@Shouldbefishing I know that’s the fallacy that doings to my mind when I see that kind of language.

@Shouldbefishing I think we both agree there’s not a good answer to that.

was thinking the same thing.

@Marcel3405 which is more or less the same

Not always.

Maybe because the men are always looking for that hot bi babe.

Most of the functions I've been to specifically ban single men because of that.

Patriarchy and perception.

@kiramea I have friends that are into polly and I can tell you that there are no hot babes there, and the men are no better. Just a lot of sorry looking individuals that to me seem to be desperate.

@Jolanta I have always been in poly relationships. I can't even count how many men have asked me at gatherings if I would have sex with their wife while they watch (and I don't consider myself hot).

It's not all men. I should have clarified that. It is enough men to where I stopped going to all poly gatherings because I felt like I was in a swing situation (for those that are not familiar, there is a difference between the two).

@kiramea I do know the difference between those two. Tell how come that you have always been in poly relationships?

@Jolanta I personally believe that you can be in love with more than one person at a time. With that said, I don't usually date others but I want to have that option if I find someone I would like to know better.

@kiramea One always have the option whether one is in monogamous or poly relationships. It is just a matter of what level one is talking about.

@Marcel3405 Exactly.

From what I've seen, there's usually a primary couple and they each have a date night or such. A true triangle is pretty rare. Sometimes it's two married couples who swap, or variations on that theme. There are books and online groups and meet ups galore, and I think it's pretty rare to find happy people who have done this long term. But, the few who do, also don't come to meet ups or write books, because they know their way is not the only way.

@Allamanda could be. Lots of people are very judgmental about it even without religion, though, just look around here.

@Allamanda what dishonesty? Poly couples are very honest about what they're doing. I can understand judging someone who says they're monogamous and isn't, if that's what you mean. Hell, I do that but I judge them as liers to themselves and their partner.

@Allamanda I think there's a lot of misunderstanding that leads to judgment from society as a whole, though. The supposed "ideal" relationship is pounded into us as being exclusive to each other, and people start out from the perspective of monogamy as being inherently "right" because of this.

@Allamanda Mormon is a one way street that's inherently misogynistic and religion based.