What complaint about you do you keep hearing? I'm impulsive, random, unpredictable, etc. My first two SOs were type A super geniuses (Ivy league families) and my "lack of focus" was a constant source of frustration for them. My wife has a Zen, bend don't break, personality and for the most part is amused and entertained; she does complain about the state of my work space and " why do you get to be the fun parent and she has to enforce the rules?" but overall we are a good fit.