I've often heard that I'm not tan enough or that my hair should be blonder. I've also heard that I care too much but I joke about that being the social worker inside of me lol.

Buttercup, you sound like a text book ENFP, like me! My best match loved those fun traits in me, where his steadfastness and discernment helped to balance things out.

The wrong matches for me were either threatened or frustrated by my innate personality (easy going, non-structured, spontaneous, fun loving, mischievous, etc...).

Some of the most frequent complaints I hear are to slow/settle down, "be more serious", be less friendly, or be more needy. None are likely to happen, but often point to an incompatibility between us, and so are useful to pick up on.

I apparently have an overactive libido, supposedly? I'm overly affectionate and demonstrative. And my sense of humor, not everyone gets.

I live alone. So does my wife we bump into each other in the kitchen from time to time. But, there's no one else in the world that I'd want to live alone with.

That I go off on conversational tangents, and that I presume to know what a partner may be thinking.

I tend to move around a lot and talk loudly when I get excited. When I happy, people think I am spastic. When I am mad, people think I am scary. And so on...

Could it be possible that you have ADD, or ADHD? I got a late diagnosis as an adult. Whee! That's just one part of my alphabet soup.

I'm "anal" or "controlling" because I have read about best scientific cleaning methods and implement them as well as I can. I don't see it as my duty because I have XX chromosomes to do all (or most) of the cleaning. Thus, one of my goals is to get my own place that I don't have to share with a housemate, hopefully my own home, but I'd settle for a subsidized apartment.

If/when I ever live with another humanoid, they either have to split the cleaning with me, or pay someone else to do their share. When I retch almost every time I pass someone's bedroom, it is time for them to clean it. Cleaning involves more than just sweeping up some of the crap off the floor. Asking someone to clean is not being "controlling". Mold is not our friend unless it's penicillium.

Don't get me wrong, I don't expect complete perfection, as I live with and love two cats. One has infiltrative bowel disease. I can't always keep up. Some days it's a boakfest around here.

"Too honest" A friend says that I shouldn't disclose certain things about myself, like my age. I detest the games that people play who only acknowledge a perceived gender binary. Why should I be ashamed or "coquettish" about having taken 58 free trips around the sun? I wish all these people who expect humans not to be human would get off my planet!

I'm not Venus of a Thousand Breasts. First off, it's hard to find a bra that fits. Secondly, I enjoy helping people, but I don't enjoy being sucked dry.

There's more, but I don't have all day.

I’m stubborn, resistant to anything I feel is coercive, and do not forgive easily(if ever!). From toxic gaslighting ex, of course I was ‘too sensitive’ and ‘crazy’. (Because it’s never THEM, right?!)