people. Disney is constantly redoing their older music using their newer artists, and some of those versions are spectacular. I have Selena Gomez singing Trust in Me from the Jungle Book. It’s brilliant. Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah from everyone from Usher to Ric Ocasek. I have all of Beethoven’s works, most of Mozart, and lots of Bach... I have to keep my music on a separate hard drive because there’s so much of it.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I collect images of funny animals. I love animals and when they're being or doing something that brings a smile to my face, I have to catch it. I don’t really post it anywhere, I just keep them in a personal folder and send them around to friends from time to time.
I also collect images of all the way sports look so gay... funny pictures where you can’t help but wonder how athletes can be so homophobic with pictures like this. Those pictures I post on Pinterest under Sports are so Gay.
And music. I LOVE music. But not just the artist, I love the song. I love when others cover a song or a song gets remixed or even parodied. Depending on the song, I can listen to the same song by different people for hours before I run out. I have seven versions of Donna Summer singing I Feel Love. Another four versions of other people doing the same song. I have about twenty versions of Dancing Queen sung by all kinds of people. Disney is constantly redoing their older music using their newer artists, and some of those versions are spectacular. I have Selena Gomez singing Trust in Me from the Jungle Book. It’s brilliant. Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah from everyone from Usher to Ric Ocasek. I have all of Beethoven’s works, most of Mozart, and lots of Bach... I have to keep my music on a separate hard drive because there’s so much of it.
Do You Pay It Forward?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I try to do nice things when I can, and, for me, it’s important that they don’t know I did it. I feel weird if people know I bought their coffee or that I sent the letter of commendation because the person who helped me was so exceptional. If they know I did, then it feels (to me) more like a transaction and not an actual gift. I want that person to treat me exactly as they would if they had no idea I did anything for them.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I try to do nice things when I can, and, for me, it’s important that they don’t know I did it. I feel weird if people know I bought their coffee or that I sent the letter of commendation because the person who helped me was so exceptional. If they know I did, then it feels (to me) more like a transaction and not an actual gift. I want that person to treat me exactly as they would if they had no idea I did anything for them.
God vs santa clause?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Maybe? If they're taught as stories, just like our modern day fairy tales, they can be beneficial in helping children understand why being human is so complicated. The stories of God and his own kids and the infighting among the angels, these are how families struggle, and learning to work it out WITHOUT Armageddon is a powerful lesson.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Maybe? If they're taught as stories, just like our modern day fairy tales, they can be beneficial in helping children understand why being human is so complicated. The stories of God and his own kids and the infighting among the angels, these are how families struggle, and learning to work it out WITHOUT Armageddon is a powerful lesson.
This one was a FB memory.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I would never go to Hell. They use house vodka...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0H7EsWFbtc
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I would never go to Hell. They use house vodka...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0H7EsWFbtc
Is it better to make compromises or is it better have things your way?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I would venture to say that it's pretty much impossible to have things your way, so to make your life easier, it might be better to allow yourself to compromise.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I would venture to say that it's pretty much impossible to have things your way, so to make your life easier, it might be better to allow yourself to compromise.
Do you say anything when someone sneezes?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I give three "Bless yous"... if they sneeze more than three times I wait until they're done and give them one final blanket "Bless you." I've only got so many bless yous and I dont want to throw them all away in one place.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
I give three "Bless yous"... if they sneeze more than three times I wait until they're done and give them one final blanket "Bless you." I've only got so many bless yous and I dont want to throw them all away in one place.
What is the root of all the problems in the world?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Humanity?
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
Humanity?
David Wolfe vs. reality.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The fact that this guy is so popular is simply terrifying.
Benthoven comments on Mar 10, 2018:
The fact that this guy is so popular is simply terrifying.
The parable of the ATM
A theist went up to an ATM to check their bank account.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I'm not sure how I feel about this joke. It's cute on the one hand, but most of the atheists I know don't do a lot of "rejoicing."
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I'm not sure how I feel about this joke. It's cute on the one hand, but most of the atheists I know don't do a lot of "rejoicing."
Has anyone ever analyzed their dreams and if so, what were the benefits?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I have dream diaries going back to when I was seventeen. It is one of the most fascinating things I’ve done with my life. By following my dreams consistently over time, I’ve learned about certain themes that show up, images that appear to me often, emotions that show up a lot… all there… I’ve read so much information about dream interpretation, and I hear this a lot: “Dreams don’t mean anything. They’re just the mind storing and retrieving information.” Except, they do. Dreams can wake us up frightened, angry, frustrated, horny, confused, hungry… they mean something… to us.
