I doubt that christians have "comfort". If they did they would not "scream" so much and so loud about how happy they are. You find comfort everywhere. Start with being grateful for what you have everyday no matter how small it is.

I think many confuse spiritualism with ESP, something we all have and use to various degrees.

Christian's have "comfort"? As in, an all-powerful entity taking care of them? ROFLMAO!

My dog, Cecil, helps a lot. It also helps to be strong mentally and emotionally. Some days that is easier said than done. Message me anytime, I am happy to have new, like-minded friends who are also decent, thinking human beings.

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I find my comfort and happiness in doing good to others. I enjoy volunteering to help the needy, or being of assistance to my friends and relatives, and just doing common courtesies like opening doors for people. I also like to feed and pet animals. I have rejected the mythology of religion, but its ethics are sometimes worth keeping. My life motto is, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." That makes me happy and gives me comfort.

Comfort is the music the human instrument has the potential to play. But as with any other instrument, making something that sounds like music requires lots of practice. Learn the nature of the instrument (study evolution). Learn the nature of comfort (study psychology). Learn how to practice (study mental disciplines, such as meditation and others). Pace yourself; it can take a long time.

Stop over thinking and caring so much, that leads you into bad places when you dwell on what you don't have or trying to find meaning in existence, living in the moment and maintaining a touch of obliviousness is where it's at. For what other purpose do we need but to enjoy our time here before our matter returns to the infinite cycle.

To be honest, when I can't find peace of mind and I'm feeling lost and alone, I focus on experiences. I'll watch stand up, take a walk in the afternoon and focus on my senses, get lost in a novel, anything to distract myself and ground myself in the experience of being a human.

Or you can stare into the void and get comfortable with the loneliness and grapple with your mortality. That's the less fun way, though.

To me this is a classic residual religionist viewpoint. "I don't believe in God or religion, but I think there's something 'out there' "

Honestly, there is no link between finding personal happiness or feeling at peace or whatever, and believing in things out there or up there or wherever "there". All my life I've heard religious people try to convince that they have some peace or comfort from their 'faith'. It's one of their delusions. We can't be fooled by any of that.

You can take comfort in the dazzling and mysterious gem of consciously aware existence. Every moment of awareness is a miracle beyond all miracles.

Let your mind dwell only on truth and you will find comfort, joy, friendship, love...

There was a time when I took some comfort in the belief in the future of humanity. Events in the past few decades have destroyed that belief, as I observe our destruction of the biosphere, the only environment in which humans will ever be able to thrive and prosper. Sorry I couldn't be any help.

It is a journey that may take some longer than others ...eventually you will realize there is actually nothing there.

The only place I know to find "comfort" is within myself.

I also don't think that christians are any more or less "comfortable" than
anyone else. They just like to say they are.

I believe that things happen due to natural consequences, and conscious decisions made with that knowledge is a wise way to live.

I believe the pendulum will always swing one way or the other, so learn to just ride it out if things don't seem to be going the way you like.

Nature has a way of balancing things out eventually, if you have patience, and learn to take matters into your own hands to remedy problems.

I believe in opposites and that the nature of the world is to fill a void.

I have hope that the goodness of humanity will defeat evilness, some day, with honesty, respect, responsibility and the dozens of human virtues that should be held up and enshrined rather than worshipping a twisted book of tales that show no such path to a harmonious sense of humanity.

I'm an ex-Christian and I was a really devout one. Now that I'm atheist, I understand what I was experiencing a bit better. I experienced a false sense of security. My entire life was wrapped up in my beliefs. My family relationships, my friends, my job, my social life, and everything in between. I didn't realize how much of a life I didn't have once I found myself outside of the belief I was raised in from birth. When I became honest about not being convinced that a god exists, my whole life fell apart. My great reputation as a Christian was permanently tarnished, I lost friends (supposed friends), grew distant from family members, lost my social life, lost trust in a lot of people, and had to find a new career. I'm married and grateful for my wife, but I don't really have a sense of community anymore. I find it hard to relate to people a lot, because I completely understand what it means to grow up in a very religious black church and can relate to the community, but at the same time, I don't believe in that stuff anymore and don't wish to be around people that will judge me for being honest. I feel like a Christian Atheist at times, because I am a pretty reserved and friendly person, but I'm all atheist. People still think I'm a Christian because I'm just a nice guy. It really makes it hard to fit in sometimes. I'm just not a militant or very outspoken atheist. I still haven't really found a true place of comfort after about 7 years of being open about my non belief. But all I can say is, don't give up on looking for a place of comfort. Maybe you'll meet that one person or group of people that can give you the comfort you may seek. Best wishes.

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Remember that Christianity, like most other religions, is all about exclusion and xenophobia; that is where your dearth of kindness comes from. Similarly, education which is innately ennobling, education is feared as viable competition to religious faith/ignorance. So, maybe find comfort in a library or supporting education fostering organizations.

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The comfort Christians create for themselves comes at a high premium. The rest of us--the unrepentant 98 percent--must suffer eternal torment in a lake of fire. Those who find joy in THAT deserve our contempt.

We create "something spiritual and universal" with our own thoughts and actions.

I know how you feel. Great authors have written volumes about despair which, unfortunately, is too big a part of daily life. I've been there and have come through it, So now in my 80's I look back on my life and feel so strong for having survived it. Set you goal and do everything you can to reach them. Know that you deserve happiness,,,and know you are not alone.

"“comfort”-something that Christians seem to have in abundance'
i don't believe that at all.
i can't imagine any worse fate than being a true believer & having bad things happen.
how can a christian father reconcile his 10 yr/old daughter dying from cancer?
those ppl must go thru a hell on earth worse than any i can even imagine.

so which god don't you believe in, exactly? i mean you are entitled to believe as you will, but if you're going to share that info, then you're inviting questions and comments, right? my answer is that you cannot always find comfort. (mac and cheese is good, though.) not being able to find comfort is not a very logical case for spirituality, not that you need an excuse, but since you mentioned it....

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I don't. I drink a lot, but that doesn't comfort me. For me it's pretty much a zero-sum game. I live, I suffer, and my only hope is death where I can finally put it all down. "Dying" scares me, but the idea of being dead offers a lot of comfort. In the meantime, Vokda.