I'm the sort of person who has trouble not saying what they think. It just rolls right off my tongue. That's not always a good thing. Learning to nod and grin would often be in my benefit, but I find it difficult to do.
How about you?
I'd say often. I'd fucking be cursing every other word if I didn't. And I work for a conservative company in a conservative state. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a fucking right wing douche nozzle or a TV tuned in to Fox news. I've thought about bailing and moving to a blue state but damn, Kansas needs all the liberals it can get.
I censor myself a lot in general conversation with friends, and what I say in jest is still considered by many to be way over the line. I always tell them if that was too much, they don't even want to know how much I'm holding back. I'm far more diplomatic in serious situations, like at work, but I often still overstep my bounds. (It's gotten me in trouble a few times but, seriously, business owners and managers need to grow a thicker skin and be ready to hear when a poorly considered decision they've made has gone sideways. I'm not big on coddling them, even if they have the power to fire me.)
Hundreds of times a day on all issues, I see it as my way of being kind, I am not argumentative by nature and if the matter/issue is not of any importance, I just gloss over it.
Luckily I don't take any great notice because some of the things I ignore are just ridiculous.
Yes, very difficult. It is one of the reasons I avoided supervisory work for so long. It's difficult not to just say what I think and be direct about it. I am working on it because I want to continue to have influence over how clients are served and staff are treated.
Hahaha! This is funny. I was out with a friend tonight and were talking about this very thing. I really have almost no filter. People have literally said about me that you just never know what I might say. Sometimes I think back on things I've said and really feel a little embarrassed by how inappropriate I can be.
I've learned to but my tongue pretty well. As a bisexual atheist in a conservative Christian home, I have to bite my tongue on a constant basis. But I've gotten so used to it by now it's just automatic for me. It's really nice to find a community now though where I can openly and honestly express myself in a safe environment.
It’s something that took me years to learn. But up until a few years ago I would also say what was on my mind and it would get me in trouble more often than not. Now I restrain myself and rethink to be a little less direct and find a more positive way of getting my point across. I will say it’s not necessarily the best idea to leave things unsaid. But it needs to be said in a tactful way.
of course i self-censor. i find the spoken language a treacherous thing to rely upon only. maybe it has to do with me not having grown up with english - dunno. depending on how important, how dear a person is to me i will make an effort to be understood. that's what i love about this medium: i can keep editing & rephrasing until i feel: yes, this is exactly what i want to convey. but direct contact has its own allure of course. i am lucky enough to never have to censor myself for survival reasons (saving relationship, job, political position...) any more.
From the number of complaints I've heard about over posting on agnostic.com, obviously not enough lol. I really never self-censor and that's only a problem later . . . If I turn out to be wrong. Usually makes for a fun life. My friend's don't know what I'll say or do next and neither do I. Never boring, anyway.