I find that dreams are a powerful cure to writer’s block. Or even worse… they give me so many ideas I can’t even keep up with them. They help me finish stories, they’ve helped me write songs, and they’ve turned me on to some really creative ideas.
And to be honest, I don’t’ do a ton of “dream work.” I just pay attention to them. Many years ago, my grandmother passed away. I was holding her hand when that happened, and, for me, it’s been a profound experience. Well, she shows up lots of times and offers me insight into problems I’m facing, struggles I’m working through, and she compliments me on my work.
Believe it or not, this has a profound effect on my self-esteem.
I would say that the greatest thing we can give our future selves is a dream diary.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I have dream diaries going back to when I was seventeen. It is one of the most fascinating things I’ve done with my life. By following my dreams consistently over time, I’ve learned about certain themes that show up, images that appear to me often, emotions that show up a lot… all there… I’ve read so much information about dream interpretation, and I hear this a lot: “Dreams don’t mean anything. They’re just the mind storing and retrieving information.” Except, they do. Dreams can wake us up frightened, angry, frustrated, horny, confused, hungry… they mean something… to us.
I find that dreams are a powerful cure to writer’s block. Or even worse… they give me so many ideas I can’t even keep up with them. They help me finish stories, they’ve helped me write songs, and they’ve turned me on to some really creative ideas.
And to be honest, I don’t’ do a ton of “dream work.” I just pay attention to them. Many years ago, my grandmother passed away. I was holding her hand when that happened, and, for me, it’s been a profound experience. Well, she shows up lots of times and offers me insight into problems I’m facing, struggles I’m working through, and she compliments me on my work.
Believe it or not, this has a profound effect on my self-esteem.
I would say that the greatest thing we can give our future selves is a dream diary.
What was your favorite story book as a kid?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
To be honest, it was the Chronicles of Narnia. I loved that series and read it many times.
My favorite book from the series was The Horse and His Boy. It was kind of like my own personal fantasy. In the book, Shasta, the main character runs away from his abusive father and goes on a quest with a talking horse to find Narnia, where the horse is from. In the process, he saves Archland from the Calormenes and discover that he himself is a prince.
There are moments in the book that have stuck with me my entire life. For example, Shasta has a conversation with Aslan about an event that happened to his friend. She was harmed, and he wasn’t. Aslan told him that that was “her story,” not his. That has stuck with me my entire life. When I watch how life can be so “unfair,” I realize, that we all have a story, and it’s different for each one of us. That doesn’t mean we don’t have compassion, as Shasta did for his friend, but it means that each one of us has (or is) a story, and that can be very different from the person sitting right next to you.
While I no longer wish I were a prince, and it’s not necessary to run away, I do still think of what it would be like to have a conversation with Aslan about my own struggles and the life that seems to have found great pleasure in kicking my ass.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
To be honest, it was the Chronicles of Narnia. I loved that series and read it many times.
My favorite book from the series was The Horse and His Boy. It was kind of like my own personal fantasy. In the book, Shasta, the main character runs away from his abusive father and goes on a quest with a talking horse to find Narnia, where the horse is from. In the process, he saves Archland from the Calormenes and discover that he himself is a prince.
There are moments in the book that have stuck with me my entire life. For example, Shasta has a conversation with Aslan about an event that happened to his friend. She was harmed, and he wasn’t. Aslan told him that that was “her story,” not his. That has stuck with me my entire life. When I watch how life can be so “unfair,” I realize, that we all have a story, and it’s different for each one of us. That doesn’t mean we don’t have compassion, as Shasta did for his friend, but it means that each one of us has (or is) a story, and that can be very different from the person sitting right next to you.
While I no longer wish I were a prince, and it’s not necessary to run away, I do still think of what it would be like to have a conversation with Aslan about my own struggles and the life that seems to have found great pleasure in kicking my ass.
How would you describe your personality?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I prefer the word "eccentric" over batshit crazy.
I think “globally,” in that I find it hard to even be grateful for what I have when so many have so much less.
