I don't live in the south, or the US (thank gawd), but it is very difficult finding a black or latino guy that is not religious that is for damn sure. Both demographics are soo attached to the stupid christian faith... perhaps the newer generations will slowly become less religious, but who knows.

Hey! "You better get right with God."

You might have to find one and change her mind . . . . no easy task, but not impossible either. There are a lot of people who do not realize that religion was pedaled to black folks with the express purpose of taking advantage of them. Check out some of the reviews written by people on this book. I have not read it myself, but this is probably one of the more powerful angles of attack one could hope for to literally destroy Christianity in the black community. I myself have had the audacity to debate practically anyone who has crossed my path on the subject of religion, and the perfect mindset for doing so is to be knowledgeable about both sides of the arguments, (know their views, their book), view it as a challenge, and, add flair to it, to show just how much cooler it is to be a non-believer as opposed to Christianity . . . One of the things I use often is that Christianity is a divisive force in the world, it limits its benevolence to only believers, and calls non-believers "swine", clearly a hate term, why not seek what is best for ALL of humanity? Load up with mental ammo and hit them hard, they will not know what hit them.
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You're a unicorn, yourself. I live in a pretty Bible-y area of rural Illinois, and all the men are religious no matter their skin color.

@Mooolah Bless your heart!

Well said. Take the edge off

Yes, my Grandad was atheist and he stayed with my Grandma for most of their lives, they even dated after they split up

I might be able to do that if that partner wasn't constantly concerned about my everlasting soul

I am an atheist woman! We're here! We're here! We're here!

@TheoryNumber3 My wife and I have agreed not to discuss religion or my lack of it. It’s been working for 44 years but even though she goes to church regularly she’s not a religious fanatic. Being married to one of those might be differcult.

I thought you would have said "in 2417" to bring the bad pun full circle.

And within your age demo.

@Barbarabkind Yes that too...smh

Good point ! Regardless of what position one takes , there is still the day to day routine of living , likes and dislikes to deal with. My Girlfriend is what one call spiritual and I have come to rely on me as the source we’ve been together for close to three years and we respect each other’s space. That’s what I believe is critical; mutual respect, transparency, and honesty. What you or anyone is looking for in someone else requires us to live our life in such a manner that we attract that . Just my perception.

I will agree to a lot of that, The idea is letting someone get to know you, if your on a dating website there is the idea of putting non religious. Perhaps giving someone the chance to know you. From my own personal experience I am used to getting in my own way and I can recognize that as a hindrance to someone wanting to get to know you, they might be more keen on getting to know you and the need for the Neon Sign could get in the way

This.

I gave up and embraced my hermit.

@SAMae Yeah but even hermits get lonely sometimes

@TheoryNumber3 I am forced to agree. The mountain does get lonely at times. Must be why I leave to visit my kids on occasion.

The last sentence of this is spot on for several reasons. It is delusional to think that we will find someone that matches up with us exactly; on top of that it would be boring as hell! For most of us on this site I would imagine that being atheist or agnostic is a must and this is reasonable.

I must say that I don't care for emotions being equated with irrationality. There is mounting evidence that animals do in fact have and display emotions. [cracked.com]. ... Would these animals be described as "irrational?" or unreasonable? Being human means to temper decisions with thought and emotions. When we don't we see for example, insulin prices quadrupling in less than a year. Humans MUST maintain a balance between logic and emotion.

@JustAskMe Emotions have and do serve a purpose. I myself have met persons who I just knew instinctually were "bad news". When I followed my instincts I did well, when didn't I usually regretted it. However, I have also experienced where I felt a need to follow along with a group when I knew it wasn't right or rational.

I didn't really make the point above, but people think that just because humans are capable of rational thought that makes them rational animals. However, when left to their own devises people don't always make rational decisions

As an example, the Chicago school of economics based theriu economic theories on markets based on available information and that people would act rational based on the information available. however virtually every investment plan based on that idea has failed... because people don't act rationally when caught up in emotions.

In a simple hunter gatherer type of culture the emotions that we evolved would serve us well for survival. However, when yo9u compare the fear of a dropping stock price to the fear you feel from a predatory animal, it can feel the same, but the risks are very different. You shoudl not invest as if your life depends on the outcome. But emotionally, you may emotionally feel like it is life or death

In short, in isn't that emotions are irrational, so much as our culture has developed much faster than our ability to evolve appropriate reactions to it.

I hope that explains things a little more clearly.

@snytiger6 Yes, and thank you I really appreciate your response and would like to add that there are different types of decisions that need to be made and they call for different types or amounts of rationality or emotion. We need a balance. ... What I fear is the CEO types running corporations who make all decisions based on getting that higher stock price with no regard for how it effects other human beings. Consideration of others takes emotion, not logic.

And here is something interesting. ... If these folks were to apply emotion, perhaps they wouldn't be so ready to commit crimes? [psychology-criminalbehavior-law.com]

@JustAskMe Those CEOs who take actions on what benefits themselves with no regard to the company are mostly sociopaths. They either completely (or mostly) lack empathy, and are usually pretty narcissistic (self centered/in love with themselves) as well. They are NOT normal people.

@snytiger6 Absolutely! And it's a large part of their success!

@JustAskMe Sadly so. Too bad society tends to worship the success of sociopaths instead of those who stive for a better humanity.

Ain't we all!

@K9Kohle789 When people say they'll pray for me, I usually tell them I'll think for them. I really hate that line.

She mentioned marriage on a first date? Wow!

@GreatNani Yes and she has not been married since 1996

@twill that's very odd. And off putting. I am not sure how I would respond to something like that.

I dunno. Maybe she just had an announcement to make........And I was the audience member .
I don't recall responding at all.

It’s worked fine for me as well for 44 years.