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Does it matter how a gift is wrapped or is it only the gift that matters?

Aralt 7 Apr 10
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Your quesrtion does not matter.

Was that rudeness necessary?

@LadyAlyxandrea It bothers me, I think correctly, when people post things with no substance or value just to gain points. v I value communication of substance and meaning, not inanity -- and it is my right to say so. I do not intent to be rude, but to be truthful. Truth matters.

Dude. Sometimes people just have idle curiosity. Not everything has to change the world. ?

@wordywalt
SO... I understand completely what you're saying. I tend to scroll past the questions or comments that seem to be "for points only". In fact, I've been considering posted a rant regarding this exact point.

BUT!! and here's the rub - when you don't scroll past and decide to make a comment, like you did - you are giving them extra points. So good on you for encouraging the behaviour you so detest.

ALSO - Don't be so quick to judge, you just make yourself look like an intolerant, rude fool. As what seems to be the case with this question, it's genuine. @Aralt is faced with a real life, albeit not life and death, decision to make and is asking for opinions.

Answer, don't answer, do whatever you want. But jumping the gun and shooting yourself in the foot is always a possibility.

@LadyAlyxandrea Hmm - did you even read my post?

Regardless of what I think of 'points' this is the ONLY comment I've EVER made about them and it was to call out someone who criticized the initial question and accused it of being posted Only for Points. To which I defended the initial question (as you did..) and suggested that if the idea was so repulsive to just scroll past.

My full thought on the 'points system' have not been posted so how you can assume to know what I think is pretty amazing.

I don't look down my nose , but it sure does seem like you comment on stuff before actually reading it.

Pedantic enough for ya? or shall I go on?

@scurry I have a better idea

I enjoy reading these little tete a tetes =0}

@Countrywoman I don't look for 'em, but I won't back down if someone is slanderous towards me... Looks like I hurt her feelings though - I think she blocked me.
I can no longer see her comments. Ah well, perhaps it's all for the best.
... All this over gift wrap.

@scurry You totally misrepresent what I said. Why?

@wordywalt Please explain. I will be happy to either clarify or apologize - whichever is called for.

@Aralt his reply was unnecessary. Rude people should get the sticks out of their ass and learn to enjoy the petty simple things

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Does it even matter that it is wrapped?

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I thought it was the thought that mattered

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Sometimes it matters...

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As a woman I love the idea that a man took the time to wrap a gift for me. It tells me alot about how he perceives me.

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I am one that rarely receives gifts so the thought of giving a gift should be really matters. You cared enough to think of me. The gift is just icing on the cake.

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Depends on the person receiving I'd say. A great gift can be given in the store bag and still appreciated though.

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A simple bow is fine, just makes things a bit more special

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Does it matter how you say something, or only the words that matter?

MsAl Level 8 Apr 11, 2018

I find that presentation helps show meaning.
A gumball machine jewelry wrapped beautifully with a meaningful note could be much more meaningful than just handing over a diamond necklace and expecting praise.

I've never been one to wrap things beautifully or say things right way though

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It is the thought that counts. I couldn't care less how or if a gift is wrapped.

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The extra thought is nice. I know my husband always had extra helpings of me. He made sure to consider the beautiful wrapping. It's all about presentation also.

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I so rarely wrap anymore. I buy cheap gift bags, a bit of tissue paper, and let it go. The gift bags are reuseable too.

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Doesn't matter to me and I don't give gifts, I give cash.

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It's the gift that counts.

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Depend on what the gift is of is it the gift itself or the wrapping
99% the wrapping is torn off and chucked away

Rosh Level 7 Apr 11, 2018
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My family has a habit of giving gifts in bags, as we're all terrible at wrapping.

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The gift matters.

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Being transmale, I see gift wrapping a big waste of time and money, but women seem to expect it, even if they simply toss the wrappings immediately.

Also gift giving for birthdays and Christmas is annoyingly silly. I agree with Sheldon of the Big Bang Theory that if you buy someone a gift, that person then feels obligated to give you a gift of the same monetary value, and the gifts are likely to be nothing either of you really wants.

My solution? Before a birthday, I ask that person directly which item (s) on Amazon they'd most prefer, then I have it gift wrapped and sent to their home with a card (all provided on Amazon).

They, in turn, know to just get me an Amazon gift card so I can keep happily buying Kindle books.
But, Sheldon is still right..our gifts just cancel each other out.

Big Bang Theory Gift Giving

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Heck give them a towel with the gift and wrap it in that! (And a bit of ribbon).

I have two sisters who are so particular about wrapping. This year they finally realized my method of stuffing in a gift bag was So.Much.Easier! Also I feel gift bags are reusable and have no problem getting one I gave back.

I also spent one pre-Christmas wrapping gifts for people at a store. "The messier the better!" many told me - "They'll think I wrapped it!".

Only exception might be a ring - and the store will wrap that for you!

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The gift to me. Some people seem to care about wrapping. I definitely don't.

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If you are optimistic enough even a gift wrapped chunk of manure can be used as fertilizer.

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I would be happy to get one in a paper bag - some people are all fingers and thumbs at wrapping stuff especially awkward shapes it is an art to be learnt - so it sthe though always that counts.

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It isn't the gift as such.. to me, anyway. It's the feeling behind it. 😉

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Only the gift matters

ebdb Level 7 Apr 11, 2018
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Doesn't everyone just throw them in a pretty bag nowdays?

@Aralt l bet they liked the gift anyway. 🙂

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