I tend to be nihilistic, in that I’m not sure there’s any kind of purpose to life and that when it’s over, it’s just over. And in seven billion years, when the sun swallows our earth, nothing of our species will have mattered at all.
I feel like I have so much I want to share with others, but don’t really have the platform.
I love stories, and I think that’s it’s stories that make our lives. In fact, I would say that the universe itself is a story—at least as it concerns us.
I have a “mystical” side in that when I’m not being all nihilistic, I see that so many things in life are mysterious. So while things like “sex” can be boiled down to “biology,” it can also be elevated to a deep connection between people. Even though the world is going to end, the fact that it’s here is a fascinating mystery.
I love that science tells us “how,” but not necessarily “why,” and that fascinates me.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I prefer the word "eccentric" over batshit crazy.
I think “globally,” in that I find it hard to even be grateful for what I have when so many have so much less.
I tend to be nihilistic, in that I’m not sure there’s any kind of purpose to life and that when it’s over, it’s just over. And in seven billion years, when the sun swallows our earth, nothing of our species will have mattered at all.
I feel like I have so much I want to share with others, but don’t really have the platform.
I love stories, and I think that’s it’s stories that make our lives. In fact, I would say that the universe itself is a story—at least as it concerns us.
I have a “mystical” side in that when I’m not being all nihilistic, I see that so many things in life are mysterious. So while things like “sex” can be boiled down to “biology,” it can also be elevated to a deep connection between people. Even though the world is going to end, the fact that it’s here is a fascinating mystery.
I love that science tells us “how,” but not necessarily “why,” and that fascinates me.
Thoughts from my gay friends here?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
There are just as many frugal gay people as partiers. A lot of it has to do with the person in general. My guess is she's hanging out with people who are very much the same as her. Hopefully, she'll meet some friends who will broaden her horizons a little so that she can find balance.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
There are just as many frugal gay people as partiers. A lot of it has to do with the person in general. My guess is she's hanging out with people who are very much the same as her. Hopefully, she'll meet some friends who will broaden her horizons a little so that she can find balance.
What's the most "sinful" thing you've ever done?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Alas, I have remained pure and chaste. In fact, my halo can be seen from space. ;)
I have cheated on my ex... out of revenge because he cheated on me. That didn’t really fix the problems, and didn’t make me feel great about myself. And now my ex is married to a woman and has three kids. We were still living together when he got married. His wife likes me and likes to have me talk to the kids, but doesn’t know about our relationship, only that we were roommates when he got married.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Alas, I have remained pure and chaste. In fact, my halo can be seen from space. ;)
I have cheated on my ex... out of revenge because he cheated on me. That didn’t really fix the problems, and didn’t make me feel great about myself. And now my ex is married to a woman and has three kids. We were still living together when he got married. His wife likes me and likes to have me talk to the kids, but doesn’t know about our relationship, only that we were roommates when he got married.
Do you find yourself still telling people to go to hell, even though you know there is no such ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Of course... It still has the emotional impact, so I might as well use it.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Of course... It still has the emotional impact, so I might as well use it.
Are you a cat person or a dog person and why
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I actually love both, dogs and cats, and especially the dogs and cats that get along.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I actually love both, dogs and cats, and especially the dogs and cats that get along.
Any John Oliver or Trevor Noah fans on here?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Love them both. I was worried when Trevor Noah took over the Daily Show. I had seen him do some of the bits, but could he carry the whole show? I think he's doing fine. When he started, I could see that he was worried, but he's been hittin' his groove, and really kicking things up.
John Oliver I liked when he was on The Daily Show... but he also did a podcast with a friend of his: John in New York, his friend in the UK, and they were hilarious. And now he’s getting better and better.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Love them both. I was worried when Trevor Noah took over the Daily Show. I had seen him do some of the bits, but could he carry the whole show? I think he's doing fine. When he started, I could see that he was worried, but he's been hittin' his groove, and really kicking things up.
John Oliver I liked when he was on The Daily Show... but he also did a podcast with a friend of his: John in New York, his friend in the UK, and they were hilarious. And now he’s getting better and better.
What's your inspiration?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I love to look at pictures of baby animals doing silly things... that inspires me. Trees inspire me too. I don't know what it is about them: that they live so long, that they dig deep into the earth and reach up into the sky, and move with the current around them. And Beethoven. His passion, his love of music, and his inspiration inspires me.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I love to look at pictures of baby animals doing silly things... that inspires me. Trees inspire me too. I don't know what it is about them: that they live so long, that they dig deep into the earth and reach up into the sky, and move with the current around them. And Beethoven. His passion, his love of music, and his inspiration inspires me.
