And... that's what dating is for.

Long ago in Derbyshire I had lunch with a woman from a supplier company ... she was wearing a suede leather skirt and boots and a quite tight blouse ... one thing led to another and we went back to her house 'for coffee'. Once there she dropped the skirt to the floor revealing black suspenders and stckings - no panties.... it didn't take long before we were on her bed. wish I had noticed the leather belts, riding crops and a variety of toys laid about the room.
Enough of an afternoon to find that pain/pleasure sadomasochistic sex is not my thing.

Paranoid, Crackpot Gun Nut

I met a local man for the first time at a restaurant, and was alarmed that he was carrying a gun in a shoulder harness.

During lunch he lectured me, trying to convince me to buy a Glock pistol for self-protection. “I have never owned a gun and will never buy one,” I said firmly.

This opened the floodgate to his paranoid, crackpot beliefs. He sounded crazier and crazier insisting:

1. American government will fail in our lifetime.

2. Without food deliveries, water, gas and electricity, America will descend into anarchy.

3. Hungry crowds from big cities will swarm into Eastern Washington, looking for food and shelter.

4. For protection he has a huge arsenal of guns. He tried to buy (an illegal) rocket launcher.

5. When anarchists try to seize his house, he will defend it to the death with GUNS BLAZING!!!!

6. Because of this imminent threat, he is selling his house in East Wenatchee and moving to the mountains of remote Okanogan County, retreating into the mountains.

I stood up. “You are too negative for me,” I said. “I don’t think we make a good match. Thank you for lunch.”

I backed out quickly, mindful that he had a gun.

This was just this past January. Just started dating this guy maybe two months prior. Invited him to a concert in LA as a birthday present. He seemed psyched to go and even said he'd drive. Well, for one thing I found out he had a daughter (older, 20) but on the dating site he said he didn't have kids. His age on the dating site says 45 but he's really 55! (don't us women always get taunted for lying about our ages?). About 10 minutes out from the venue he starts down playing the concert...wondering where this was going. Long story short; he was meeting a guy friend, he made an excuse NOT to walk in with me and basically ditched me for the entirety of the concert. We met back at the car afterwards, his friend introduced himself and promptly apologized for "keeping" him the whole time but my date never even apologized. Needless to say, after we got back to his place (where my car was parked), I said "See ya'!" and haven't talked to him since.

Crazy. What a thing to say!

I’d be out the door at the C word!

I met a woman at a bar in Bangkok once who turned out to be not quite so feminine as I thought. Those katoey can be extremely convincing. It was a straight bar, but it turned out they were there to meet up with one of the bar girls who worked at the place.

All the while we were talking, I was wondering why something was wrong. My hormones should have been raging, but nothing was happening for me. I figured out why when I looked at her hands, which were about the size of mine. I asked her as discretely as possible if she was trans and she said that she was.

That put a damper on the whole thing for me, but apparently she didn’t get the picture even when I said that wasn’t really my sort of thing. She kept trying to convince me that I wouldn't know if I liked it until I tried it, and I knew then what it must be like for a woman when she’s dealing with some guy who won’t take no for an answer.

Fortunately, one of the bar girls came over and rescued me from the situation by striking up a conversation with me. I believe the mama-San also went and got her friend and told her to discreetly get her out of the bar, because they soon left together.

I’ve always operated under the principle that no means no, but this experience showed me exactly why. It’s no fun being the victim of an overbearing jerk who won’t take no for an answer.

She was either a total messed up lady, or, found a way to let you down easy - it was her, not you.

I'm a big guy, gnarled and scarred, she thought strong arm robbery was a fun date idea. She came across crazy enough for it to be some Bonnie and Clyde fantasy and sleazy enough to just want the bloody money. Either way seemed to indicate she was up for some immediate wild sex but that was pretty much when I had to leave too.

Yup dodged a huge one total train wreck

Count your blessings, lol... You dodged a bullet with that one!

Any bad dates I may have had would have been from my 20's. In more recent history, it never even made it to a date. I was stood up on a first date because a guy forgot he was going out of town and had to do his laundry... ouch!