I'm about to turn 41in April and I've been unhappy in my marriage for eighteen years. We now have an open marriage but even though she doesn't want a divorce and I don't want to live with out my kids I feel so depressed that I have allowed this to go on for so long. I miss being in love and I don't think I will ever be in love again so I've decided to just file for divorce. I'm just tired of feeling dead inside.
Fight like hell for joint custody. I slept on the couch for a year before we worked that out. You aren't doing you or your kids much good hanging on when nothing is going to fix itself.Treat her with respect in front of the kids, find a place you (or she) can move out to and joint parent. Been there, done that. Bottom line -you or her don't matter, the kids do. Treat your kids right (they aren't weapons or bargaining chips)and don't dump on their mother and thngs will work themselves out. Good luck!
I can empathize with you. In my last marriage, I lost my identity and was a constant miserable person. Since we've made the decision to go our separate ways I am starting to find happiness again. I didn't realize how far out touch I had gotten. I feel that now, I may be over compensating in an attempt to find out who I am and what I really want outta life at this point. Hopefully, real soon, I can find some balance and reconnect with my family after losing touch during my marriage.