Do You Procrastinate?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Procrastination is my thang! I'm PRO! I'm a PROcrastinater!
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Procrastination is my thang! I'm PRO! I'm a PROcrastinater!
What are 1-3 things (characteristics) you most love about yourself?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I like my sense of humor (though I'm probably the only one). My sister and I have a joke, I yell at her, “I’m funny DAMMIT!” And she just shakes her head.
I also love my love for music. Not my ‘taste’ in music, but my love for it. To me music is this transcendent “element?” that moves me, physically and emotionally. Everything from Beethoven to Brecik, Abba to AC/DC... there is so much wonderful music out there, and I get drawn into the very structure of it.
I also like my ability to tell a story. I love stories and they move me significantly. I get into a story and it “becomes” me... I can live a whole other life while still hanging about in this one.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I like my sense of humor (though I'm probably the only one). My sister and I have a joke, I yell at her, “I’m funny DAMMIT!” And she just shakes her head.
I also love my love for music. Not my ‘taste’ in music, but my love for it. To me music is this transcendent “element?” that moves me, physically and emotionally. Everything from Beethoven to Brecik, Abba to AC/DC... there is so much wonderful music out there, and I get drawn into the very structure of it.
I also like my ability to tell a story. I love stories and they move me significantly. I get into a story and it “becomes” me... I can live a whole other life while still hanging about in this one.
What are your deal breakers?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I have a couple, that are pretty big for me: Listens to country music... likes Ayn Rand... Is into pseudo science... And how they treat customer service people.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I have a couple, that are pretty big for me: Listens to country music... likes Ayn Rand... Is into pseudo science... And how they treat customer service people.
If you could teach everyone in the world one concept, what concept would have the biggest positive ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think the concept of "Emotional Intelligence": the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. If we could learn how to think on that level rather than the level we’re currently on, I think we would finally move the human race out of the “endangered” category, and put them firmly into the “recovering” category.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/emotional-intelligence
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think the concept of "Emotional Intelligence": the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. If we could learn how to think on that level rather than the level we’re currently on, I think we would finally move the human race out of the “endangered” category, and put them firmly into the “recovering” category.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/emotional-intelligence
What's your inspiration?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
One of the best books I've ever read on the subject of grieving is: “It’s Okay that You’re not Okay” by Megan Devine. What I like most about the book is that it doesn’t try to cover over the grief, or insist that you “get over it. It’s about how important it is to allow yourself to grieve, to face the loss, while at the same time moving forward into a life that’s pretty different than the one you just came from. It’s about accepting that good things and horrible things occupy the same space: they don’t cancel each other out. And learning to recognize those things teaches us how to find balance in our lives.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073XXYKLP
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
One of the best books I've ever read on the subject of grieving is: “It’s Okay that You’re not Okay” by Megan Devine. What I like most about the book is that it doesn’t try to cover over the grief, or insist that you “get over it. It’s about how important it is to allow yourself to grieve, to face the loss, while at the same time moving forward into a life that’s pretty different than the one you just came from. It’s about accepting that good things and horrible things occupy the same space: they don’t cancel each other out. And learning to recognize those things teaches us how to find balance in our lives.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073XXYKLP
POF - Plenty of Fish. Anyone familiar with it or use it? What are your thoughts on pof?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I'm not really interested in fish. I would really love an actual person. Besides, have you seen the conditions of our oceans at this point? They're dirty and polluted and over-fished. That’s right, there AREN’T plenty of fish in the sea. In fact, we have to create farms to grow them. ;)
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I'm not really interested in fish. I would really love an actual person. Besides, have you seen the conditions of our oceans at this point? They're dirty and polluted and over-fished. That’s right, there AREN’T plenty of fish in the sea. In fact, we have to create farms to grow them. ;)
GOD vs. Happiness
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Which is ironic, since they're some of the most miserable, frightened, paranoid people on the planet.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Which is ironic, since they're some of the most miserable, frightened, paranoid people on the planet.
