I made a mistake and am now being shamed for it, I went out with a couple of friends because it was the night of my senior prom, there was drinking and a lot of other things and sometime in the night someone slipped something into my drink, I blacked out and when I came back to my senses or as much sense as I could, I was at home with my father looking down at me telling me how much of an idiot I was I twisted my ankle and might have a slight concussion but am not allowed to go to the hospital for it bc I did this to myself, I made the mistake of going out for one last hurrah before I graduated and now I'm being shamed and shunned for it, what do I do? How do I deal with this?
OK, now I'm going to shame your dad. Not allowing you to go to the hospital for a possible concussin because you did this yourself is criminal. That said, high schoolers out drinking is always a mistake, but I should talk, I was one myself who did that. The other, much bigger criminal act was by the one who slipped something into your drink. I hope you are OK.
You ARE allowed, by law, to seek medical assistance. If you do go to the ER, ask for an exam to determine if you were sexually assaulted. If you were drugged, you are the victim of a crime. You DID NOT "do this to yourself".
Your father cannot prevent you from getting medical attention.
If you're old enough, get away from these people.
I'm not sure what you mean by "shunned." Are you kicked out of the family or grounded?
I see that you are 18, so here are my suggestions.
First, you take your adult self to the doctor if you need medical attention.
Next, if your dad is always that mean, you start saving your money and move out.
Third, try to be more careful when you are drinking. Keep your eye on your drink at all times. Know when enough is enough so you don't black out and get hurt.
Ok, you're well young enough to be my daughter. I might be upset depending on who you were hanging out with but you're still a baby in my eyes and going to be subjected to the world.
I would've taken you to the ER to make sure you're ok. Concussions are no joke.
It takes no time at all to "dose" a drink. It happened to me once, thankfully didn't hit my head but it messed my night up.
Please be careful and take this as a lesson of caution. I'm sorry you're having salt added to your wounds by those who should be watching out for your well being.
Welcome to the club. I’m 52 and have blacked out many times. It happened just a few weeks ago with others in the same state of drunkenness. Don’t let it bother you, shake it off and move on. Wait, what? Do you know that someone roofied your drink? Were you raped? How did you get home? A visit to the hospital may be the best thing for your foot and maybe a drug test along with a rape kit.
Um, this is just my opinion, but...
I hope this is helpful.
I agree with IAMGROOT, you were the victim, since when is it not OK for a female to celebrate and expect not to be assauted? The shame is on the ones who did this to you and the ones who would deny you care. At the very least Id say a rape kit is in order BUT they have a backlog of those sitting on shelves unprocessed years down the road. We live in a corrupt society. You have my sincerest sympathies but you have nothing to be ashamed of. Hold your head high!
P.S. THere is a new fingernail polish developed that all you have to do is dip your finger in your drink and it will change color if there are drugs in the drink. I don't know if this is out on the market yet but I know I got roofied and if they had had this I would have been wearing it to be sure. Maybe look into availability for future outings. Also you are one of our own, we will always support you.
What on earth do you think was a mistake here? Celebrating senior prom? Drinking? Do you think all your friends were also making mistakes then. I don't think so. Not sure what the drinking age is where you are but here 18 is old enough to vote, to marry, to die for your country to buy booze and certainly to drink it. And if you had drank too much and passed out from over indulgence then you wouldn't be the first or last to test your limits. But it doesn't sound like that's what happened. If you're drink was spiked that's not your fault. Yeah sure there's some valid advice out there to be aware of the risks, to keep an eye on your drink and various tips to deter and detect those who'd take advantage. However whether you did all of that or not, it's still not your fault. Hospital first, police next and if your dad want's to obstruct justice ask him why he's on the side of the rapists.
Been there, done that. It could have been a lot worse. At least your friends had the sense to take you home. The ankle will heal but the memory will stay for a while for you to see others be not so fortunate with their outcome. It will be a great lesson that made you think about future endeavors and how to proceed. Be ready to help those who you meet later on and there will be many who feel the same way. Get up and get going.
You did nothing wrong. You are a victim! You can call 1800-799-7233 (National Domestic Violence Hotline) and see if they can help you. I worked in a domestic violence shelter, and this kind of thing happens more than I would like to admit. I agree with the consensus that you need to seek medical help, but it sounds like you may need help beyond that.
Someone once being funny put hot pepper juice on the brim my glass when I was at a bar. It was someone I knew and I can tolerate very spicy. Let's just say he can still walk well with a slight limp these days. Call crisis report it, do not be an unrepresented victim.