I shouldn't have to state the obvious, but men on this website who are hoping to date might want to rein back on the attacks and trolling every time a woman says anything they disagree with.
Few women want to date a man who insults and denies everything she says.
In my case, I just block them and get rid of them, but perhaps they should consider their ways.
I don't know whether to laugh or not at all the YouTube videos where one person allegedly 'DESTROYS' another person's argument. Even if it were true, and I I've never found the claim to be true, it would be so counter-productive that it would be something like a Pyrrhic victory.
Unfortunately it seems that having a rational mind doesn't mean men aren't also going to be misogynistic. I was a member of a very large (like 50k members) atheist Facebook group and got kicked out for pointing out some blatant misogyny. Well, not a great loss for me but still very disappointing.
I 100% agree - and have had only a few interactions like this here personally but have witnessed way too many. I agree with some of the comments here and on other threads that suggest that the internet has emboldened people (mostly men, it appears from my unscientific and anecdotal evidence) to hide behind their screens and let their inner incels out to play. This is so horribly damaging to all, but sadly, I am not surprised anymore.
Having said that - I have met more wonderful people here, and more wonderful gentlemen, who are here to have good conversations and community (dating aside). So - here's to the exceptional people out there!! Wonderful Men - we know who you are. Thank you.
As an over-65, this phenomenon is so common.....i Treasure the 3 or 4 guys who may not agree with me politically, for example, but refrain from putting me down as a "dumb woman"....one is so rabidly drumpy we avoid the subject altogether, but what attracted me deeply was his willingness to talk to me as if I were his equal.....so rare!
Kindness kindness kindness ... I strive for this daily, I fail at it on occasion and I succeed at it often. If I were here to date I would be no different than you see me now. I think you give good food for thought, we should all pause and reflect on how we are being and how we can be better. I will make an effort to pause and breath before I respond and perhaps this will encourage others to do the same. If our intention is to be a community let’s be a community to be proud of.
I can understand why you would be offended by misogynistic comments, any attack rooted in sexism is a nonstarter as far as I'm concerned but isn't it also helpful to have those people self identify for you. No point in wasting the cost of a cup of coffee on a date with someone you wouldn't cross the street to say hello to, is there?
My wife and I don't agree on everything (thank goodness - how boring would that be) but our discourse is always respectful of each other, no matter what the topic. We would never seek to muzzle each others opinion as it defeats the whole purpose and undermines being in an open and trusting relationship.
Many of these folks are not looking for dates or even friendship; they are looking for attention and judging from the many replies on this thread, they seem to be getting it. These are not men; these are four-year old boys masquerading as men. Too old and fat to tip over the TV or set fire to the cat, they come to sites like this safely to create as much outrage and havoc as they can. I guess it's better than being ignored.
After reading through the comments here, I noted a few particularly foul things (and the people who said them), and immediately added those folks to the block list.
I will never understand why some people (men or women) behave with such utter disdain for the rest of humanity.
I'm not sure whether it's because it's clear that I'm not here for dating, but I haven't come across anyone who's had the temerity to insult me based solely on my gender.
I've only had one person message me to blatantly seek a liaison. Though he didn't resort to insults when I turned him down. He was actually quite polite about it.
Sure, I've been insulted by those (male and female) who have taken umbrage to some of my positions (usually political), but no one has gone after me just because I'm a woman.
I truly hope that doesn't change. I think just about all the men I've interacted with here are pretty freakin' awesome individuals.
I follow your lead...putting down others ideas, regardless of how trivial says to me, that all ideas must meet some (unknown) expectation by the reader! It has been my experience that even the most illiterate person has something of value to offer!