I need some new music. What is your favorite pretty song?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
One of my favorite songs is the Abba song, "The Way old Friends Do," and "Like an Angel Passing Through my Room." I have about seven version (not an exaggeration) of “I Feel Love” by Donna Summer, and I could listen to One Republic’s “Love Runs Out” over a dozen times in a single sitting. There’s so much good music out there that it’s hard to keep up with it all.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
One of my favorite songs is the Abba song, "The Way old Friends Do," and "Like an Angel Passing Through my Room." I have about seven version (not an exaggeration) of “I Feel Love” by Donna Summer, and I could listen to One Republic’s “Love Runs Out” over a dozen times in a single sitting. There’s so much good music out there that it’s hard to keep up with it all.
Tough question here! Why are so many people absolutely certain the bible has NO truth in it if they ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I wouldn't look at the bible as anything but an epic mythological saga, along the lines of Odyssey and Iliad. While there is “truth,” for example, archaeologists did find Troy, but it’s more of a story about a particular human perspective on how the world works. In fact, the bible, particularly the Torah, is meant to do one thing... define the legitimacy of the priesthood and determine who’s God gets to rule the day.
There are thee (maybe four) authors of the Torah: P (priest) J (Yahweh—Jerusalem) E (Elohim) and D (Deuteronomist—and some scholars believe that there’s a D2—who might be the same person, writing after the fall of Jerusalem). Then of course there’s the redactor, the guy who put it all together (and it’s a guy).
And it’s all written for one reason. To justify their version of God and vilify the others. P, of the line of Aaron (the Aaronid Priests) elevated Aaron, the temple, and his legitimacy as Moses’ brother. They believed that priests must be of Aaron decent, and could only serve in the temple at Jerusalem.
J and E on the other hand believed that the priesthood should be of the lineage of Moses, and therefore took several digs at Aaron and his legitimacy—but also against the Jerusalem Priesthood. The story of the Golden Calf, for example, was written by E, and has a very political motive. First of all, he’s attacking the worship system at Shechem, AND the Aaronid priests in Jerusalem.
The entire discussion throughout the bible is really pretty simple. Who gets to worship God and where. Since most of the prophets were Aaronid, then it was Jerusalem. That is why they railed against the Israelite kings who allowed “high places,” (these were altars built so that worshippers outside the city could offer sacrifices). The Aaronid priests/prophets HATED that, and consider any king who allowed that an abomination.
This is the story of the bible... legitimacy of God. Because so many people never bother to read its actual history, they remain blissfully unaware of the politics behind it. But that’s what the bible is all about.
Even the New Testament is a political struggle: Paul’s “Christ” versus Jesus’ little brother, James. Paul would win the day because Rome would eventually sack Jerusalem, completely destroying it.
That’s the story of the bible. Who’s God gets the spotlight. It’s a fascinating story, and it’s “true” in that it’s the true story of a struggle for God, the truth is purely political.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I wouldn't look at the bible as anything but an epic mythological saga, along the lines of Odyssey and Iliad. While there is “truth,” for example, archaeologists did find Troy, but it’s more of a story about a particular human perspective on how the world works. In fact, the bible, particularly the Torah, is meant to do one thing... define the legitimacy of the priesthood and determine who’s God gets to rule the day.
There are thee (maybe four) authors of the Torah: P (priest) J (Yahweh—Jerusalem) E (Elohim) and D (Deuteronomist—and some scholars believe that there’s a D2—who might be the same person, writing after the fall of Jerusalem). Then of course there’s the redactor, the guy who put it all together (and it’s a guy).
And it’s all written for one reason. To justify their version of God and vilify the others. P, of the line of Aaron (the Aaronid Priests) elevated Aaron, the temple, and his legitimacy as Moses’ brother. They believed that priests must be of Aaron decent, and could only serve in the temple at Jerusalem.
J and E on the other hand believed that the priesthood should be of the lineage of Moses, and therefore took several digs at Aaron and his legitimacy—but also against the Jerusalem Priesthood. The story of the Golden Calf, for example, was written by E, and has a very political motive. First of all, he’s attacking the worship system at Shechem, AND the Aaronid priests in Jerusalem.
The entire discussion throughout the bible is really pretty simple. Who gets to worship God and where. Since most of the prophets were Aaronid, then it was Jerusalem. That is why they railed against the Israelite kings who allowed “high places,” (these were altars built so that worshippers outside the city could offer sacrifices). The Aaronid priests/prophets HATED that, and consider any king who allowed that an abomination.
