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Have you ever had a frenemy?

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer"

Have you ever been successful at this?

silvereyes 8 Mar 25
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Nope. For the sake of professionalism, I maintain cordial relations with the handful of coworkers and managers I don't especially like or respect, but I don't have the energy to carry that on beyond basic courtesy or into my personal life.

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Have one now. Fortunately, I will likely never see him again. He's a trumpanzee and went off on me the last time we talked on the phone, called me all kinds of mean things. I'd loaned him a fairly large sum of money a few years back, and to his credit he's paid most of it back, but I am afraid I'm going to have to cut him loose, even though I'm probably one of his only friends. Don't care about the $$$, whether or not I'll ever get the rest of it; I'm just not inclined to put up with any more verbal abuse from the guy.

Hence the reason you were one of his only friends...Some people burn bridges with their anger, but can't or won't do enough self reflection to see they are the problem

@icolan that's how I see it.

@Rudy1962 besides all that, he's a "Christian". Some attitude for a "christian," huh?

@Condor5 well seems his God has a chip on his shoulder too πŸ™‚

@icolan Similar thing here. That unpaid money makes them avoid me so it's money well spent LOL

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I have a colleaguenemy. I have to tolerate her and coexist because I have to work with her for several hours a week, but I don't trust her one bit and make sure I watch my back.

Jnei Level 8 Mar 25, 2018
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I have an aquaintemy. He's a friend of my roommate's, who is an unironic gay neo Nazi, and I'd like to send him on an emergency trip to the dentist's. That being said though, my roommate has been on and on about how few friends he has in this town, so I tolerate this guy hanging out at my place for his sake. I can't wait until my mortgage is up and I no longer need roommates to pay on this place.

@icolan I'll tell you if I ever figure it out. Mostly he just takes his time on 4chan /pol/ way too seriously.

@icolan
Then there was the gay general who got caught playing with his privates...

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I’m agnostic about the existance of enemies.

skado Level 9 Mar 25, 2018

Good answer.

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Yes. Most of them covet what I have or who i'm with. It's easy to spot them soon enough. It's heartbreaking when you find someone in your family acting this way. πŸ˜ πŸ’”

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I don't have the Frenergy.

Clever lol

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I certainly have. People are just jealous by nature. It was frenemies that started nonsense between me and my ex wife and some of them do their best to get me to hate her to this day. People just cannot leave people alone. I absolutely do not like drama. I hate drama. Yet, I deal with and talk about drama every day. Why is there drama? People are jealous and they just cannot leave people alone.

Drama. I hate it. One of the biggest reasons for the demise of my last relationship; she couldn't live without it, and I absolutely refused to get dragged in.

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Probably. I see things that people do out of spite but I let it go and they usually get over pulling that sort of thing because they find it doesn't affect me much. Had that very issue crop up today. Unfortunately it does mean I don't really trust anyone fully.

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I'm currently looking for one.
Maybe two.

Please send references.

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Yes, but unfortunately they didn't start out that way.

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Successful? No. Not really. The wheels fell off it, in very short order. Thankfully, the mutual friend fell out with her too, not long afterwards. The only reason I entertained her in the first place was because she and the mutual friend were joined at the hip, and I didn't want to lose the mutual friend.

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I just severed ties with one. It might have been more like an acquaintance than a friend, we didn't have much in common other than bicycle riding. For the last year(?), he would bring out the liberal/conservative difference. He'd say, "Got a picture of your girlfriend (Hillary Clinton) over your bed?", or "Liberals are angry. They're just angry they lost the election", or "I hate liberals!" You can see how I just couldn't take any more. His "teasing" was more tormenting, than friendly banter.

He just sounds like a total idiot - you're definitely better off without him in your life!

I can't take all this political shit just under the surface. By brother, who I get along with, and see eye to eye politically can't even give it a rest. It is not only, his lense through which he not only sees the world, but also frames his conversation and becomes his personality.

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I've not had someone say, "I hate you, and I'm gonna get you." I dislike being around bad people, in spite of the adage, "Keep your friends close, and frenimies closer." But, my future seems destined for political activism, and politics makes strange bedfellows.

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Most of my so-called friends would have no trouble throwing me under the bus and you realise that when your ass is against the wall which it has been before and they have.

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My ex?

godef Level 7 Mar 25, 2018

Same here

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Sure. I stayed friends with my angry, jealous Thai married woman supervisors at work who tried to get me fired when I didn't reciprocate their romantic feelings for me. I played stupid, ignored their horrible behavior until the term was up. Besides, since I remained cheerful and didn't react, they stopped attacking me.

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I’ve come across women that have had different ethics to me . I remove myself from all people who don’t deserve my energy .

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In the music business they are everywhere. It is probably the same in most businesses.

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Yeah, but nothing arsenic couldn't resolve. πŸ˜› lol.

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No,
Life is too short to put up with that crap.

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Several members of my family

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Oh, yes. In my profession, I fougt many battles against her, vigorously. When her control freak tendencies got her in trouble in her job, I was conciliatory. Some time later she showed an interest in dating. I did not repond, as I was already married to a mean-spirited control freak and did not want more of the same.

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My oldest sister! ????

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Maybe. I don't know if that's what she was. I know she used me for attention and as a social bridge, and for places I shared with her which she would take for her own, and she knew my feelings were far stronger than her own. After a time, I knew too but was powerless to break away. I guess she became one at some point during it all. It was a very deep personal bond between us. It was a lesson for me.

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