I downloaded a smorgasboard of Anti-Valentine Day's memes to unleash on you guys. Now that I am in a relationship, I don't know what to do. There is just no winning.

Let me start by saying that I just recently met someone and I don't want to be shot down for not doing something for her. That being said, when I mentioned Valentine's day, she said, "fuck Valentine's day". Which is actually what I was happy to hear. Did she really mean it though? I really hate the holiday, I used to enjoy showing my ex how much she meant to me, wasn't the only time that I did, just a specific day that I could justify spending the years budget on her and didn't feel guilty about spending so much. Now, going backwards, it was 6 years ago on February 13th that my ex said that she wanted a divorce. I gave up on Valentine's day at that point and have only participated if I was seeing someone that still thought that it was a special day.

I think it's important to show appreciation every day, but with that being said this is a day to really show it. I've said the typical response such as it's a hallmark holiday, it's just any other day. But isnt it nice to receive something to let you know you are valued? A simple card, a favorite DVD, etc. It doesnt have to be a big deal but to be recognized is nice.

The spirit of the day is good. There is nothing wrong with showing your partner how you care and this is an occasion to do it in a special way. However, I dislike the highly commercialized nature of the event. I think it makes men, in particular, feel obligated and then rated on their ability to spend. This isn't necessarily reality, but my perception.

I ignore it like l do Easter. All the pressure is on the guy to get it right. If you are not showing your love the rest of the year, l don't believe this one Helladay will make up for it.

My late partner and I celebrated valentines day every day. Now I just get to celebrate it with myself.

15Feb! comrade! when I don't have a gf, 14Feb is first wife's and my wedding anniversary...

Haven't really thought about it lately... I'll wait to see what Frankie wants to do...

As a rehabilitated chocoholic (is chocoholics anonymous even a thing?) I love the idea..just hate the thought of running out after binge-eating that much....

But do treat yourselves to something, singles...a dinner out. A flower bouquet - and even a box of chocolates..on the day! Go ahead...you're worth it!

no celebration

I usually dread Valentine's Day and other gift giving occasions because of all the expectations and difficulties guessing what might be fair or balanced. I don't like it when someone spends too much on me, especially if I can't afford to spend that much on them. I dread the possibility of someone being disappointed in me not giving them enough or doing enough. Add to all that, I'm terrible at planning and time management.

I don't much think about it. If you are in the right relationship, every day should be Valentine's day. Otherwise, it is just a commercial contrivance.

Sounds like a great strategy.

For me it is a exhausting week in my lingerie store, but I am not complaining it is my last busy time until summertime.

During my marriage, we always celebrated Valentine's Day. I often bought my husband a tiny gift. He bought me something sweet such as yellow flowers or Heart Jewelry. Going out to eat was too much of a hassle on such a busy dining out day so I tried to cook something special. Cards were often homemade but sometimes commercial. Yes it's commercial but busy people often need a little help remembering to take time out to smell the roses so I definitely miss those special days.

My status has been single for a while, but I did observe when in a relationship or married, in some way. Right now, I'm with your policy of Feb. 15th as the real holiday.

It's a nice way to sell more cards, candy, and flowers.

To me, Valentines is a product of Hallmark cards and intensive marketing. Major objective is to sell crap you don't need, and give unrealistic expectation of what "should" be, so you end up disappointed and miserable, and fall into that candy trap. I'm spending V day as I normally spend every other Thursday, dinner with kids and grands. It just happened to fall on V day, and because it is Thursday it's a school night and regular routine will be followed.

Possibilities, in a word. Single but happily romantic. Best memory is a shared seduction.