I am a sapiosexual.
This means "a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing."
I like men of high intellect. Talking is sexy to me. It arouses my intellect. I think we are more than just an empty shell. Just what more we are remains to be seen.
I love deep conversations about EVERYTHING. Conspiracy theories, science fiction, good movies, love's existence or non-existence, life, traveling, photographs, witchy things, renaissance faires, medievel times, HISTORY!
I am a sapiosexual, and I have no problems at all with that.
I am probably a quasi-sapiosexual. I'm really turned off by men with small minds, limited conversational topics, and can't even write a full sentence spelled correctly. Unfortunately those are the men who are attracted to me.
I'm finding my own company - and interacting in discussions online to be a better alternative, since it's unlikely I'd be finding a guy who enjoys good conversation at this point in my life.
I would say this is me, too. I'm also something of a demisexual, defined as "a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone" -- so in essence, both heart and mind take precedence for me. That's not saying I wouldn't feel any initial physical attraction, because I have -- but I never see it or feel it as anything more than that. More often than not, it's way more about what they say or do than it is their looks that will pique my interest to want to get to know someone better, and if I click more and more with them mentally and emotionally they become more attractive in my eyes.
I just blocked what seemed to otherwise be a good match on POF because suddenly he brought up "ghosts" in a damned creepy way, as in, "beware of them"
We had been exchanging lovely thoughts for about 2 weeks, and then that. Not "intellectual" At All! .
Been awaay visiting friends for 3 days and come back to 3 pages full of post to go thru Sapiosexual ,sure has brought a lot of interests on this topic and nothing sexier than a very intelligent women who can carry on very erotic conversations with out being vulgar
Why do you HAVE to get older to get wiser ! Wish I was exposed to this philosophy sooner in life.
I sure as hell know most of the current gen needs to have this sort of an outlook early on so we can avoid stupid relationships pitfalls and quit wasting time !
I'm kind of curious about the science of how sexual attraction works. The whole "bad boy" thing has always intrigued me and it seems like scientists are now able to, if not explain it, at least determine that it is rooted in primate behavior and not necessarily unique to humans. It seems like a lot of our mating behavior operates at levels that we are not usually aware of. I have heard women sometimes say they are attracted to brainy men, and even more often complain that their partners were not brainy enough, but I kind of wonder how that would have developed evolutionarily. I can't say in my experience that women seemed to generally prefer smart guys unless the rest of the package was in good shape. Could our primate ancestors have figured out who was smarter? And how did that characteristic rank with other aspects of sexual attraction? Bad boy attraction seems to be fairly well established, scientifically, but I wonder if smart bad boys might have an even greater edge? [sciencedaily.com]