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Would you move for love?

If you met the perfect person for you on this site would you pack up your whole life to take a chance for love?yes or no ? No matter the distance?

Wchairgal 4 Oct 10
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Yes. No qualification.

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I did. I am one of the few who fell in love here and relocated to NY State from NH 3 months ago. My boundaries were open-I am renting out my house to my daugher and her in-laws family so it works for me. Our_existance and I are very happy.

So happy to hear of another agnostic love story. Also glad to hear it’s working out for you both also.

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For me this is a definite maybe. I'm old enough now that where I move to is a factor. I'd love to retire sometime in the next 10 years to a tropical climate (I know a lot of members here are in FLA, so that's a plus! LOL!) I'm tied to my current location for several reasons, so if the other person had the flexibility to come to me, should we fall for each other completely, that'd be good. My daughter is 16 and still lives with me part-time, another thing keeping me grounded for the time being. I suppose my answer would be yes if I had the freedom to pick up and go, but where I move to would be a consideration. Not looking for blissful love in South Dakota, y'know?

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How do you determine if they're "perfect for you" at long distance and then it's a "chance" for love?

If I was sure yes, but I've done it once already and I was wrong, so for me to be sure is quite a stretch.

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I have to go with perhaps.

I did that once and it was a mistake. I said never again but now that time has muted that bitterness, I have mellowed to maybe.

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I already have, twice! Once it didn't work out relationship wise but led to a great career and the most recent time it's just great! I love taking a leap into the unknown to see what will happen!

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I'm planning to move when I can and would love for the move to be to somewhere there was a loved one waiting for me. Love could be part of the equation but wouldn't be the main reason for the move. My main reason is wanting to get out of a toxic environment and to some place where my community will be at least somewhat supportive and accepting.

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God no. I like my whole life where I am. I wouldn't trade it for some vague notion of "a chance for love."

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I would absolutely relocate for love. I was in the process of doing that recently, but we have put it on hold for a while. You never know what the future holds.

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Perhaps. It all depends in where, honestly.

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Well I think if done practically it would be doable and for me it would take some work..both parties would need to be willing to make the trek to another and preferably take turns visiting one another.

Then if still interested both need to really ask if they could manage to find suitable work in the other's location and then ask..Ok what's more...practical..who makes more money? So who would be better suited to support then other while they were finding a job?

I haven't done it before but I've been in the situation where it became a possibility so I've thought the matter out some myself.

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I would. But not at the drop of a hat. There would be some preplanning involved. Traveling there several times. Securing a job at their location is important. I would also have a plan b, somewhere to go or someone to call, just in case things fall through. But, yes, overall. 🙂

Exactly...not on a whim, but after visiting, and doing some research, etc. The post did not ask about any timeline...it could take months or even years...but my answer would still be "yes"...

Exactly. This is something nobody in their right mind should do on a whim. That would be nuts. You need to have spent a lot of time getting to know the person, their family and friends. Visited several times and vice versa and really talked about the seriousness of what moving in together entails.

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Absolutely yes!

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good question it takes much more then just chatting online to know they are the best choice. If I felt it was the best choice I would.

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Would. Have.

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I would need a little time to get a manager for my business and get it running efficiently....and then, yes, I would move anywhere in the world EXCEPT Islamic controlled countries or places where the government was in turmoil.

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No.

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I just did this exact thing last week.. Moved from Florida to Minnesota to be with my love whom I met on Agnostic just over 3 months ago. We are perfect for each other and we couldn't let distance stand in the way of a love like this. I had nothing to tie me down to Florida so I was fluid (and brave) enough to make the move.

That's awesome! Congratulations!

Good luck!!! Hope you never have a moment's regret.

One small piece of advice. Get a good pair of boots.
I moved from Florida to Maine. When winter started (October), I was
miserable until I got a good pair of boots. Paying for LL Bean boots was
worth every penny. You'll adjust a lot better if your feet aren't cold and wet.
😉

why is it mostly women who move to be with a man?

Good for you! Hope it all works out for you both!

You realize you are the exception, not the norm ... right? Anyhow, good for you

@IamNobody I didn't realize I am either. I just did what worked for me/us as I'm sure everyone who has done a move like this before me. If it works...or even if you think its going to work, you give it your best shot. No regrets or wasting time on 'what if's'...life it too short for that crap.

@benhmiller I don't know if it is. How do you know it's mostly women? I personally know of 2 men who made the move to be with the woman.

@KKGator Thank you for the advice. Well and truly noted. I have already had a lot of use out of my raincoat and I'm looking for the perfect winter boots to get me through my first MN winter. I already have a winter jacket that I 'think' will be warm enough....but I think this change in climate is going to take some getting used to.

@benhmiller Very good question!

@Hazydays LL Bean website.

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@Hazydays I meant you're lucky... To find someone here and move forward doesn't happen every day

Congrats join the club-didn't know of anyone else - there are a few others.

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I have done so in the past. I wouldn't do it again.

Unless you have the means to extricate yourself the moment things
go sideways, I advise against it.
I'm not saying they will go bad, but you should always leave room for that possibility in your plans.

Be in love, be hopeful, but be realistic. Always protect yourself.

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Nerp. My perfect person for the next 10'ish years is my son. I will live wherever is best for him. If that means missing out on a romantic relationship, then that's what it means. Although a perfect partner would understand that and relocate to us.

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Yes, for the right woman I'd move. But I have family considerations. I would not want to move farther then my mom could manage for a visit, and with her health issues an airplane is not an option, so 6 hours drive is about my limit currently.

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My divorce decree states I cannot move out of Texas while my children are minors. Once they’re off to college, I’m free to live my life.

you were married to a controlling man it seems.

@benhmiller I’m not a citizen, he was afraid I’d take the boys to Canada

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It would take a drastic change in circumstances. My house and car are paid for. Humble as my house is, it's home. My three dogs and all the stray kitties I feed daily would hate it if I moved away.

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I have several times, and will continue to. My career affords me the ability to work from home, so I try to be as little of a limiting reagent as I can when it comes to where we live.

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