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Not looking for pity or sympathy, but this will be my 3rd Valentine's Day without a girlfriend...even though I am talking to someone on this site.

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Best wishes for that new connection!

UUNJ Level 8 Feb 14, 2019

Get a membership on a swinger s site! I can suggest some.

zesty Level 7 Feb 14, 2019

I've been single for about 10 years. It will grow on you, I say this to you with absolute kindness of heart. Be yourself, be your best friend, be your advocate, be the champion you want in your life, and love yourself first. Be a complete person. Then if she doesn't come along you're not missing anything. If she does come along you will be a better prospect. Once you figure out you don't "need" her you'll be better off. Neediness is not attractive.


11 years for me and they’ve been the best years of my life. Perception is everything. Being okay with being single has taken some work but it’s been so worth it. Now I feel like I can share my life without feeling like I’d loose myself like I did before. Good luck with your new friend hope it works for you both.

DiThor Level 6 Feb 14, 2019

How long have you been talking? Are you saying the right things? Why don’t we know more about this?


Pity, sympathy....can't give ya. Empathy?


You must realize you're "among friends" who've spent more than 3 Valentines alone. It's when you stop looking at it that way that you'll be "found"....just work on being in love with yourself. Do some positive self-talk. Read some self-help books.

Ken Keyes Jr. was (deceased) my mentor. Google his books. They're easy, fast, logical reading.

Here's some basics from Ken.


Robecology Level 8 Feb 14, 2019

Hell, I haven't had one since 2013 when I was still married, and even that was questionable! It's just another day and can only bum you out if you let it. Good luck with your new friend!

dkp93 Level 7 Feb 14, 2019

Good for you!

moonmaid Level 8 Feb 14, 2019

Well you are doing better than most.

Mooolah Level 8 Feb 14, 2019

10 yrs for me 😟

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