I care to pass on my family stories. ...my daughters have clear minds without the degeneration of faiths to pass on such stories and mine. ....not a grandpa yet but my more recent lovers value "living memory" ....America is a racist melting pot so more distinct stories from my Dutch grandfather neither fit in my childhood wooden shoes nor the Dutch language he never taught me but did speak with Teddy Roosevelt in South Dakota. ....sharing memories now is how we all can be remembered into the future. ....I have Atheist forebears and I do delete faith obsessions that other believers in my family wanted me to follow. ....our science and skills define us better than preacher echoes
Yes. 100% yes. Phylis was a family friend who made carrot cake for the holidays every year and would give them to her family and included us. When she died of cancer, there were a few years without carrot cake. Now I make about 30 carrot cakes and 150 cupcakes and deliver them to friends and family between Thanksgiving and Christmas. When I do it, I think of how much work Phylis put into this and how she included us. I remember how she used to yell at my father and put him in his place when he needed it. I remember the first time my father apologized. I was 24 and being deployed and he screamed at me when I told him. Phylis yelled at him and changed my relationship with my father forever. When ever a friend loses someone, I bring them "Fuck Cancer" cupcakes and tell them about Phylis and what a difference she made in my life and how my memory of her changes me and changes the world.
I don't want to be remembered for anything but to know that I lived a life worth remembering. I want to make a difference that outlives me, by even 5 minutes, because then I will have changed the world. I won't care once I'm dead as I'll be gone, but I care now.
Not really. I sometimes fantasise about the possibility of contributing some novel software invention to humanity, but it's pretty unlikely. My creations are pretty mundane in the overall scheme of things. I am forced to accept that even if by chance I was remembered for something, it wouldn't be for very long.
I tend to derive more solace from the idea of being a link in the chain, doing my part etc. While we may not individually make a great impact on the course of history, in a sense every single one of us really does influence many things. Every action we take, every conversation, every person we interact with, all has flow on effects that multiply in so many complex ways. We are all embedded in the human story and the story of the universe, and cannot be removed from it. Even if no one remembers our names, we all make a difference to those around us, and those differences all add up over time.
No. As a former teacher, college instructor, and staff developer for public schools, as well as simple contacts as a person, I know that I have influenced hundreds, if not thousands of people. From feedback I know that for many that influence was highly positive. I don't care if those influenced don't remember where he influence came from. But, I do take pride in the fact that the influence occurred.
Not really. Just my having lived and interacted with people has changed the world (I think for the better). I don't feel a need to be remembered, because I know the world is better place for my having been in it whether or nothing anyone remembers me. That is enough for me.