I refer you to the 4 Agreements. #2. Don't take things personally. Having been catfished multiple times, I feel compelled to add, especially online. You are not responsible for another person's perceptions and or how they manifest their feelings.
It's totally unfair that we are victimized by someone or some thing and then on top of it, are responsible for doing the work to heal and recover. But, that is how things are, and the longer it takes to come to terms with that fact the longer it will take to heal. The facts and realization about them can definitely suck, but I know of no true way around it, only through it. The good news is almost everyone is in the same boat to one degree or another. We can support each other.