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Gentlemen, could you please give me some insight concerning unsolicited pictures of male genitalia? I've been on the very surprised & unhappy receiving end of such pictures. I'm far from a prude but to suddenly find the inclusion of a piece of male anatomy that I never said that I wanted to see, is a bit of a turn off. Any chance that a man may have had with me before that, is now gone. Why do some men assume that a woman automatically wants to see his junk? I thought he was an interesting man to chat with & then, there was a picture of his penis. That just killed it.

MermaidSuzy888 6 May 28
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I'd be more than shocked,enraged, I'd find out who and burn down his house. Did it arrive via e mail? Do you believe someone from this website?

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I wish I could tell you. I a man and as straight as they come. The only thing I can come up with is that men always want to se a woman’s genitalia and they must assume weman want the same thing. Or maybe it's a younger generation thing. I don’t know if any guys my age send dick pics or not. I didn’t like sending them even if asked for one when I was single.

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Interesting how being enamored of someone can change your whole perspective about a wrinkly bit of hairy flesh

@AMGT now if that could just work for me ( at least I don't have hair) I notice a lot of people assume I am a man in this personae

@MermaidSuzy888 no pun intended I am sure

@btroje whaaat?..

@Charlene what I said and it actually applies both ways

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Would you believe this is not the first time the subject has come up? If you are interested in previous comments on this site, just did a search for "dick." One of the posts has well over 100 comments.

To answer your question, I have never sent any unsolicited pictures of anything to anyone. I would say that any male who sends an unsolicited picture of his genitals is no "gentleman."

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I think there are men who have a sexually distorted view of personal relationships and the importance of sex in them. These men have been not been able to develop a healthy view of sex and it’s place in a healthy relationship.

That is the simple truth but when it unwinds it gets a lot more tangled

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Apparently, they've run out of ideas on how to attract women.

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The simple and sad truth is that we men are way too preoccupied with our junk! Therefore, we feel like you ladies are too and we are too eager to share. I will share but only when asked to. I was fortunate enough to have a woman completely put me in my place the first time I sent an unsolicited dick pic. And I've never done it again.

@MermaidSuzy888 I agree. Cyber can be fun, by mutual consent.
What gets me is this exchange:
Him: hi!
Me: hello!
Him: full length nude or dick pic.
Me: block, BLOCK!

Was my hello too suggestive?! Nah, actually I’m thinking, bullet dodged.

@MermaidSuzy888 Cyber sex? Isn't that like fucking your phone?

What was the woman's response that made you realize your mistake? Knowing it may help us ladies get through to other guys.

@Sara72712 Well I should add that I thought the conversation had moved in that direction enough to make it appropriate but she DID NOT ask for it. So, she told me that was completely inappropriate and the main thing that got me was when she said if I had walked up to her on the street and engaged her in conversation for 1/2 hour and then just exposed myself, that would be unlawful!!! That got me right there! In addition to the fact that it's disrespectful and leaves nothing for the imagination for later! Does that all make ssense?

@Sara72712 thanks for the question Sara and the genuine interest in an answer!

@districtnative thank you for your honesty!

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MermaidSuzy,
I have to ask. Did this occur here on Agnostic.Com?

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Physically he might qualify as a man but behaviorally he's more like an adolescent. All too many males arrest at that level. It is just another sad example of how the pathogenic process called 'civilizing', overseen by religious and idealistic organizations and the sick men who lead them, is a profoundly damaging process. Some of us can escape and repair and some not. Of the many destructive anti-life behaviors males exhibit, at least this one doesn't claim random strangers' lives.

I have to object to your claims. These are not mentally or emotionally stunted men. These are grown adults. They work. They pay bills. They have children. But they still send these inappropriate pictures to strangers online. Don't let them off the hook so easily. As a man in your 70s, you need to hold these men to higher standards. 'Well, at least they aren't killing people.' Really, hold them to higher standards.

@Sara72712 Oh, I'd certainly like to see them held to adult standards. They, along with damaged females, are what our society manufactures and each generation gets sicker. What passes for 'sex education' cannot possibly contain detailed information about human sexuality. If it did and if heads weren't filled with untruths or complete ignoring of it, this juvenile nonsense wouldn't happen.

@Sara72712 There was a time, not long ago, when some words used today, and quite incorrectly, as common insults had serious, clinical meaning in categorizing levels of arrested mental development:

Idiot - developmental age 1-3. Imbecile 3-7 Moron 8-12.

Advancement of science and over-misuse of the terms as insults caused their original meanings to be lost. The reason I bring it up is that adults fitting into the 8-12 category are capable of literacy; of holding down jobs requiring simpler, mechanistic labor; of speaking in normal, correct language; of breeding; of voting; of expressing opinions based on simple, often inaccurate understanding of sophisticated ideas.