This is the story of the bible... legitimacy of God. Because so many people never bother to read its actual history, they remain blissfully unaware of the politics behind it. But that’s what the bible is all about.
Even the New Testament is a political struggle: Paul’s “Christ” versus Jesus’ little brother, James. Paul would win the day because Rome would eventually sack Jerusalem, completely destroying it.
That’s the story of the bible. Who’s God gets the spotlight. It’s a fascinating story, and it’s “true” in that it’s the true story of a struggle for God, the truth is purely political.
Am I crazy for wanting to take a relationship super slow and let it become something wonderful ...
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I would say that life is balance. If you go too slow, you could lose it. If you go too fast, then you could mess it up. If you're using the term "organically" as something that just falls into place, I don't think that's possible. In fact, the fact that you're taking it "slow" means you're cultivating it, even now. So I would try and strike a balance, make sure that your partner is tracking, otherwise, the point could be mute.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I would say that life is balance. If you go too slow, you could lose it. If you go too fast, then you could mess it up. If you're using the term "organically" as something that just falls into place, I don't think that's possible. In fact, the fact that you're taking it "slow" means you're cultivating it, even now. So I would try and strike a balance, make sure that your partner is tracking, otherwise, the point could be mute.
Sex
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think it's a "mistake" to conflate sex with childbirth. Yes, sex is how we procreate, but there's so much more to sexuality that just procreation. In fact, sexuality is one of humankind's strongest drives most of the time. in fact, using an MRI, scientists have determined that several places in the brain kick in during sexual arousal, meaning that there’s much more going on than just babies. Sexuality also seems to have a ‘bonding’ affect on people, bringing them closer. I say, if it's possible to keep having sex, then keep doing it until your body runs out.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think it's a "mistake" to conflate sex with childbirth. Yes, sex is how we procreate, but there's so much more to sexuality that just procreation. In fact, sexuality is one of humankind's strongest drives most of the time. in fact, using an MRI, scientists have determined that several places in the brain kick in during sexual arousal, meaning that there’s much more going on than just babies. Sexuality also seems to have a ‘bonding’ affect on people, bringing them closer. I say, if it's possible to keep having sex, then keep doing it until your body runs out.
The Lovely Comments Republican Atheists Receives from Left Leaning Atheists - YouTube
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I don't understand Republican Atheism at this point. I understand atheists who have conservative "viewpoints," but today's Republican is the antithesis of atheism and agnosticism. The idea is thoughtfulness, data-based, science based, open to ‘reality’ whatever that may be. That is NOT today’s Republican. So when someone calls themselves an atheist and a Republican, I wonder if they’re just trolling. Every time I run across one, that’s what it looks like to me.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I don't understand Republican Atheism at this point. I understand atheists who have conservative "viewpoints," but today's Republican is the antithesis of atheism and agnosticism. The idea is thoughtfulness, data-based, science based, open to ‘reality’ whatever that may be. That is NOT today’s Republican. So when someone calls themselves an atheist and a Republican, I wonder if they’re just trolling. Every time I run across one, that’s what it looks like to me.
Do you find yourself automatically drawn to other nonbelievers?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Actually, I never really paid attention. Most of the people I know believe in something, but then so does ninety percent of the country. So the odds are high that I'm going to meet mostly believers.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Actually, I never really paid attention. Most of the people I know believe in something, but then so does ninety percent of the country. So the odds are high that I'm going to meet mostly believers.
Who are your people?
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I like smart people. I love to listen to them talk and explain things, and pontificate on the world.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I like smart people. I love to listen to them talk and explain things, and pontificate on the world.
I often wonder if life for most people is pleasant.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think that life is just moments. That's all we can really ask for. Nothing is permanent, and the happiest people seem to know that and have made peace with it.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
I think that life is just moments. That's all we can really ask for. Nothing is permanent, and the happiest people seem to know that and have made peace with it.
Co-worker
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Actually, you just defined "Christian" right there. It's unfortunate, but that's the way they operate. When someone tells me they're a Christian, then I know what I'm up against.
Benthoven comments on Mar 8, 2018:
Actually, you just defined "Christian" right there. It's unfortunate, but that's the way they operate. When someone tells me they're a Christian, then I know what I'm up against.
