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I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When someone looks appealing, of course I check out their profile. What do y'all think about my automatic deletion of anyone's message if their profile says "Christian", "Baptist", or whatever, under religious beliefs? Am I being intolerant, or just time-effective?

Wendy965 5 Aug 29
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You're using your time wisely.

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Often when one is "just somewhat religious" it turns out that their indoctrination comes out at the most inoppertune times, such as when morality comes up they tend to insist that their morals come from God, and we simply lack their highly esteemed morals. It is better to stick to those who base their lives on what is real. Sky daddys are just things that I don't need in my life or the bedroom.

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Hi Wendy I live in Pueblo but by some chance would enjoy to meet you in person !! Maybe take a evening and enjoy the zoo lights !! tis the season !!

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You are definitely saving yourself some time.

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I use a somewhat less rigid filter. It applies to the profiles that include God-fearing, Jesus-loving or church going in the essay section. If I filtered anyone who picked Christian in the Religion: drop down, that'd be about 90%.

Filtering out 90%, I'm trying to figure out if that's a good thing or a bad thing! But YEAH great point, especially considering I work 2nd shift, that probably eliminates a good 80% of matches anyway... unless one is cool with only getting together on the weekends. It's been quite a while since I had a sexual relationship but as I recall I prefer more frequency 🙂

@Wendy965 Lately I could filter 100% with no loss except time

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Maybe you're just used to the closed-minded reaction others have when it comes to religion? I can't stand a religion-pusher

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Its ususally a waste of time, now sometimes those sites kinda corner you into listing a source of religion, so I would be curious as to their view on that, esp if its christian, immediately find out if theyre trumtarded or not,lol and I would find out right away just to not waste time, you would think a christian would hate trump, but this hasnt been my expierence so far! Lol I just can't do christianity or right of center,, but I can say this is the only site im active in thats considered a "dating site", but I consider it a more of a community type of site, and thats why I enjoy alot of the topics and groups, Ive always felt amongst friends here,and know if it lead to more, then religion issues are definately not gonna be an issue or politics,, idk, is there a atheist for trump group here? ive never checked,lol

Interesting question, ARE there any atheists in favor of trump? I have family and friends who are idiots, er I mean trump supporters, and these are people I also know to be religious nutcases. I don't have enough atheists in my circle to know if left-wing is another of our common denominators...

@Wendy965 id say most likely, though i do remember a few trumlards in the beginning complaining this site was too liberal,, theres always a yellow pea in every bushel,lol

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Time management skills...10

I swipe left at any sign of religion. This stage of my life I don't need the headache.

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You are being time-effective.

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Having had more than one relationship end because I refused to buy into her religious beliefs, I am with you on automatically ruling out anyone with religious tendencies, other than possibly Buddhist.

I’ve been dating a Witch, when her magic doesn’t work she throws her hands up and says, “I gave it my best shot”. Or some variant to save face... I am amused by the need to make excuses for her beliefs.. she gets that I think it’s silly, at least she doesn’t believe in God so I can deal, the sex is good.

@ArdentAtheist, my last girlfriend was pagan. I might consider dating another one.

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Maybe try a generic “I don’t date religious people message. I think sometimes people affiliate themselves with a religion they grew up in even though they don’t practice it.

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time-effective. if you wouldn't be able to connect with someone whose christianity means so much to them that they'd think to put it on their profiles on a dating site, consider that they're being cost-effective too, by turning you away. it's mutual. it hurts no one. they don't want you to be tolerant of them. they probably wouldn't tolerate you!

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Sometimes folk are less than honest on some of these sites as a means of self protection when it comes to religious beliefs. Fear of being recognized and targeted in some fashion in certain areas is not only real, but justified. So I'd check it out with them first, unless you see it as a principle.

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Time effective... I do the same thing. Why waste their time or mine? I decided I cannot be with someone who is religious. So when they talk about Jesus or God or being a Christian I just don't look any further.

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I overlook people that state they're believers. I've been in enough relationships like that. Dating sites are about getting those things out in the open so nobody's time is wasted.

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I believe your doing the right thing. From experience I've found that being in a relationship with someone that's religious creates an underlying tension that lingers forever. If they don't agree with you then your beliefs are just tolerated. That's preferred and appreciated in a friendship but creates resentment in a LTR.
Lesson learned, the hard way.

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I practice the same time saving tactics. ...if a woman says she voted for TrumpOLINI SHE IS DELETED

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You are being time effective.
Sure they might only put religion, for whatever reasons and they might say it out of habit.
But... Is it worth it to out in the time and energy into a possible relationship and then find out they were serious about their religion?

I do the same thing. I will swipe left so to speak if they mention religion in their summary

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Well, that is a good question. In my opinion, you need to have the big picture. If everything else in the profile is good for you, then, you can start by asking the person to explain why he believes. If he starts explanining, that is a good sign for you and there is a possibility to have his heart and to have him change team and join the truth and stop believing. This is because believers always lose when they start explaning. If he avoided explaining why he believes and tells you that is something in you heart, don't waist your time.

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My first reaction was hell no we don't want anything to do with those ignoramus's, but then, I remember that it wasn't that long ago that I was one of them, and if there's a chance that one of them might have questions that you could help them answer, then a response like if you are interested in learning about reality, then this could be your lucky day. Or words to that effect.
That's how I deal with people I meet in the streets, if you're interested in learning how to be an Atheist, we'll talk, otherwise fuck off.

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There is a HUGH difference between atheists and anti-theists. I hope you are not a part of the latter. I am a true liberal. god forbid (pun intended) not a "progressive" liberal. They are anything but. So as long as one's religion is not doing any damage, they are welcome to it.

Anti-theist here, what's so wrong with being one?

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Why would there be an issue with not wanting to share your bed with religious types? It's going to be a source of conflict in the relationship. People choose who to date by physical characteristics that a person can't change(height, skin color, country of origin, ethnicity). Why not choose your partner over that which they can change(religion, health habits, cleanliness)

Excellent points, Rick! So true, I wouldn't date someone who does drugs regularly, or doesn't bathe or exercise. Religion IS something that one chooses to follow or not, even if one THINKS they have no choice because they were raised with it. People are raised by physically abusive parents, doesn't make it right...

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I also pass on the religious. I know it will be a point of contention, so why bother? I feel it's like starting a relationship based on a lie.

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Is the only option . I don't give believers of any god or faith or whatever any time of mine . I just can't date stupid ? I am not the smartest but at least not the stupidest . No .

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I'd say time effective. No point in wasting people's time if it won't work from the beginning.

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