I looked at your profile. I think you are very pretty. One day, when you are ready, a great guy will come into your life.

"Partly the reason why I'm single is because every relationship I've been in was a nightmare."

Why do you suppose?

Do you look like Carl Sagan ?. He wasn't bad looking and must have been fairly wealthy

The way I look at it, is that if you are a mess, but actively working on fixing your messes, you deserve hapiness too. You should not deny yourself romance or intimacy simply because you have mental health or other health struggles. The poor health is bad enough to then isolate yourself. HOWEVER, if you are taking a break from dating, to prioritize addressing your health and self care that is another thing altogether. After my last ex ( a covert "nice" narcissist) I avoided dating for 2+ years. I did not trust myself at all to not accidentally get involved with another manipulative narc. Now I have better boundaries and will not ignore red flags, just because we have shared values/he treats me nicely TO MY FACE, and will move on to the next guy. Buuut the pandemic hit and dating just isn't what it used to be pre pandemic

Sounds like sound advice to me! I feel/do the same thing myself... basic respect is a requirement for living!

Dating is nice but to find the right person is difficult. It doesn't matter age, the look, financial situation or gender.

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I would not call you average looking but I agree with you. Also, you do not need a man to fix your problems. We each have to fix our own problems. My belief system is like "live and let live." My own mother thought that was too undefined and too lenient. I disagree.

@VeronikaAnnJ, well spoken!

I don't agree with the "average looking".. How could some Not understand what you were saying? ..smh

You're growing up... Its hard to shake the past. The attraction to abusive relationships usually starts in the home we grew up in.

I see where your coming from but as for me, Sofia Vergara would have to treat me pretty badly before I turned her down...

I have been in abusive relationships, its hard to trust again. I lost the love of my life because I lost trust from him. I made a mistake with involvement in my job and made a poor decision that is my pain and suffering the rest of my life. I learned a lot from that relationship , but staying single for a long time to get counseling I never did after abusive relationship to heal properly.