To fellow scientists: How do you deal with people in social settings that speak with authority while doling out woo, bullshit, science denial, and confabulation? I spent some time working as an educator. Spreading correct information and dispelling disinformation is a big part of who I am. But it's not nice always being the person in the group correcting misinformation. I've unfollowed most of the people on FB who follow me for my expert opinion in my area of expertise. I am dismayed that other professional people dish out so much crap! I'm running out of even shallow friends after I find out the weird crap they believe in. Advice?
A co-worker started texting me regularly. Many texts use to have religious suggestions. After about 4 years, he is my best friend. But the texts arn't religious anymore. But I didn't just plainly ask him to stop with that. I asked thought provoking questions. When he suggested to please God, I asked, "how is God pleased?" He replied with the pat answer of the commandments. But it eventually occured to him that I am not religious and he dispensed with the religious stuff. And I did not have to seriously offend him.
I am a science educator and have the same problem. I try to date and have problems getting through the first one. They usually believe in something crazy and won't keep it to themselves. The last one was a climate science denier. I do have friends who believe crazy things and keep it to themselves. That's OK as long as they don't expect me to listen to it.
When a friend posted some anti-vaxx BS on FB I called her instead of having a public debate. Calmly I explained the history of the disproven, falsified study that started the movement and the risks to her child. I told her that my information came from a college microbiology class I took a few years ago, not the web and backed up the information with weblinks to the World Health Organization and others. She took down the post and vaccinated her son.
I research and share information, I don't put energy into "converting" or "informing" someone else. Most can only comprehend based on their level of intelligence and cognitive bias.
While I disagree with many, especially brainwashed lower and middle class Americans who religiously vote Republican. I don't unfollow them or don't listen to their point of view.
I have learned to listen to another's point of view, disagree with it and move on.
If I care about the topic (not their misconception) I may counter by asking questions which seed doubt into their narrative. Show results or conclusions based on the topic at hand.
It is what we do, not say that matters. I feel the same with topics online.
Most of the time however, when deciding to expend energy in informing a misinformed topic. Those spouting it will eventually just shut down and or dismiss anything that doesn't support their existing narrative. Even if the counter to the narrative is double or triple confirmed by independent sources.
Agree to disagree and follow your own path.
Biggest problem I've had is with old co-workers. If they violate the boundaries, I walk out/away. In social settings with friends acquaintes, i try to put my opinions out there.... If they are unwilling to accept my words while insisting i accept their's, i pay my tab and leave. It may be childish - take my ball and going home - but for my peace of mind, i can't have it stress me out. If i'm entertained by the speaker, that's a different scenario. But bothered, i get out as soon as i can. (But i have no job and no friends, so.... Um... Maybe im not the best to give advice.)
I hear what you're saying. I've let some people on FB go as they were posting such nonsense and fake news. If a conversation comes up where there is a bunch of misinformation I'll sometimes say, "You know there is research and evidence to the contrary." Sometimes I'm asked to explain further, but mostly I'm ignored. I'm also an educator, which I think works against me as people know I'm well-read, and they don't want to be shown their thinking is faulty.
I also point out when people are rude. Recently I posted an article on my FB about one of the democratic candidates. One of my friends commented, "Geez, being in higher education has gotten to you." I responded back that taking a cheap shot at me as a professional just because she didn't support this candidate was rude. She stated it is a well known fact that academics are radical leftists. I posted a research study showing that 50% of academics tend to be centrists, and that in my own experience I worked around more conservative minded than liberal. She would have none of it. Long story short, another friendship bites the dust.
It's maddening, it's sad, and I haven't found a solution to it myself. Except just to keep the conversation to mundane topics, or stay silent.
Sorry I'm not a scientist so I can't give you any advice. If I was a scientist I would suggest giving them the truth and showing them how they're wrong. That goes over really well on this site where people will call you a troll because they don't like your answer and they can't back up their argument. If you don't want to stand out in the crowd you just have to grin and bear it. Or something like "you might want to check your sources on that" and then leave it alone
I've come to accept (to some degree) that it isn't my purpose in life to correct all the bullshit that makes it into my orbit. I'm a high school teacher, and it can be damned hard in class to correct nonsense that only touches on my subject area, but I find myself correcting a few things outside of my area when the need arises (and when I am the least bit unsure, I say so, or tell students to ask the appropriate teacher...or if it a simple fact I do not know, I google it). That's WORK.
We don't get paid to correct nonsense around us 24/7. And we'd drive ourselves crazy just attempting it.
There's lots of BS out there and many take it seriously. I knew an Engineer once who believed he helped build the pyramids. Just the other day I saw a person looking on the Internet and claiming that a woman in labor was going to get an abortion. In hindsight now I wish I would have remarked "tell her she had better hurry up."
Good scientists enjoy being proven wrong. They relish it...especially if your proof is detailed or documented well.
Pseudo-scientists espouse lots of info but rarely "cite" their sources. They come on as "know-it-alls" and instead of telling you sources, they'll put the onus on you to "prove me wrong".
So to answer your question of "How do you deal with people in social settings that speak with authority..."
"as a teacher, I constantly reminded my students that "being a scientist" is a state of mind...not a paid position.
If you are a calm skeptic....not rude, not arrogant...you just quietly demand the facts and evidence - you're being "a scientist". If the person espousing the information is reluctant to "show proof" then you've won the scientific debate; you're being the scientist....they're not.
It is important to keep these dialogs going and not always jump to unfriend or block as the flow of factual information influences some who deny and arms others who do not with stronger arguments and also confidence that they are not outliers. It is difficult and sometimes demoralizing but absolutely necessary.
Back when I was a little confused on Capital Punishment, I wrote Amnesty International that I was going to leave them over their opposition to Capital Punishment (I was 22). A week later, the frickin President of Amnesty International called me and we talked for almost 30 minutes. He asked me my top 5 reasons to be in support of Capital punishment and he calmly, dispassionately, and thoroughly explained the reasons why my top 5 were actually misinformed or not fair assumptions. Totally won me over. But I'll never forget his dedication.