I don't care what society or culture says about how often I should or shouldn't have sex. I decide what I want, with who, when, and how often. It's been 9 years since I had a significant other but I have had sex during that time with as much as a 4 yr gap in between. I have what I consider a healthy sexual appetite but try not to put expectations on frequency, that is determined by myself and the individual I'm with. So society can go fuck themselves, I determine my own norm!

It might be more useful to ask: 'when did you last have enjoyable sex?'.

I haven't had sex since my husband left me two years ago. Our sex life was fairly active up until the last few months when everything fell apart. I have never been big on sex just to have sex without any kind of emotional attachment, so until I am in a real relationship, I expect this situation to continue and I am 100% ok with that. I am in my 50's and I'd rather have no sex than bad sex with baggage and drama.

Sex? what's that again?

It's been so long I'm not sure I remember even how it goes

This is not what I consider normal, but due to lack of a partner, it has been a long time. When I was married, I would have had sex 4 days or more a week if my wife had been agreeable. Now, at 66, I would be happy to cuddle, and let sex happen when we were ready. I sure do miss it! ?

At least I'm in the majority!

Slightly more than ten but way less than thirty. So to damned long.

Mine is not going to be a representative sample, since it was an attempt by my ex as an alternative to marriage counseling and getting to the bottom of the real problems. And I gotta tell you, "save my marriage" sex is the worst kind of sex.

It was in May. I have a farmer friend that comes to town once in a while. I'm pretty sure he's super busy with farm stuff right now. He'll show up again.

Wait, its been over a year since I have had sex with someone so I am a virgin again! Maybe that's one reason I have been in a funk lately.

I'm pleading the 5th.

Interesting post! And I almost agree with you completely! But, why would not having sex, be a red flag to anyone? Maybe, this shows what is upmost important to some people? I say the same for having or not having sex...’never judge a book by it’s cover!’

If you look at the ads on TV and in print sex is only for the young. The exception being ads for Viagra and Cialis. And they imply older men are all dysfunctional. All of this is a bunch of bunk.Studies have shown that older people who have sex (once a week or more) have less depression and are happier in their relationship.

No option for 'can't remember'?

"I think sex can be pretty great, but sometimes it's not that great.". The worst I ever had was wonderful.

"For me, I haven't been in relationship for several years, so it's been a long dry spell. ". One does not have to be in a relationship to have and enjoy sex.

"I'm starting to wonder if this is something that one "should" be ashamed of.". In my opinion, one should only be ashamed when they have caused or done harm to another.

I truly cannot remember, but I think it has been more than a year. I remember who, just not when. I'm not sure if I should be concerned or not. But I haven't found anyone in the past couple of years or more that I've wanted to develop a relationship with. If I was willing to have a long distance relationship maybe things would change, but such as it is, Omaha is where my kids settled and I don't want to move.

What does sex have to do with atheism unless you were fucked by your clergynaut as a child? After seeing some of these responses and comments I wonder if any of you get out and socialize?

No Vote... I don't get poll by strangers on my personal habits or history. Society tells me shit about what I do, how I do it, when I do it.

good points

Having had a 38 year long monogamous marriage (36 legal) I have had the spectrum. Multiple times a day, years apart. There is no "should be" or not.

You are asking questions I have asked myself over and over: why are there so-called societal norms at all regarding something that is nobody's goddamn business but your own?

This is one area where "the media" is exploitative and intrusive, imho, and like you, I think they are setting standards and making pronouncements about something they should keep their fucking prying noses the hell out of. The only caveat there is, they wouldn't dig into it if people didn't want to hear it, would they?

I have never been one to discuss my sex life with others, no locker room banter, and that kind of nonsense, and I don't want to feel that I'm "inadequate" in some way because I'm not banging someone on a regular and consistent basis; that's complete and utter bullshit.

As far as I can tell from your post, you seem to have a pretty insightful, and incisive, outlook on the matter; another area where it appears society has gone sideways. Or, maybe I'm just a cranky old geezer, I dunno.

And, jfyi, it's been about 4-5 years; I can barely recall.

Ummm, what year is this? It's been awhile... that's all I'm saying.

8 hours ago. Happens every day. One of the perks of being a hippie. I feel sorry for those of you who have been sexless for months or years. The fault lies within yourself. You are the ones making the decision to be celibate. You need to open your mind and feel what the universe is offering you. Become one with the earth and surround yourself with the energy that courses through you at every moment of your existence on this plane. Learn to love all that you see and rejoice in the
fact that you are a part of it all.

Uh, it was over a year, and it wasn't that great.