True intimacy is a human constant. People of all types find it equally hard to achieve, equally precious to hold. Age, education, social status, make little difference here; even genius does not presuppose the talent to reveal one’s self completely and completely absorb one’s self in another personality. Intimacy is to love what concentration is to work: a simultaneous drawing together to attention and release of energy.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Equally hard to achieve? That's obviously false.
I don't know about the rest of this stuff.
BitFlipper
Level 8
July 19, 2020
0
I am not "absorbing" anybody, nor allowing them to absorb me....are you like, 15?
AnneWimsey
Level 9
July 19, 2020
0
If intimacy is hard to achieve, what do all these things mean? I hear it all the time
Is this not intimacy? Seems like it happens to many people and rather easily. Are these in vain?
- We are in so much love
- We are just like twins, we match so perfectly
- We are crazy about each other
- We cannot live without each other, I'll die without him
- He is the prince of dreams, or she is the princess of dreams
- I cherish you
- I want a lifetime with you
- I cannot stop thinking about you
- My love for you is eternal
- I just wouldn't feel complete without you.
- You are my treasure, the most precious thing in my life
- You are my soulmate
- In all my life, I never believed I'd find a love like yours
- You're just like a fine wine...my eyes could drink you in all night
- Nothing else matters but us together forever, nothing!
- I just want to be in your arms forever, and let the world drift away
- We are inseparable
I can understand that this may not be intimacy:
- I made you tacos
- I don't need any dessert, I have you
Intimacy only means personal closeness. Nothing more. I have heard wild definitions of intimacy from people here that go beyond romantic novels and fairy tales. Btw, trust is not important to have intimacy. Passion can and does override the lack of it for many people. Trust is just some people's own definition.
St-Sinner
Level 9
July 18, 2020
2
“True intimacy is a human constant.”
I have had little to no intimacy for the better part of 3 years.
I may be missing your point but I see no “constant”.
Davekp
Level 8
July 18, 2020
1
@Allamanda He said true intimacy is a constant. It isn't. It is dependent on having another to be intimate with. There are many solo, lonely people on this site, as an example. He didn't say the NEED for true intimacy is constant. That would have been a very different statement.
But 2 points.. 1) Why would you assume I am talking about sex? And.. 2) why are you assuming you know what he is thinking enough to answer for him?
Intimacy means different things to different people, but to me intimacy is a meeting of minds in a very personal way. When I can trust my partner wholly and completely with my deepest darkest secrets and know that he will understand and vice versa. It has nothing to do with sex, it is mental and emotional.
HippieChick58
Level 9
July 18, 2020
4
@Allamanda I did not read thoroughly, I have a distraction today, grandchild visiting. I will edit, thank you!
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