Most? Character.

In a word (possibly two words), common decency

Yes. All things being honest, at this point in my life, I need a sugar daddy!

Compassion and empathy. All good things flow from those, and the details work themselves out from there.

Honesty and good communication.

It's personal preferences. I wouldn't date a non athletic person since I'm athletic. I also wouldn't date a believer nor a conservative because I would have to practice restraint on the daily from putting a pillow over his face when he slept.

Loving each other everyday your together, and missing each other when your apart.

A mutual attraction.
Similar life outlooks.
Not necessarily wanting marriage.
Willing to put up with each others faults and imperfections.
Love of animals.

Physical attraction is the trigger without it I wouldn't start a relationship. If the goal is a "living together" type relationship many factors play a role.

Personality, compassion, empathy, and love. Physical attraction is a smaller piece of the equation as I grow older. Shared interest and values are kind of important also.

Compassion,calm demeanor,easy going,not argumentative,simple needs.

Looks not so important although I do have a "type". Politics very important. Money..not so important but must have means because I can't support him financially. Be kind...be smart...be funny. My ideal i suppose is someone i can talk to for hours and we make each other think...make each laugh...and then have great sex and fall asleep in each others arms.

To be honest, it's not one thing, rather all of the above.
I have to admit that looks to have some weight, but, intelligence, sense of humor, personality etc. go a long way as well.

Wealth as defined by me..a wealth of humor, of smarts, of empathy...most importantly .
Eyes that are Alive...

Financial security is one of the things I look for in a potential mate. Not the most important of course. Sincerity, honesty, intelligence, physical compatibility, non drug user, non smoker, mutual respect are some of the other things.

Who needs a spouse anyway?

Someone who gets and appreciates me....not who they want me to be. Wealth is good but not necessary....just sayin'. And looks. They are important too and health insurance and a car and not living on the street's, and ....oh shit...no wonder I am still single

I want to be with a person who is compatible - who shares my background and interests, etc.

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The answer will be different for everyone....some things that are important can't even be put into words.
BTW, even if you find "the perfect person", there is still no guarantee for a happy future. Life happens.

Most important is easy:

-An exceptionally high level of intellect. Smart gets better with age.

-Close second but also essential: She seeks the right answer, rather than seeking to be right.

These two characteristics in your partner and your life will be interesting every day and you will seldom, if ever argue.

Communication and fairness. Oh and not being batshit crazy kinda top my list! Money? No just help out a little. Looks? Eh, as long as I'm not turned off during sex. Personality? Such a broad and long topic. So many relationships are different, as long as we get along.

Personality is much more important than wealth or I wouldn't have gotten divorced. Considering the cost of divorce, I think that is the case for many.

I honestly believe a great, dark twisted sense of humor is what I look for, I'm not super materialistic, although money is important for a comfortable existence wealth not all that important, looks less important than a rapier wit and intelligence

Honest, kindness, and a fun sense of humor.
I've had money. Didn't really make the relationship worth much.
It's ideal he's handsome (to me), and we enjoy each other

Honesty would be the most important asset at this time in my life. (Obviously still recovering from a dishonest partner.)