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What items on a person’s profile here make them an easy ‘Nope!’ for dating?

Browsing members, reading comments, posts; I found a few with instant turn offs for me.
(Spiritual as defined here- belief in a supernatural entity)
‘Hookups’ listed
Member of conservative groups

Certainly there’s more to weigh within the profiles but these are instant Nope! for me.
How about you?

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I haven't seen these here but for regular dating sights:

  • white guys throwing "gang" signs
  • hats with a straight bill, especially if it's off to the side
  • conservatives
  • guys who say they aren't interested in fat women (or any variation of that)
  • bathroom pics with a toilet in the background or a filthy mirror
  • Shirtless pics where they're trying to nonchalantly flex
  • guys making kissy faces or with their tongue out
  • only having pictures wearing camo and with dead animals. I don't care if you hunt and fish but please have other interests as well
Marcie1974 Level 8 Sep 18, 2018

'Partner in crime'
'Love to laugh'
'Fluent in sarcasm'
'Living life to the fullest'
'Pumpkin spice'

Pumpkin spice is life, ya hear...

And what do you have against laughing?

Pumpkin spice? PUMPKIN SPICE? ?!!?
NOBODY really did that, did they?????

@Minta79 Nothing. I love making people laugh. But if you are trying to sell yourself and you have to list the enjoyment of laughter (what I would consider to be a default setting) as one of your shining qualities, I'm fucking suspicious from the get go.

@bigpawbullets Oh yeah. Especially this time of year. I've seen that in tons of dating profiles.

@bigpawbullets I'm 100% fucking with him. You needn't worry.

@bigpawbullets, @maturin1919 They might as well say "Basic AF and proud."

@Minta79 That's literally in some profiles. And I'm using 'literally' correctly.

@maturin1919 I seriously considered updating my profile to fuck with you, but realized I'd be too lazy to change it back! ?????

@maturin1919 those poor basic bitches.

@Minta79 The most hits I got on Bumble was after I uploaded some new pics and basically made a profile that said I was looking for a real unicorn: someone who commits crimes alone because they're easier to get away with, didn't speak a word of sarcasm, hates hiking and laughing, lives life to the least, et cetera.

@maturin1919 I think I'm gonna steal "lives life to the least."

@Minta79 Nihilist d inbound!

'I love have fun'

Like seriously? You do? That's pretty unique. I've never met anybody like that.


Awful grammar
Trump supporter
Outdated/sexist attitudes toward women (in my experience, older men assume younger women don't want to date them because of their age, but it's often their sexist attitudes)
Hateful attitudes towards anyone, racism, homophobia, transphobia
Someone who has stopped learning/think they know all they need to know

Adding: lying about age... I actually got a message from someone here who I may actually have responded to had his photo contradicted his stated age by quite some years.


Any dic pic
Shirtless pic
Pic with fish
Not a cat person
Hate bugs
Cadaver consumers
Trump support
Tobacco use
Low credit score
Serial killer
Dirty finger nails
Unkempted beard
Prison pics
Atv pics
Anti cannabis
Anti Israel
Sheeeesh. No wonder I can't get a date.

Mooolah Level 8 Sep 19, 2018

So, now list the positive points for you.

@bigpawbullets The opposite.

I'm still trying to process "cadaver consumers".
It might be a bit early to attempt visualizing that.

@Countrywoman Good list, except for your support of Apartheid!

It's not anti isreal, its pro Palestine.

@dellik You mean you don't believe that God has chosen some people to take over the land of others?

I am anti Israel all day everyday...Europeans took over a land from people who just lived there,just living there ,they did nothing but live there..I think it's sick anyone thinks what happened to the people who just lived there and had their land taken were the "bad people "that just deserved a bunch of people who have a religion give them.right to murder people just living and breathing ...


Anything spiritual.
Not liking animals, especially cats.
Conservative ideology.
Long distance
Children still at home or wanting more children
Major sports fan
Married or very recently divorced or widowed
Gun/weapon aficionado
Car/vehicle nut - seriously more than one car?
Misogyny, racism, or any intolerance of any minority group.

@Akfishlady Yes, I meant recently widowed. I met a man who put up an OKCupid profile the night BEFORE his wife's funeral. She had a long term chronic illness, and went into the hospital for a simple illness and never came home. He thought he was ready to hit the ground running, and talk about a crash and burn. He was not clear about when his wife passed and I started dating him. There were still funeral flowers in his house. He wasn't ready, neither were his kids.

@Akfishlady I never heard from him again, and really didn't expect to.

@weldingguy That's a bit different. If it helps you make a living that is reasonable. If you have more than one car just for the joy of ownership, then we have different priorities and might not be a good fit.


Specifically requesting a certain body type
Supporting Trump
Supporting keeping cannabis illegal
Eats bunnies...

Seriously, down with the bunny eaters!


All of these are off-putting for me too. As is any indication of not liking cats.

