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What would you have said?

I usually hang out in the park for a while midway through about a 5 mile walk for exercise. So yesterday I was in the park and an elderly woman walks towards me on the path as I'm sitting on a bench. She says something to the effect of, "It's a wonderful day today isn't it?". So I say yes it is, and then she continues with, "Thank God for that!" or "Praise God for that!".

So in a split second I'm processing every possible response to that and just muster up a "Yep". Then I talk about how my allergies weren't allowing me to fully enjoy the nice day and a little small talk ensues. Then she walks off and once again says, "Thank God for the beautiful day!". Again, I just said "Yep". I guess I compromised with staying true to myself and not saying something like "Thank God!", but also not being confrontational with just saying "Yep".

What would you have said in that situation?

Piece2YourPuzzle 8 June 16
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I'm going out on a limb here to say that right about then would be an ideal time to just cut a loud fart and smile...

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I would have most likely have replied that god had nothing to do with it. This would have upset her into a path of explaining how god controls everything including our weather. That conversation opens up a big door of ridiculous nonsense.

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Yep is fine.....the end

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If I were you, I would say, Thanks to the nature.

NR92 Level 6 June 17, 2019
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Your response was fine. There is so much nastiness around and not enough kindness. It doesn't sound like she was trying to force you to accept her beliefs. She was expressing gratitude for the beautiful day as she saw it. There is no need for anyone to be a jerk in situations like that. The ones who do are the ones who give atheists a bad name. I prefer to set a kinder example, but if that person does start to get pushy with the religious stuff, I will let them know I am a nonbeliever.
Around here, I feel bombarded with the "Have a Blessed Day!!" comment at every business I frequent. It seems that it has just been the last couple of years that it has started to be a constant thing. I always wonder if it is the individuals who are choosing to do that or are the businesses pandering and requiring their employees to use that phrase. It gets on my nerves, I have to admit. I always just look at them and say, "Have a good day yourself."

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If I have the time I usually say "which god"?

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I normally agree yes, but I also say thank the universe, or mother earth. I'm always greatful for all the beauty I find, so I can relate to the excitement and appreciation.

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God has nothing to do with it, or anything for that matter. You did OK.

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I recall a somewhat similar situation. I responded with " well, whatever is responsible, it's definitely good ".
In return , I got an odd glance - but they said nothing else. Popped their bubble I guess ...

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I probably would not have responded to the comment at all. If interested in conversing with the god-obsessed, I try to redirect the topic. I it doesn't work, I either excuse myself from conversing or let them know I am not a believer. Usually the former.

Deb57 Level 8 June 16, 2019

I wish I'd said that...

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I think we have to pick our battles. I had a woman offer to pray for my son. I didn't argue or even say I wad an atheist. I didn't know her.

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Yep is the perfect response.

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No response is necessary. If she preached at you, then a response might be good.

SKH78 Level 8 June 16, 2019
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You can't go wrong with "It sure is a beautiful day" - just omitting the god part in the reply. "Yep" was probably even better.

I\ve had it happen on an elevator and it was a gorgeous day (I figure nerves played a part in that - some folks don't like enclosed spaces). Oh and once at a checkout - I was told to have a "Blessed Day" - that one just fried me - because I do not want to have a Blessed Day? But how do you even respond to that without causing conflict? I seem to remember looking startled and leaving without further words.

Thankfully it's not something common in New England.

If I ever find the perfect - non-conflict inducing comeback... I'll let you know. lol

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I feel so sorry for you guys. I would literally freak if anyone said that to me. Even as a mental health professional, I would imagine they were unwell. It would be sooo weird in UK. It is far more likely that people start ranting about football or Brexit or brown people...to which I would not care about protecting their feelings!

Amisja Level 8 June 16, 2019

In my neck of the woods if a person says, "nice day" it is almost always follow it with a "thank god and/or Jesus etc. . . " When they interject their god delusion I come to the come conclusion that they are mentally unwell. I will respond to such assertions depending on who they are. If they are a preacher, I'll happily engage with them asking them, as they claim to be honest and speaking truth, to provide testable evidence that their god even exists. I have brought one preacher to tears when he realized he was doing more harm (dishonestly promoting faith (belief without evidence) as truth (things that can be demonstrated with facts)) then good. As for old women - - - unless they come to my door to preach, I will usually respond with a variant of "You are free to believe that" or "whatever makes you happy is good." If the question my answer I will respond "you really don't want me to answer that question" If they press. . ."I believe our world view should be based on reality not baseless faith based assertions that often contradict reality." etc.

It's weird to see people say something like "Thank God" and it's "normal", right? But if someone talked in the same way about Casper The Ghost or Godzilla or King Kong, people would give a look of disbelief or confusion as to think that person is off their rocker.

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I usually consider how much time and energy I want to invest, and what the return is going to be. In a case like this, very sure my response would be very like your own.

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... Indeed ..

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Yuppity-yup!

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I think that’s the right way to handle it. No need to explain yourself to strangers or just go along with their wishes. Tbh if she had been anymore insistent than you described, I would’ve found a nice way to end the conversation. I won’t lie though, I have been rude to religious people who get too pushy. I understand they feel compelled to share their truth or whatever, but I have my personal limits and I don’t let anyone cross them.

HaleyJ Level 4 June 16, 2019
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“Well,” “I wouldn’t go that far” 😉

Varn Level 8 June 16, 2019
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I would've said yup or something, I let these people think that God has something to do with the weather. Most of us know that weather has to do cold and warm fronts and barometric pressure, simply put.

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Normally I just don't respond. Like I never heard the question. Where I live it makes life easier.

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I would have given the credit to the local weatherman.

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Kind of sick of "letting it go".
I'm just going to start telling everyone who even mentions their stupid religious
beliefs, to keep their delusions to themselves.
I don't care if they're just trying to be "nice".
Their assumptions do not require my compliance.

Nor do they necessarily deserve someone being confrontational in return. It is often far better to just agree noncommittally and leave.

@Rob1948 You do you. Everyone else gets to do as they see fit.

@KKGator I have no problem with disagreeing. I just see no reason to be confrontational with strangers.

@KKGator Smack em in the side of the head with a shovel, I'm telling ya.

@Rob1948 If approached by a stranger, of any age, I have every right to be confrontational. I have no idea what someone else's agenda may be.
Especially if they start prattling on about their god.
In my experience, it pays to stay on guard.

@KKGator In the situation described above, if you would be confrontational, why? You weren’t attacked. And, even if you consider the comment God and have a nice day a reason to be confrontational; she wished you a nice day.

If that deserves confrontation, I would hate to think how you would react to other situations where people actually challenge your beliefs to your face. Is that sufficient to start a verbal or physical attack?

@Rob1948 Depends on the situation. I rule out nothing.
I'm so sick of being told to be less confrontational. Why should I be?
I'm not approaching total strangers and getting in their faces about
my non-belief. That would be rude and unnecessary.

However, why do I have to "turn the other cheek" when some delusional
religutard does it to me?
Like I said, it depends on the situation.

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The elderly lady did not specify WHICH god to thank. Zeus? Odin? Amon-Ra? Krishna? The Flying Spaghetti Monster? Is there a deity that is specifically in charge of nice weather or pleasant days? It's very confusing.

I think it was the God of Damn.

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