Don't get married.

The short story: My ex was a binge drinker.

The long story: A few times a year he would drink to the point of puking (on various surfaces) and blacking out. Once passed out right in front of the toilet. That's when my pity for his drinking problem stopped. I asked him to get help and he never did. 3 years before our divorce, he went out drinking and never came home. I got a call at 730 am that he was in county jail he had a BAL of 0.20 and he said he barely felt that drunk. I paid his $1000 bail. He also had a few suicide gestures, with his handgun. The last time I had to talk him down from the edge, it gave me PTSD, because I told him that the next time he did that I would have to call 911, so I grabbed the phone and told him I was going to call. He told me he could pull the trigger before they ever got there.

Our kids were sleeping upstairs.

I froze for about a minute, and then told him if that's what he felt he needed to do, that he needed to take it somewhere else because our children were sleeping upstairs.

He snapped out of it, but left the house for about an hour.

The next day I turned him into his church (at that time he was working the sound board of his church for about a year) and told them I couldn't deal with this problem anymore and could they help. They did.

After that, I got into therapy and al-anon and adult children of alcoholics. Two years later, we divorced. It was probably the best thing for both of us, because then he, too went into ACA. No, not AA because he didn't want to give up the drinking. But at least he's getting some kind of help.

Because my partner found it impossible to resist attractive younger people!

There isn't enough server space for all the reasons why my marriage failed.

Not officially married but commited to a monogamous live together relationship for 15 years. Failed because I asked him to stop sucking me financially dry. I suddenly became the bitchy one, do your share, be responsible. Thank goodness I did not legally marry him, he'd run up $13,000 in credit card debt I knew nothing about. Missed the sex but not the stress of the failing relationship.LOL

It was time...

1st marriage - I left an alcoholic and an abuser after 16 years.
2nd marriage-Alcohol abuse, PTSD issues never resolved. Only 2 years.

To say we grew apart is an understatement. He grew more conservative and religious and spent all his spare time with his hymnal website. The kids tell us we should have called it quits years before.

Because he was screwing anything that moved?

I woke up one day and realized he's a misogynistic, controlling, narssistic sociopath who had been cheating on me for months... The day after I confronted him with the truth, he walked out on his family. Of course he called me crazy and every name other than my own... Moved in with his whore of a mistress... To think it took me 10 years of wasting my life to finally get my life back...

My wife was insane and we jumped into things too quickly.

Alcoholism and verbal abuse to go along with it.

I think because she was verbally and physically abusive, that's about the size of it.

ask my lawyer, only £60 per hour !

We weren't in love and never should have married. She wanted to marry me because all her friends were getting married, I was successful and she wanted to stop working. We married on the condition we never had kids. She begged me to have kids after 5 years. She never loved them either, they were just a means of keeping her claws in me. Eventually kids and I left.
I married her because I had not dated much, had no idea what I was doing, was very immature and young. I had just turned 20 when it was all organised, she was a few years older.

Breakdown of communication

She decided she wanted a man who was home more and not working two jobs to pay the bills. Found out she had been auditioning my replacement for two years.

Which one?

She wasn't who she thought she was and so wasn't who I thought she was. Then we kept trying to make it work for way too long. We get along fine now, but I am not sure much has changed.

Lots of reasons, mostly bad reasons for getting married, a partner who though only one of us had to make any effort and then the final straw was that she believed god gave her a hug and held her and and she could no longer be with the atheist she married. That and she was not a happy person who thought, and I though, I could make her happy. You can't make other people happy, that was my big take away.

Because I didnt know what was required.

She was and is stuck: emotionally, physically, financially, sexually and job-wise. Too many years of trying/waiting for her to get her unstuck. If I was in my 20's or even 30's I might wait around to see if she can make some progress. I'm 55 and too old for this shit.

We just grew apart. But I’m happy with my girlfriend now so it’s all good.

My marriage failed because I was reared fundamentalist Southern Baptist and couldn't accept my sexual orientation, gay, until my 40s. Annnd she is truly 'cuckoo for cocoa puffs'. She's #MessianicJewish now after Methodism, Baptist, Presbyterian etc. 3 of our 4 children will have nothing to do with her. They've been seriously hurt by her religion(s).

While I was in Australia visiting my sister he moved in his 86 year old mother for ME to take care of when I got home. Lots of other reasons but that was the last straw.