Imagine yourself in that relationship 5 years down the road and usually the negatives are so apparent you can become relieved it is over. I was relieved about my last one because it was impossible but grieved because some of it was so special. My granddaughter said, the most effective way to get over someone is to get under another but I think that could be a dangerous solution for a female.

Even though I was the one who had to file for divorce, and technically ended the marriage I suppose, it's been the hardest thing I've ever been through. I think the most important thing anyone has said to me was that it's ok to grieve. Time makes it easier. Taking each day as it comes. Being mindful of your feelings. Acknowledge them, allow yourself space to experience them, then let them go and move on with the day.

In my experience, losing a relationship that is close to your heart is almost as painful as the death of a close friend, you go through the five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally (hopefully) acceptance. But the scar will always remain, memories may bring a smile, but they may also bring tears. Only time softens the blow.

I was shocked when my wife decided to separate. I still love her dearly and have known her for 20yrs. I will do things together with her but she moved on and has a new boyfriend. We have a daughter and we all go out to dine together as often as possible. This has caused me a lot of deep pain but getting along and being able to see my daughter often has made a difference. Now it is time for me to get a new girlfriend which will not be easy but I have to move on with my life. I wonder how hard it is to find an agnostic or atheist girlfriend.

Set it free

relationships are different . if it was a relationship where you've had children together , you're going to need to part and still remain civil to one another. If it was a relationship that just involve two people, I would recommend the no contact rule. Give yourself time to grieve, but then just let go. No talking ,no texting, no stalking on social media. You'll never heal if you keep breaking open that wound by being curious about your ex .

Time and the grieving process.

Not sure.Im going through the same thing.

On the other hand, if it pains, then you know you're still alive!

The profound pain comes not from the parting but the re-starting - re-starting to re-evaluate, redetermine, recalculate, research, regurgitate, re-establish, regroup, retrieve, resmile, resile, rebelieve, restore, ... My what a lot of rehashing is required to return to rationality.
Looks like I got into a re-rut there. I need an 'S' - SMILE.

It's a grieving process. I allow myself to feel the pain and cry. I've been going through this too. I use my therapist also.