Do you still say "bless you" when someone sneezes?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I give them three "bless yous." So if they sneeze three times, I’ll give the three separate bless yous. However... if they keep sneezing beyond that, then I wait until their done and give them one blanket “Bless you.” I’ve only got a limited amount, and the weekend is coming up so I’ve got to save some of them.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I give them three "bless yous." So if they sneeze three times, I’ll give the three separate bless yous. However... if they keep sneezing beyond that, then I wait until their done and give them one blanket “Bless you.” I’ve only got a limited amount, and the weekend is coming up so I’ve got to save some of them.
My 12-yo daughter revealed to me yesterday that she’s gay. Should I...
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
It's good that she can come out at that early age. I knew I was "different," but in Riverton, Wyoming, in a fundamentalist household, being different was dangerous. It scared me. When I finally realized what was happening, I did everything in my power to hide it, but fairy dust gets everywhere. I was almost killed, people threw bottles at my head, I had to run from a lot of places... these are experiences I hope your daughter never has.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
It's good that she can come out at that early age. I knew I was "different," but in Riverton, Wyoming, in a fundamentalist household, being different was dangerous. It scared me. When I finally realized what was happening, I did everything in my power to hide it, but fairy dust gets everywhere. I was almost killed, people threw bottles at my head, I had to run from a lot of places... these are experiences I hope your daughter never has.
Would You keep dating someone who felt it was necessary to keep you a secret from their kids?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
It depends on the reasons. If I were dating someone with young kids, I would want to be kept secret from them until we knew whether or not it was going to go someplace. Children bond quite easily, and they don’t understand why someone they love will have suddenly left them, and I don’t want them to have to go through that if it’s not necessary.
If the children are older, then there’s the challenge of the changing dynamics of their family and that can be a struggle for them too. Again, I would rather wait until we knew where things were going so that we could build the trust of the kids and keep that trust.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
It depends on the reasons. If I were dating someone with young kids, I would want to be kept secret from them until we knew whether or not it was going to go someplace. Children bond quite easily, and they don’t understand why someone they love will have suddenly left them, and I don’t want them to have to go through that if it’s not necessary.
If the children are older, then there’s the challenge of the changing dynamics of their family and that can be a struggle for them too. Again, I would rather wait until we knew where things were going so that we could build the trust of the kids and keep that trust.
Kilts anyone?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it depends on the guy. If the guy is rugged, with amazine legs, I think kilts really work.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it depends on the guy. If the guy is rugged, with amazine legs, I think kilts really work.
Do you hold doors for women?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I'll hold the door for whoever is behind me.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I'll hold the door for whoever is behind me.
Do you prefer mountain or coastal scenery?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
Yes. But not in the winter.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
Yes. But not in the winter.
Does pineapple belong on pizza?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
The question of the ages. All I can say is we live in a country where everybody has the right to their own bliefs. That being said, keep that abomination out of my kitchen. ;)
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
The question of the ages. All I can say is we live in a country where everybody has the right to their own bliefs. That being said, keep that abomination out of my kitchen. ;)
What is your own opinion about the Law of Attraction?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it's brutal and perverse. It's another way of blaming the victim.
Did something horrible happen to you? Well, you attracted it by your thinking. Want money, then attract it. Don’t have money, that’s because you’re making it work against you. Some people even go so far as to refuse to hang out with poor people, or fat people, or people with whom they consider “negative” so that they don’t attract those things to their lives.
If something bad does happen, say, you were attacked,, then that’s because you and your attacker got together before you came here and agreed that this was how you were going to work things out.
It’s kind of a “spiritual” blame the victim scheme.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it's brutal and perverse. It's another way of blaming the victim.
Did something horrible happen to you? Well, you attracted it by your thinking. Want money, then attract it. Don’t have money, that’s because you’re making it work against you. Some people even go so far as to refuse to hang out with poor people, or fat people, or people with whom they consider “negative” so that they don’t attract those things to their lives.
If something bad does happen, say, you were attacked,, then that’s because you and your attacker got together before you came here and agreed that this was how you were going to work things out.
It’s kind of a “spiritual” blame the victim scheme.
What hobby would you get into if time and money weren’t an issue?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I'd produce music...
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I'd produce music...
What are some social etiquette rules everyone should know and follow?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I would say, put the phone away when talking with friends.
Put the phone down when standing in front of a customer service representative.