They are also capable of comprising a large share of thoughtless mobs; of behaving like nine year olds in circumstances that call for better and to which their chronological ages allow them access. Nothing particularly evil about them personally but they are very....not smart and severely underdeveloped. The term 'grown adult' is often applied to them because that is what they look like, until that is, ignorant, juvenile behavior discloses what they are functionally.

@Silver1wun LOL! You can't be serious?? This is the best fiction I've read in a long time. I hold a couple psychology degrees. But I still can't figure out why you are defending these people. Are you poorly trying to describe Goddard's theory? That was about IQ, by the way, not age.

Yes, there is a developmental spectrum, but the vast majority of people are doing just fine. These inappropriate men do not have the mental age (or maturity) of a 9 year old. They are just privileged assholes who think they get to be creeps to whomever they wish.

@Silver1wun also, damaged females? Please elaborate.

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they may as well show you who will be making the decisions in your conversations with them.

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I've always found a thorough critique of said organ to be a more than adequate reply.

Kimba Level 7 May 28, 2018

That is an idea I hadn't entertained but can see how it could prove effective

"You really should send this picture to your doctor. Those little bumps and that rash really need to get looked at - but NOT by me."

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Yes,manners or lack of,has killed any potential further conversations,waving around a Male's reproductive organ.

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Suzy I promise to never send you one. Sorry you had that experience.

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It happens - not necessarily just on this site. I also have been interested in the thinking behind it because as far as I know - it is the ultimate turn off for every woman I've spoken to. What is it the people who send them are thinking?

@MermaidSuzy888 Yes - sure does

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It sooo pisses me off..and an instant trip to the shit can for him.

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Just reply with " LMAO ". Then you can move on.

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Just plain perverts. like a flasher in a trench coat. it's hard to take a picture of your 'stupid', so they substituted picture of their brain.

btw..... please if you can report anything like that to admin, and though it may be tempting to say something, it might not be wise to reply. I think those folks might feed on reactions.

@hankster That sounds like a realistic opinion. The perpetrators of this form of insolence are not particularly sensitive of other peoples feelings.

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Men, as a group, online, are stupid. I feel they take the approach volume - send many girls a picture and hopefully one will respond positively. But I don't get why they stick with that tactic, given how many people advise AGAINST that. It's ineffective.

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I haven't got a clue why someone would do that at all.

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I've never really understood it. Unless a gal has asked to see it and its someone im willing to show, I mean you'd assume everyone would be that way. You'd think there would be some kind of law about exposing yourself unwanted like that to others.

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I've search low and high, far and wide for an answer. I think it has to do with a less evolved human that thinks procreation can be thrown to the female like this primitive octopus.
The tiny male throws a modified arm containing spermatozoa (called a hectocotylus) at the female, which will then swim toward the female's mantle (the sac which stores her organs), finding its way inside and subsequently fertilizing the eggs.

Octopi are very smart! Some male human are not.
[iflscience.com]

(sorry that happened to you)

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I do not understand how any thinking male could think that this is a good idea. I'm assuming that it happens a lot as there is much noise about this phenomena. I guess this happens in the wild with birds trying to win the favor of females to mate, but in human settings I have no defense of this puerile behavior.

Like the birds, we are animals with instincts to. Some of those instincts are hard to control and harder for some than others. But we're human isn't a defence, is no reason for instinct to not be still in control a lot of the time.

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Is this happening through Tinder, by chance? My friend quit Tinder for mainly that reason. I have not encountered it on other sites.

@MermaidSuzy888 wow that sucks.

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Second post of this ilk today. I'll ask again: Who the hell thinks this kind of shit is a turn on?

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Did that occur on this site? I think the door can swing both ways on that topic. Before coming here I was active on two other social media/messaging apps and received unsolicited photos of women's bottoms (I don't mean rear end either) from those who I did not even chat with. Spamming became so bad that I left, being that Admin on both sites could not do much about it. I haven't received any vulgar photos on this site yet, but have received a few messages from female members that crossed the line. Funny thing is, I'm not even here for dating and my bio says so.

I scrolled down and read some of the replies. Sorry to hear that occured on this site, and for the most part this site has been good. Is the individual in question a regular member on here who is consistently active? Regardless if you wanted to report him or not I would certainly block people like that, of course the only problem with that is they could just start another sock puppet account to troll on.

@MermaidSuzy888 Ah okay, I see. I'm glad that you decided to stay here, this site is really interesting and Admin has made some improvements. I wouldn't pay attention to what one creep did and possibly turn you off to this site. I'm not really here to date, but I am open to chatting sometime with any women who might be interested. I'm active on here just about everyday, if you ever wanted to chat just let me know. Take care in the meantime.

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