Why are you doubting your believes?

Just let it go! It does not matter now. The only person you are hurting by holding on to this anger is yourself. Your Dad does not care and she does not care. I have learned that if others find comfort from following traditions, religious or not, let them. As long as it does not physically or mentally hurt the person. Let them do it.... and let it go.

U have a right to be upset in my opinion but punishing her by not seeing her grandkids is a little far I would tell her u can see them but any Christian talk or going against wat I say and u won't see them again. She has to respect u as u have to respect her. And if she doesn't then u take the rights to see her grandkids I know ur upset cos she had him baptized even tho u know ur dad would nvr want that. She still has rights to see kids until she over steps ur authority.. yes ur his daughter but she was married to him meaning she had rights to do wat she did.if that makes sense

Some thing similar happened in my life also. I was born in Pakistan. The only atheist person I knew was my Father. . Loved his outlook on life and his reasoning for not believing in . So I became an atheist at age 6. Came to America for studies at age 21. Finished studies and married a college sweetheart and decided to stay here. My father stayed in Pakistan. As he grew old and sick , my mother and my siblings pressured the sick man to find and pray so his soul can find heaven. My father died 8 years back.
My children are lucky. Both the parents were atheists. My ex wife’s parents were also atheists. So not pressure on my children. Both are adults. Both are free thinking non believers.

For me, I am disappointed that your dad’s wife, did not honor your dad, by allowing him to exist as he believed! We don’t own each other and the greatest gift we can give one another is respect for who we are and what we believe? It can still not be our choice! Obviously, the wife was fearful that her husband might be in danger of going to ‘hell!’ How short sighted on her part! She cannot save a single person from ‘hell,’ if there was one! If your relationship has had some kindly moments over time, I would chalk the baptism up to ignorance and enjoy the now! Religion is dividing us up into unforgiving parts...are we not more than this?

Personally I wouldn't be upset. I try to have no discontent for religious people. To each his own. If it made her feel good then allow it and respect it. According to the "bible" etc a person has to make a self proclaimed repentance etc. Your father didn't do this on his own free will? So even if Christianity were true it wouldn't matter. But who cares. So many of us non believers have so much hate in us for religious sects that we live a sad life, never truly happy, always angry. I want to respect everyone's beliefs. Regardless if they respect mine. It makes life good.

It happened to my mum, she was and still is in care, our aunt did some nonsense over her knowing she is Jewish and disagrees with her belief. I told her daughter this was overstepping my mum,s rights! I had a twinge for a week but it dissolved, l give it a grain of sand in importance ,this is helpful to assign to crap in our lives.

No harm no foul. Family’s are crazy. As long as she didn’t spend a fortune on it and ruin lives then it seems like it’s a, “it is what it is,” situation.

I don’t think you were wrong, but being angry served no purpose.

My advice would be to let it go. It's a meaningless moment of time in the totality of your father's life. If nothing else, this serves as a good example in terms of why people should put their final wishes to paper. Had your dad done that - i.e., specifically stated that he didn't want to be baptized - it wouldn't have happened. This is the final decision that most people will make - what should be done as they're dying and after they die. If it matters, to me it doesn't, put it in writing.

I can see why you are upset but it is totally meaningless so I would let it go.
I was baptised as a baby and the date and name of the minister is written on my birth certificate.

I have seen advertised "depabtism certificates" but what's the point , it's a load of nonsense anyway.

Passive-Agressive?

Not at all I have cut many people out of my life for pushing their delusional beliefs. Those types are rude, arrogant, and a royal pain in the ass causing far more stress in your life than they are worth...

Very Pissed