What a bizarre question! Only the most unpleasant sexist hypocrite could answer negatively to this…

I married one

Most men want sex on the first date if they can get it, but most men will not be interested in a long term relationship with a woman that will have sex on the first date. Yes, it’s hypocritical. But it’s pretty much been proven ... whybelae would a man even pose this question??? Someone once told me that Women give sex for love and men give love for sex. I’ve found this to be usually true. I’m not a misandrist- quite the contrary, I very much enjoy men- as long as they aren’t assholes

If both people want too why not

It takes two to have sex in this scenario so it seem very hypocritical to judge her for participating in the same activity as the man!

What a messed up question! The person or persons who come up with these kinds of questions seem to be wanting something?

Hope springs eternal..

I guess my question is for anyone who themselves engaged in sex on the first date — it takes two to tango, after all — who doesn't want to continue dating that person, what their objection is. I mean, I get it if someone themselves doesn't have sex on the first date and is put off by someone who is willing (e.g., fear of disease or don't think a long-term relationship can work out), but when they've both had sex together on the first date, why does that disqualify the other person from consideration for a relationship? Why does that standard not apply to oneself as well, so they see themselves as likewise ill-suited for a relationship? I'm notoriously slow to move into sexual territory but, if I were inclined to have sex on the first date and we seemed to really hit it off otherwise as well, I'd have no qualms about dating more seriously. And even though I do take things more slowly, I don't judge women who are less hesitant as somehow unworthy of my affection or attention. There are too few people I really connect with deeply, and I don't feel like I have the luxury of casting a woman aside for something as trivial (to me) as being highly sexual.

What an awful question! Would the guy who partook in this (assuming it’s a hetero date) also be expected to be turned down for dating as a ‘slut’ who put out too easily? This whole question just stinks of an archaic double standard.

No, but she is not a slut, just not the kind of person I would like to date. Each to their own.

I've done it before. Turned out to be a huge mistake but yeah...

It’s never my business about a women’s past sexually or other wise, and it’s not that women can have the sexual hx. But I don’t care unless they want to share however I don’t want women to be like men..... to many schmucks out there not deserving emulation

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I would prefer not. Never say never... Circumstances would dictate how I would handle it. But I've been single a long time... And never been with anyone new. Not for lack of opportunity. I want to really get to know her first. I want no regrets, I have a lifetime worth already. No need for more. So the answer has to be I would decline. I have declined. But never is a long time and does not allow for circumstances.
Oh, I can edit! Good. I wanted to say, she has to be more than 'Moderately attractive' to me! And that's not about just her looks... There really is such a thing as chemistry. Pheromones or whatever it is, it's a real thing. So, if that's all it is, 'moderately'... I'll pass.

People have too many hang-ups about sex. I think a lot of it has to do with Christianity. I seem to remember reading once that Paul was a terrible prude.

Some people just take a used car for a test drive before they decide to buy it, others take it to their mechanic for an inspection. I think I would be open to dating someone who I had sex with on the first date (test drive), but maybe I should have a buddy bang her too to see if she is worth it.(inspection)

Doesn't that just mean you had a really good first date? I used to get sex on the first date about 1/2 the time. It always meant I wanted another date ?. Sometimes they developed into relationships, sometimes not. I just took it as a very successful date.

Since I've been with women too ... yes, if it was a mutual desire !

Yes.

I don't give a damn about numbers. All I care about is that they're STD free. I'd be more concerned if they didn't make sure I was using a condom. That would probably be a deal breaker.

One step at a time. Taking the time to get to know each other. With Dan and me it was hours of messaging and phone calls. When we met we had chemistry because we got to know each other first-amazing chemistry in social, physical and sexual areas.

In the situation you describe, absolutely. The 'getting to know you' element of the first date is long-since passed, and if I know me (and the type of women I prefer to interact with romantically/sexually) there's probably been some not-so-innocent flirting at the bare minimum. If the chemistry holds up for in-person interaction and the date goes well, then hell yes. And if I've already invested the time and energy getting to know this person enough to want to meet them, and that went well, there's every reason to pursue the acquaintance and no real reason not to.

For a person I'm interacting with for the first time: I wouldn't have slept with them on the first date anyway, I don't enjoy sex with strangers. I prefer to start with personality compatibility and compatibility of tastes, which is a weird set of conversations to have with a complete stranger. I'm kind of kinky and that's also a whole set of conversations that are weird to have with a complete stranger the day I meet them.

I see no issue with it.

It happens, nothing wrong with sleeping together on a first date.. if it's there, it's there. As far as a relationship, I'd want to get to know her more first. Oh but one thing... I would have safe , and if I wanted continue having with this person (or anyone), at some point we would make a date together to the doctor and have full HIV, HPV, and STD testing together.

Most people don't know what they want and, often, sabotage their own potential good fortune out of ignorance - present company included. Relationships are tough and we do the best we can. If anything, I take an extra bit of time chatting someone up and making sure there is a connection while they just figured that I'd fuck immediately because of being poly. Quite a few women thought that I wasn't interested and walked... only to get annoyed during a fight with their new husband and then text me about how I was one that got away...

I wish I could say something useful. The best I can do is just say that it is best to tell people you date about what you feel. Tell them what you want and, hopefully, you'll come across someone that is aware of themselves a bit better.

All the best!