Don’t be texting one friend while talking to another.
When you go out drinking, disable messaging, chat, and all but emergency dialing.
You bring the phone into the movie theater, we get to dunk it in your drink.
Your ringtone is obnoxious, turn it down.
If you can’t stop butt-dialing, then you need to stop drinking.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I would say, put the phone away when talking with friends.
Put the phone down when standing in front of a customer service representative.
Don’t be texting one friend while talking to another.
When you go out drinking, disable messaging, chat, and all but emergency dialing.
You bring the phone into the movie theater, we get to dunk it in your drink.
Your ringtone is obnoxious, turn it down.
If you can’t stop butt-dialing, then you need to stop drinking.
Why?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
Because I said so. Now stop you're crying or I will GIVE you something to cry about. ;)
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
Because I said so. Now stop you're crying or I will GIVE you something to cry about. ;)
Do you say "god bless you" when someone sneezes?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I just say "bless you," unless they sneezed on me without covering their nose. Then I kinda cuss them out.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I just say "bless you," unless they sneezed on me without covering their nose. Then I kinda cuss them out.
Have you tried studying biblical history?
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I've spent a lot of time studying biblical history, and I find it fascinating. I view the bible as I vew The Iliad or Odyssey, or any other classic. It's a classic. That it had the misfortune of becoming what it's become today kind of sucks, but it is a literary classic.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I've spent a lot of time studying biblical history, and I find it fascinating. I view the bible as I vew The Iliad or Odyssey, or any other classic. It's a classic. That it had the misfortune of becoming what it's become today kind of sucks, but it is a literary classic.
Sexism
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it depends on who holds power.
Benthoven comments on Mar 5, 2018:
I think it depends on who holds power.
What’s one of your guilty pleasures?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Vodka and Supernatural.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Vodka and Supernatural.
Describe your real self, warts and all.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Alas, I've never met my real self. We stare at each other in the mirror from time to time, but we've never worked up the nerve to talk to each other.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Alas, I've never met my real self. We stare at each other in the mirror from time to time, but we've never worked up the nerve to talk to each other.
Who are your greatest role models?/Who is your greatest role model?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I really look up to J.K. Rowling. Not just because of Harry Potter, but because of her personal story.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I really look up to J.K. Rowling. Not just because of Harry Potter, but because of her personal story.
What's the best thing about being single?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I get to pick which side of the roll the toilet paper goes on.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I get to pick which side of the roll the toilet paper goes on.
Anyone enjoy listening to podcasts?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I listen to quite a few. I like The Infinite Monkey Cage, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, Skeptiod, just to name a few. There are a lot more in my player, but those are my favorites.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I listen to quite a few. I like The Infinite Monkey Cage, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, Skeptiod, just to name a few. There are a lot more in my player, but those are my favorites.
If you could describe yourself and your ideal partner as any fictional character (books, movies, tv,...
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Batman and Robin.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Batman and Robin.
how do you feel about the different genders and types of people coming out in the past few years?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I think we're becoming more away of the fluidity of sexuality and gender. We used to see these things in black and white, but now we're seeing in color, and it's changing how they look.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I think we're becoming more away of the fluidity of sexuality and gender. We used to see these things in black and white, but now we're seeing in color, and it's changing how they look.
Do you make your bed every day?
Why or why not?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I sleep on top of the covers so I don't have to. I hate a messy bed, but I hate making it more.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I sleep on top of the covers so I don't have to. I hate a messy bed, but I hate making it more.
Does anybody find Deja Vu uncanny? What is your theory on it?
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Depending on the intensity. If it's that "premonition-like" feeling, that totally freaks me out. If it's me sitting somewhere feeling like I've been here before, that's okay, unless there are added emotions.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Depending on the intensity. If it's that "premonition-like" feeling, that totally freaks me out. If it's me sitting somewhere feeling like I've been here before, that's okay, unless there are added emotions.
Grown up fun
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Hmm, now I have to think back to when I had friends...
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
Hmm, now I have to think back to when I had friends...
This happened to me during my college days.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I vote for nutter. Real-life spies aren't about to draw any attention to themselves (unless you're James Bond). It was probably staged.
Benthoven comments on Mar 3, 2018:
I vote for nutter. Real-life spies aren't about to draw any attention to themselves (unless you're James Bond). It was probably staged.
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