Jnei Level 8 Sep 18, 2018

Trump, conservative, religious nuts (I don't think I need to explain this one, unless your one of the 3)
Lack of profile picture (why all the mystery)
Profile picture of subject naked (if any were worth looking at maybe...generally, their just not that great)
An obviously unflattering profile picture where no attempt was made to look presentable (arrogance)
Wine snob (pffft)
Weed smoker (pfft.)
'romantic walks on the beach' type stuff. (ew)
Sports team mega fan (It's fucking corporate)
The super athlete (again....pfft)
Too much emphasis placed on sexual side of things. (quality not quantity every time)

@weldingguy Important to me but they are only personal preferences. Some people might find them offensive. smile002.gif


Any religious beliefs, conservative or even worse, reactionary, support Cheeto Benito, inane comments and/or questions, all of which are immediate nikogda (never).

Skeptic66 Level 7 Sep 18, 2018

A guy contacted me, I looked at his profile and found there a Pro-Trump, anti-socialist rant. I politely wrote him back "Thanks for contacting me, I don't think we are going to be compatible, and good luck to you" and he wrote back

"Crap, Your(sic) a liberal Turd" ...

I thought to myself .... What kind of people are these?

Name-calling? How immature, uncivil and totally uncalled for!

k80b619 Level 5 Sep 25, 2018

Those are the type of people I would block from all interaction. Don't need their hatefulness toward others who don't worship the orange anus!!

@Commonsense I remain ever hopeful and optimistic!


A person that post a picture that is of when they are 47 years-old, when on their age it says they are 60. That seems to be foreshadowing about their honesty. My favorite of all is not their post, but when you plan to meet and they tell you that they are married and living with their wife. I have seen hook-up's only, (why are they on here bugging atheist women, they can use Tinder). For me not any statement abut not liking dogs screams "No," in my head. There are men that come on here trolling for women that have, Do you believe in God? with a response of 100%. I chased one off 2 days ago.

My picture is about 4 months more or less,and I've had more than one woman that thought I was not even 18 before,and I am .40


Photos 100% in bars, with grandkids, with groups of other women, and/or obviously 10+years old.
Digitally-retouched or studio photos. Honest photos are vital.
"God comes first, you second" (will god be involved in our sex?).
Support for Trump, or Conservatism in general.

mtnhome Level 7 Sep 18, 2018

Cutesy Instagram filters. Ugh.
A profile that consists of a solid slab of 200+ words with no punctuation.


conservative, too much hair...face or douchebags

ArtzyNerd Level 7 Sep 18, 2018

Republican, Trump fan, religious........


If a guy's profile talks about how much he loves working out, has gym pics, and says he's looking for someone "in shape," who " takes care of herself," I assume this is code for "no higher than 8% body fat."

Emerald Level 7 Sep 19, 2018
  • God-Fearing
  • Conservative
  • Smoker
  • Don't like dogs

"kids still at home" is probably the biggest nope for me.


Can't really answer for the "here" (this site) since I read more conversations and comments than profiles, except for the frequent posters, but generally for other sites:

Photo showing a cross around the neck
Really bad musical tastes
Pictures with motorcycles
Cowboy hats/boots
Cat allergies
Photos dominated with NFL garb

Byrdsfan Level 8 Sep 18, 2018

@AmiSue Woo-hoo! smile001.gif

So what's the problem with motorcycles?


Someone who lives politics, smoking, if they don`t like animals or kids, religious practitioners, drugs, closed-mindedness picking on people for their political ideas.

azzow2 Level 9 Sep 18, 2018

Conservative politics is a huge turnoff. I know we won't get along. I haven't seen "religious" on this site much but it is a turnoff on other sites. If someone expresses belief in fanciful notions like the superiority of anti-vax beliefs, the tooth fairy, the virtue of "natural" foods, their spirit animal... things like that... I get a little spooked.

Mainly I am just plain interested in people. As individuals they are mostly great. When I see them in groups... another story. So I try to not group them unless they really announce their own identifications.

Seeker3CO Level 8 Sep 20, 2018

And people wonder why they are still single.
At least I admit that I'll be a bachelor the rest of my life and have no real chance of any relationship.
I don't find overweight women attractive for the same reason I don't like the way liver tastes. It just is.
I am attracted to long, wavy, curly hair more than straight hair. I suppose that makes me a cretin too some as well.
The thing is, I don't care what you think of me, I don't have anything invested except a few words on website. If you don't like me, that's fine, block me. If you do like me that's fine as well.
Let's just all be honest and stop tip-toeing around political correctness because you might hurt one's feelings. Life happens and these things happen also. Utopia does not exist.

MacTavish Level 7 Sep 19, 2018

Your first sentence pretty much says it all......


A guy hit me up on Match whose profile stated he was looking for a "feminine, submissive woman" who shouldn't "show up without makeup" and that he didn't date outside his race.
ALL the nopes!!!!!

Emerald Level 7 Sep 19, 2018

The one I liked best (hahaha) was "she should look as good in her little black dress as she does in her tight jeans". ?????? An awful lot of "2"s are out there looking for "10"s......seems like anyway. smile001.gif

@YES!! And how many guys describe themselves as "athletic and toned" when you can clearly see 3 chins and a gut the size of Oklahoma


When all the pictures have multiple people in them, I assume you’re the least attractive one.

Curious1 Level 4 Sep 19, 2018

Reading their comments. Rude, offensive, attacking people? Hell nope!!

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