Hello everyone! I lost my husband to cancer 5 years ago and im still a mess. I don't have any close friends who are in my situation. I never realized, or even thought of, the far ranging effects of losing a loved one would have.
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psycheworks
Level 8
Nov 17, 2018
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It seems to me that your widows/widowers MeetUp group is your best bet.
After my wife died (6 years ago) I found grief support groups at hospitals where they talked about what they were feeling and why. I knew what I was feeling and why so those groups weren't helpful to me. Hearing their stories and telling mine only made me sadder. Looking forward was the way toward healing. Looking back at the tragedy only kept me in my current, painful chapter of my life. I needed to look forward to the next, happier chapter.
I think reconstructing a new, single life is the way out of the grieving pit.
dare2dream
Level 7
Nov 17, 2018
1
You will find understanding, sympathy, open ears and heart and if you want it - advice in this community. We have all experienced our own unique loss and yet we also find comfort in sharing aspects and supporting one another. welcome to the group
bookofmorons
Level 9
Nov 17, 2018
2
Thank you
I have nothing to offer except my hope that one day that you can find the proverbial lining to dark cloud,and remember that those of us who have gone through that traumatic experience as well will offer any support that you need?.
WayneDalton
Level 8
Nov 17, 2018
2
You are certainly not alone my dear....at least not on this site. I too lost my husband to cancer...eight years ago, last weekend was the anniversary. Have you anyone you can talk to in your locality about coping with your grief? I am British, and here we have some groups which people who are grieving can join such as Cruse Bereavement Care. Although your friends may not be in the same position, thankfully for them, nevertheless they may be good listeners and could be willing to listen to you if you let them know that you are struggling. What about family...you don’t say ? Any concerns you have you can confide in us, and if we can offer any help or support we will. ?
Marionville
Level 10
Nov 17, 2018
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I live alone with no kids. My parents are in their eighties and live 5 hours from me. The rest of my family are in another state. I recently joined a Meetup here in Raleigh for widows and widowers .I'm hoping that's going to help as well. They don't have very many meetings the the first one is December 2nd. I'll let everybody know how it goes, and if it's worth it for them to try if they haven't.
Very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. I lost mine in June of this year, and it is a very hard to learn how to be alone. This site has a lot of wonderful people who show compassion and empathy. It helps to share ones grief with others who understand. I hope you will come often and share your thoughts
Redheadedgammy
Level 9
Nov 17, 2018
1
condolences.
TheDoubter
Level 9
Nov 17, 2018
2
Thank you. I remember how difficult it was at 3 years out. Hope you stay strong.
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