I sort of fit into that. My circle is almost down to me alone these days. I like being alone but I can be in a group and talk of many things. I work with the public but could also give a speech to a crowd. I cherish my alone time most of all.
Even so, I remember working in a factory where I saw 2 men walking along and one points me out. He says - "See that man. He will follow you around talking to you." It was funny because the one man was following the other man at the time.
Since I do love to talk you would think I would love texting. Not so. I hate it. Everyone walks around with there head down and smiling at their phone. Mine is in my pocket or I left it in my car. Not so long ago a person got my number and said now we can text each other. Why? I send a text only if you sent me one and it has some importance.
I work in the public so by the time I get home I usually prefer to be alone... there is no way I could speak in front of a large crowd.
My head does stay in my phone, mostly because I always hope if I am focused there no one will bother me.
I'm retired so it's usually me and my dog and cats. When I'm out walking my dog I talk people, there are a few I see often since they are out walking their dogs too. That is about enough socializing for me. I've worked with people who couldn't bear to be alone, which would be a terrible way to be since inevitably you are going to spend time alone especially as you get older. It's something I could never empathize with; good books, a few hobbies, some snuggly critters works for me.
Well....I am seldom alone....usually have one of three dogs with me....and my life romantic love lives in the same house with me...we get along really well......I know a few good people, some that I could probably count on for help if needed, and could for sure count on me.....when I'm in a crowd...its like my brain short-circuits, like theres a radio on each side of my head, full blast, on different stations....in a crowd with one speaker is okay, but many conversations...is too much. Just too much input for my feeble brain.
My brain shuts down when the background noise, conversations, whatever becomes too loud, too many, too whatever. I may have a short circuit.
@Heidi68 yeah...I'm no good trying to multi-task either...wind up throwing things out the door.....radios, t.v.s, computers, people, ect.. .....you must have a breaker switch..."brain shut down"...those must be nice.
I need mostly time alone in near-perfect silence (unless I'm intentionally watching something on Netflix or listening to music), punctuated by occasional periods of socialization with one to three friends. Even three other people is pushing it, but any more than that and it becomes a dreaded "group."
I like the company of one other person at a time. Paired up. One focus.
It's almost always been a life with a few close friends, four to six.
I love to go out to happy hour, karaoke or card party with friends, then have a "just me" day at home. Too much of either makes me feel tired.
I can function anywhere and work a room with ease if I have to, but smaller more intimate groups or one on one is where I thrive.
I always seem like a gregarious social butterfly but in reality I'm a reclusive hermit who hardly ever leaves the house. I haven't left my property in around 3 weeks. My business is on my property so clients come here only for brief drop offs and pick ups. I cannot stand crowds at all.
I could easily stay on my property if I didn't have to work...
@Heidi68 I know people who keep black widows as pets. I don't though. Just harmless tarantulas. I'm not an expert in the venomous species (not snake ones either). I did run into some black widows and brown recluse when on a dig in California. Luckily I didn't have any issues with them.
I am highly allergic to one of my tarantulas' urticating hairs. I just wear gloves when cleaning her tank.
To be honest, I only have a few friends that I trust in this world. I'm turning into a hermit, but it is by choice. Unless if it is a concert or something, I'd much rather have one or two good friends around rather than a dozen fake people.
I like quality relationships and if that means just one person, i'm happy with that. I don't really like to be alone, but if no good humans are around, i surround myself with animals.
I definitely have that 'problem'.... no quality humans plenty of wonderful critters
I love people, but I prefer peace and quiet, away from civilisation. ?
I loved when I lived in WA State. We lived across the sound from Seattle, secluded along the water but could take a ferry ride to 'civilization' for a few hours. And just as quickly head back to seclusion. That was almost perfect.
@Heidi68 I may need to move to Washington State someday. I'm perfectly okay with a secluded life. As long as I'm with or surrounded by nature, trees, etc.
I'm not big around a large group of people. I prefer a small group and I can handle being by myself. I think it comes from me suffering from social anxiety disorder for most of my life and after my stroke removed this "affliction", not something I would recommend, I spent a great deal of time trying to learn how to interact with people again.
I'm happiest with small groups of friends. I'm a well known person but I don't do well in crowds. I do fine if I can set myself apart from them but I can get anxious if I'm a part of them.
well, yes. i am happy sometimes in a large group, though not a crowd; other times i'm happy with a small circle of friends or even one friend; other times i am happiest being alone. it depends on how i feel at the moment, which might depend on with whom i have been most recently (if i have been with people for a while, yeah, i need some alone time, and if i've been alone for a while, maybe i need some people time).
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