Very Pissed

Not at all I have cut many people out of my life for pushing their delusional beliefs. Those types are rude, arrogant, and a royal pain in the ass causing far more stress in your life than they are worth...

Passive-Agressive?

I can see why you are upset but it is totally meaningless so I would let it go.
I was baptised as a baby and the date and name of the minister is written on my birth certificate.

I have seen advertised "depabtism certificates" but what's the point , it's a load of nonsense anyway.

My advice would be to let it go. It's a meaningless moment of time in the totality of your father's life. If nothing else, this serves as a good example in terms of why people should put their final wishes to paper. Had your dad done that - i.e., specifically stated that he didn't want to be baptized - it wouldn't have happened. This is the final decision that most people will make - what should be done as they're dying and after they die. If it matters, to me it doesn't, put it in writing.

I don’t think you were wrong, but being angry served no purpose.

No harm no foul. Family’s are crazy. As long as she didn’t spend a fortune on it and ruin lives then it seems like it’s a, “it is what it is,” situation.

It happened to my mum, she was and still is in care, our aunt did some nonsense over her knowing she is Jewish and disagrees with her belief. I told her daughter this was overstepping my mum,s rights! I had a twinge for a week but it dissolved, l give it a grain of sand in importance ,this is helpful to assign to crap in our lives.

Personally I wouldn't be upset. I try to have no discontent for religious people. To each his own. If it made her feel good then allow it and respect it. According to the "bible" etc a person has to make a self proclaimed repentance etc. Your father didn't do this on his own free will? So even if Christianity were true it wouldn't matter. But who cares. So many of us non believers have so much hate in us for religious sects that we live a sad life, never truly happy, always angry. I want to respect everyone's beliefs. Regardless if they respect mine. It makes life good.

For me, I am disappointed that your dad’s wife, did not honor your dad, by allowing him to exist as he believed! We don’t own each other and the greatest gift we can give one another is respect for who we are and what we believe? It can still not be our choice! Obviously, the wife was fearful that her husband might be in danger of going to ‘hell!’ How short sighted on her part! She cannot save a single person from ‘hell,’ if there was one! If your relationship has had some kindly moments over time, I would chalk the baptism up to ignorance and enjoy the now! Religion is dividing us up into unforgiving parts...are we not more than this?

Some thing similar happened in my life also. I was born in Pakistan. The only atheist person I knew was my Father. . Loved his outlook on life and his reasoning for not believing in . So I became an atheist at age 6. Came to America for studies at age 21. Finished studies and married a college sweetheart and decided to stay here. My father stayed in Pakistan. As he grew old and sick , my mother and my siblings pressured the sick man to find and pray so his soul can find heaven. My father died 8 years back.
My children are lucky. Both the parents were atheists. My ex wife’s parents were also atheists. So not pressure on my children. Both are adults. Both are free thinking non believers.

U have a right to be upset in my opinion but punishing her by not seeing her grandkids is a little far I would tell her u can see them but any Christian talk or going against wat I say and u won't see them again. She has to respect u as u have to respect her. And if she doesn't then u take the rights to see her grandkids I know ur upset cos she had him baptized even tho u know ur dad would nvr want that. She still has rights to see kids until she over steps ur authority.. yes ur his daughter but she was married to him meaning she had rights to do wat she did.if that makes sense

Just let it go! It does not matter now. The only person you are hurting by holding on to this anger is yourself. Your Dad does not care and she does not care. I have learned that if others find comfort from following traditions, religious or not, let them. As long as it does not physically or mentally hurt the person. Let them do it.... and let it go.

Why are you doubting your believes?

If there's no god and no soul to save, then how could it possibly matter to him, or to you? It could no longer have bothered him and it did make her feel better. She was losing her husband forever and was worried and hurt. No harm done. Not worth your anger.

No respect for others. That is the cornerstone of so many religious nutjobs. Worship your sky daddy all you want but keep your delusional ass away from me! My mom's funeral will be chocablock full of her religion because I respect her.

When my grandma died her sister added some god crap in the wake. Grandpa when he died no wake no nothing. His ashes scattered across the sea. Grandma wanted the same no wake no god no big deal. I was annoyed but guess her brothers and sisters needed it. Mom was annoyed

Well.. .... what she did was completely wrong, but forgivable in my eyes. I'm a very forgiving person though. What did she actually accomplish? Nothing!!

I let my ex-wife baptize our daughter when she was young. I figured it didn't hurt anything and made a lot of silly people happy. They were surprised that I didn't object. But when the minister asked if we wanted any bible quotes presented, I should have mentioned Psalms 137:9: "Blessed is he who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks".

Are those really the only two choices? Seriously?

If your mother was a good person and she was a good wife and she was a good mother and he was no longer able to function and be conscious as a human being and it made her be able to cope better with the loss of her life mate... I'd let it slide

Dealing with one’s own death and the death of loved ones is very personal. Of course she did it for herself. The funerals we have are for the living to move on from the grief etc. As someone who deals with people dying and having to tell their family members this I have seen pretty much every reaction. Also, as a nontheist I still always ask if there is someone they want me to call for them_a friend, pastor, the Chaplin etc. At my previous hospital the Chaplin was an awesome guy who could hold very nonjudgmental conversations with anyone.

Holy shit..yeah i said that. I would be upset but at the end of the day I suppose if that's how she had to cope...he won't care or know now....and all that is for the living. I have made it very clear i want to be donated 100 percent to science. If my survivors don't comply I will never know.

She did a bad thing for what she thought was a good reason. I would forgive her. She must have cared for him.

Unless there was negative affect of the baptism, as an Atheist, this may have been annoying but in reality it was a non-event. My adult son and I (both Atheists) frequently debate whether or not religion is benign or actually has a negative effect on people but we have only debated the topic for a couple years so no final conclusion.